Gender Studies - December 2007

if lesbians do it, can either or both of them get pregnate?

2007-12-03 12:46:40 · 20 answers · asked by K. 2

They're not showing all the questions, all of a sudden Kate Lomax is the Top Answerer with 66 correct answers (I don't have a problem with that part), and they're not posting questions quickly enough.

Did they lose their main server?

2007-12-03 12:28:48 · 12 answers · asked by Rainbow 6

mutterhals said this as part of an answer and it really works for me:

"It should not be a source of shame for the accuser, nor should it entail a de facto guilty verdict for the accused."

I wish that that was how it is. I don't know how close we are to it :(

2007-12-03 10:59:17 · 14 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7

Men and women both can sometimes be seen as sex objects, that is the inherent nature of sexuality is it not? But some (prostitutes, porn actors, exotic dancers) go out of their way to BECOME sex objects. Why do they do this? Is it to make money or are they driven by an inner urge of some kind?

2007-12-03 10:15:04 · 7 answers · asked by celtish 3

This is a very difficult subject to talk about, especially as it seems many women posters here (and in real life) have at some point been victims of such crimes.

It is certainly true that some behaviors put women at a higher risk of falling victim to these types of crimes, yet stating this, I feel, does not blame the victim in any way. Just cold hard facts relating to alcohol, walking alone late at night and so forth.

In much the same way people are more at risk of a car accident when they drive sober on a Saturday night in a city centre, this isn't because they in any way "deserve" to be accident victims.

I also think a critical point is being overlooked in some posts, which is that the overwhelming majority of assaults are committed by people know to the victim, rather than random crimes.

Specifically, in your mind, what constitutes "blaming the victim"?

2007-12-03 10:11:29 · 14 answers · asked by Twilight 6

Either because they were drinking, of how they were dressed, or where they were at the time?
This is in response to antimisandry who claims he has never heard of a woman being blamed for being raped.

2007-12-03 09:24:37 · 28 answers · asked by Deirdre O 7

The question was about women using their looks to their advantage.The answerer said he was he was a biologist, and stated that looks are part of who you are. But he didn't explain what he meant.

2007-12-03 09:05:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

..when I ask a question intended to gather some insight into feminist mind pertaining to injustices of sorts faced by men.

e.g.
I asked for studies performed & promoted by feminists showing men to be good. Aside from about three which DID supply information, only insults came back from most feminists.
One of the supplied sources claiming to be 'pro male' actually used several "examples" of men beating women, nothing more.
(Everyday anti-sexism / Michael Flood) Look it up, and you'll see for yourself - this is pure manbashing NOT positive at all for men. If that example is anything to go by, I think it safe to assume the other 'pro male' study results were also man-bashing.

Additionally, I enquired about women's prisons being closed ... no feminist responses there. Does that imply feminists condone double standards of 'punish' men but 'help' women who commit crimes?

Men have largely tried to help feminists - so...?

So - does the silence say more than words could?

2007-12-03 06:46:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Rape and how rape victims (male or female) are treated is something that every feminist I know is Very concerned about.

2007-12-03 05:47:03 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7

Since feminists seem to suggest that an accusation of rape essentially equates to (or at least heavily favors the) guilt of the accused, does that mean that Bill Clinton is a rapist? He was, after all, accused of rape by Juanita Broaddrick. Personally, I am willing to take his history into account (something feminists condemn when referring to the accusers) and believe that he may very well be one.

2007-12-03 05:33:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

GWS. Forum for all of us.
Do folk really care about each other?
Or do we merely post the odd question which comes to mind?
Christmas, I feel brings out the best in all of us.
We think about those who have not at this time of year.
OK.
We should throughout the year, but as many of us acknowledge, this is the time of year to help.
So, how are you helping those who have not this Christmas?

2007-12-03 04:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is wrong with her mouth, and her head in general?....

2007-12-03 03:18:04 · 13 answers · asked by Fex 6

My question is very serious and it goes like this. Am I a rapist?

Me and my girlfriend having been going out for 3 months now, she is 18 and I am 23. Let me tell you about our sex history in case it helps you better understand. She lost her virginity last year in July with a guy who dumped her after having sex with her and she felt like he used her, she also slept with some guy but they broke up because it did not work out. I only slept with one girl in my whole life and it is because I am a bookworm, a geek some might say so I am not good with women in general.

It all started when after going out to watch the movies at the mall, I suggested that she should come and visit me at my house because we live far away from each other, she said yes and we set a date. I had work to do that day so we cancelled and she was a bit upset and I at the back of my mind thought she was upset because she wanted to come over to my house so we came be intimate, but I wasn't sure at that time, we never talked about sex before then.

A few days later I sent her an sms (text message) telling her amongst other things that "I want you" and the reason I did that was because I thought she would think that I didn't want to meet her because I didn't want to be intimate with her and will therefore dump me. We talked over the phone and she asked me what did I mean by "I want you", I gave her a dumb explanation and didn't tell her the truth because I thought she didn't want me to be so forward and she was maybe playing some kind of a game.

She came to my house around noon, we watched a movie and we started kissing after the movie, I slowly took off her pants and asked her if she wants me and she said no, but she was smiling when she said it and I could tell that she was enjoying me touching her and kissing her, I kept on kissing her body and asking her again if she wants me and again she said no, she started to be a bit difficult and at the back off my mind I thought it was maybe a game as I don't have much experience with sex and women. But eventually I stopped, she put on back her pants and she could see I was a bit irritated because she was giving me mixed signals. We talked for a moment and we agreed that she will spend the night with me. I went to the local shop to buy her a toothbrush and some body cream because she didn't bring any.

