My best friend somehow always ends up paying for herself. She is broke (a poor Walmart employee saving up for college). She's had to end several relationships b/c they guy kept taking her to restaurants & she finally couldn't afford it anymore.
How did it become common for the woman to pay? I have asked all my guy friends & they all think if a guy never pays for the girl, you are just two friends hanging out & it isn't a date. I know I'd feel quite comfortable explaining that I'd rather go out Tues b/c I like to have my date nights on Fri/Sat. I'd also discuss w/ a guy friend restaurant choices & suggesting much cheaper alternatives.
Women's lib people say you should offer to split it. Being from the south, the guys would blow you off & that would be it. They would pay. But on a first date, if the guy doesn't pay--is it a date? B/c for years that was my way of determining if he was into me. A casual wanna grab food? He just hungry, I paid for mine. A date he paid. Thoughts anyone?
2007-12-06
01:27:23
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phantom_of_valkyrie
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