Registry tacky or helpful?

Question

I included a web address on the invitations that said for more info please see the web address

The web site has links to our registry, our story, pictures and wedding details.
Is it still coming off like we are asking for gifts or is it just getting the info out to the people who would ask anyway?

The top of the registry page on the site says

More then any gift we want you to share in the celebration of our love and commitment.
However we would get calls if we didn’t register so here’s our list.

Is there a way to better word it.

I did not put it on the invitation I put it on the website as a seperate page on the website I am not asking is it tacky to have it on the invitation I am asking is it tacky to have it on the website

Answer 1

No - a registry is traditional and expected by most wedding guests. It's hugely helpful to them when they go to buy you a gift because no one wants to get you something you don't want so a registry ensures you actually want the item!

As for wording on the registry page, I'd say "Thank you for visiting our registry. Your presence at our wedding is a gift already but if you feel the need to give us a gift, here is our registry. We appreciate the love you've given us more than anything."

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

I'm doing exactly the same thing. I think a lot of people have misunderstood what you're intending here - you're just including the address of your wedding website, which HAPPENS to have registry information on it. As long as that's not the only thing on the website (and it doesn't sound like it is), I think it's a very good compromise between ettiquette and getting the word out.

Anyone that has created a wedding website might as well include the information with the invitation, either directly on it, or as an insert. Otherwise, if people are never going to know about it, why bother creating it in the first place?

Answer 3

Having a registry is helpful to both the happy couple and the guests.

Mentioning it in your invitations in any way, however, is tacky and considered rude.

The reason for this is that a) wedding gifts are purely optional so it looks like asking for gifts and b) it looks like you're dictating what gifts people give you.

A web address to your wedding site homepage, though, shouldn't be a problem. If it linked directly to your registry, that would be, again, tacky.

The proper way to handle registry information is to pass the word among your family and wedding party. Then when your guests ask what you would like, they can direct people to the registry. It's also fine to have a link on your wedding web page since your guests have to click the link to see it and are welcome to ignore the link if they so choose.

I have to say, the wording at the top of your registry list...comes across as a bit rude to me. I would definitely leave off the bit about getting calls if you didn't register. You could leave the first sentence if you like, but the second almost sounds ungracious.

Answer 4

You got it right, registry information should be placed on the wedding website. That's is the appropiate way of informing your guests about additional details about your wedding, to include, yoru registry.

There is no need for you "explain" that "your presense is the only gift " and blah blah blah, if people want to see your registry they will click on the regustry link, if not, they won't. So please, skip the unncesary explanation.

The wedding website info is more appropiate for shower invites and save the date cards. If you must, then put the website at the end of the insert of the invitation where you are giving directions to the reception site. No need to explain any further and write stuff like :"..for more info" blah blah blah... It's really not necesary. Simply write the URL and the end of the invite, that's perfectly appropiate.

Good luck

PS/ I commmend you for trying to follow proper etiquette and being considerate to your guest. An informed bride is a gracious bride. Best wishes

Answer 5

considering its a general website about you, with all the other info about your history, I think you are Ok...they can get all kinds of info about the 2 of you. you could add to your site links to area hotels or things to do while they are in town so its even more a diversion from the gift thing and even more helpful to them. To me since its a general website that just happens to have registry info it doesnt sound liek you are asking for it and especially since you said it wasn't ON the invite. As far as wording, I would just leave that last sentence off about the calls, it sounds kinda tacky honestly! I'm pretty wierd about folks asking for certain things, especialy on invites, I hate when people do that, but in my opinion (and it is actually an old fashioned one!) as long as the link isnt to nothing but registry info, you should be fine, congrats!

Answer 6

No I don't think that is tacky because you aren't just putting the registry on the site you gave out. You are asking your guests to be a part of the planning even if it is just by looking at what you have put down on the website. You are right, if you didn't put a registry somewhere, you'd get calls asking where you are registered anyway.

Answer 7

I actually appreciate the registry. I give tangible gifts, not money, as a matter of personal preference. I like giving a gift I know the couple wants, but if I'm unaware of the registry, I'd get something from a gift store...

Answer 8

Registry is not tacky...Including it on the invitation most definitely is.

Putting this on the invitation basically says, "I only want you to come if you bring a gift". Please invite your guests to celebrate with you, regardless of whether or not they're bringing a gift.

Registry info should be spread by word of mouth. Let your mothers and your attendants help to share this info. And yes, you can expect to get calls...you should be happy about these, as it is a chance to chat with your loved ones, as well as an indicator that they want to give you a gift.

Answer 9

Cool idea. That way people can shop from home! People expect to see a registry for a bridal shower, so you really don't need to explain yourself or worry about sounding like you're asking for gifts. The purpose of the shower is to help a new couple start out with something, so gifts are a natural part of that. I like your idea.

Answer 10

I wouldn't include a website on a wedding invite but that's just me! My friend did it - I don't find it tacky or anything. Did you include "However we would get calls if we didn’t register so here’s our list" on the website?? It wasn't clear. If yes, I would take that part off! But the other part is fine.