I am 34 years old, my husband is 30. We got married three years ago. In the past year or more he is making it clear he wants to be a parent, even though I have expressed my objections to having kids.
I don't hate kids, I love my sibling's kids, and I love to visit and buy gifts. However I don't have patience when I am around them for real long periods of time. I don't want to carry a child (I have just lost 70+ pounds and am starting to enjoy my new body), or really take care of one. They are also extremely expensive to care for.
I like our lives the way it is. We can afford to go out to eat and buy new toys now and again. If we have any children our income will be extremely stressed. I don't think he really realizes this.
He has also not wanted or initiated real intimate moments for a long time, and when he says he does, he specifically says, I want kids, which is a real turnoff for me. I have suggested counseling, but he refuses to go, saying he doesn't have a problem.
2007-06-20
06:56:01
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