A friend asked me how I felt about certain things in her life, different choices she has recently made. I told her. I explained that I didn't understand some of the decisions she has made, and didn't agree with others, but since I have no authority over her, it was my problem to get over these things. It was my intent, in explaining my answers, to let her know that I was NOT judging her, but trying to understand her decision making process. I was not trying to insinuate that I was secretly judging her actions, but instead was trying to learn from her in case I was ever in a similar situation. My "not understanding" was coming from a lack of knowledge (because I have not had the same experiences as she has), it was NOT just some flipant, judgemental way of shaking my head in disappointment at her, while saying (in a very condesending way), "I just don't understand how you can make this decision".
Now she thinks I've judged her, and judged her harshly. But I don't think I have. Have I?
2006-12-12
07:01:06
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Tonya in TX - Duck
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