I came back and we started talking, listening to music and talked some more and at around 7pm we started kissing again, I went on top of her and took off her clothes and then we had sex, there was no violence or anything, I didn't force her to do it but we did, after that she said I raped her, she didn't look serious when she said it and I took that as a joke, then we talked once more and she told me about her ex-boyfriend who after 2 years lost her virginity with him but he dumped her and she said he was after sex only, and then she said I mustn't dump her like her ex did, I reassured her that I love her and I will never do such a thing.

We watched some TV for a couple of hours and at around 11pm we decided to go to sleep as I was supposed to go to work the next day. We tried to sleep but couldn't, we talked a little bit and then started kissing again, again I went on top of her, we had sex, she went on top of me and we did it, switched off the lights and I remember at one point during the sex session I said to her she should guide my penis into her because it was dark and I couldn't see, she did and we continued having sex, she climbed on top of me and again guided my penis on to her as I couldn't see and we did it. At one point my condoms ran out, I asked her if it's ok if we do it with no condom, she asked me if I was sick and I said no and then we did it with no condom, later on she said that she wouldn't mind having a baby with me because soon I was going to ejaculate inside her but I said no, I'm not ready for a baby and that's when we stopped. We talked a little bit and cuddled and she jokingly said she will kill me if she falls pregnant. We went to sleep and we woke up the next day.

Then I went to work and she went back home. We talked over the phone and asked her when will she be coming back to my house and she said soon, she told me that I am a naughty boy and she didn’t expect me to be naughty and to have sex with her and she said something like guys like me are not supposed to initiate sex, but we were laughing about it. We again set a date and she came to my house. I told her I missed her and I wanted to make love to her again but she said no, I thought she was again playing a game like last time and I persisted, but I could tell that this time was serious because she wasn't smiling and didn't want to kiss me.

I asked her why she didn't want to make love to me and she said it's because I forced her into having sex with me and therefore I raped her, I was stunned and she also said that I only want to have sex with her and saw her as a "piece of meat", we talked and I pointed out that I thought she also wanted to have sex with me like I did, I told her that she wanted to come to my house because she wants me, I told her about the signs and signals from her but she was upset, I told her that I won't touch her until she makes the first move if she things that I was using her for sex, I even said that we don't have to have sex until we get married.

She spent the night again and nothing happened, I again went to work and she when back home, she is a student at the University and her school is closed so that's why she went home. We saw each other again at the mall and watched a movie like we always do, went to eat at a restaurant and started talking, I asked her if she regrets having sex with me and she said yes, she wasn't ready and said I raped her. I was starting to get scared, and now I am not sure anymore if I am indeed a rapist or not. I really love her and it hurts me that she is almost always upset when she is with me.

I think what happened is that she didn't come to my house to have sex with me like I thought she did, but eventually we had sex, even though at first she said no we had sex and there was no violence, I didn't force her or anything and she didn't scream and she also willingly came on top of me and guided my penis into her because it was dark. Then I think after a few days she realised that she made a mistake sleeping with me so soon and regrets sleeping with me, I do realise that I was wrong in thinking she was ready and I was wrong in persisting but I wasn’t forceful and we had consensual sex because at around 1 am I remember her taking a call while we were having sex from a friend of her asking if she is having a good time and my girl said yes but also said I am a naughty boy.

We are still together but what happened that night is making our relationship difficult especially for her because she keeps on saying I raped her and raped her emotionally. I don't know if she will open a case soon or 10 years from now, I would like to get this behind me so we can move on because now I keep on thinking of jail, I keep on thinking that one day if we break up she will maybe open a case against me, I don't think she will do it but it could happen, I really love her and I have sleepless night thinking about this and her. If you think I did rape her and I deserve to go to jail then maybe I think I should go to jail.

I would like to know if I am a rapist after what you have read and what I have told you?

Thank you!

2007-12-02 23:44:48 · 31 answers · asked by Sanza 1

I want to give everyone a great big hug! Every single person, I want them to know that they mean somthing no matter what tribulations you are facing you mean something. I just wish that instead of fighting with each other we could all come together as human beings honor, love, respect and cherish ourselves and others. Life is so short, instead of spending our time fightin why don't why try this!! Tomorrow from your own selflessness make someone smile for no other reason than making someone happy. Try it then get back to me! :D

2007-12-02 21:20:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

"Be nice to people on your way up, because you're bound to meet them on your way down". If we all were just kind to eachother instead of trying to prove who is the best, don't you think the world would be a much nicer and safer place to live in?

2007-12-02 19:56:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

im a jr in high school in english doing a historical investigation research paper. my topic is suffragette women's rights movement and im suppose to have 2 or more perspective. but my problem is i dont know what a creative TITLE would be

2007-12-02 16:31:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-02 16:29:02 · 12 answers · asked by ukgrimey 1

on classic television?

Crazy?

Gomez and Morticia had shared interests (fencing) but supported each others separated interests (her unusual gardening, his "Zen Yogi"), they were openly affectionate and expressed appreciation for one another, they never belittled one another, were never condescending to one another, never schemed behind each other's backs.

They each took an active role in their children's rearing and took an active interest in their children's activities.

Their extended family also helped with the children, passed on family tradition, and did not undermine the marriage.

I think they were ideal. Creepy? Kooky? Mysterious? Spooky? Sure. But a loving and mutually respectful family.

2007-12-02 16:12:57 · 27 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5

There have been so many studies on the intelligence of men and women plus thousands of years as proof.
Im not talking about the individual intellegence but the 2 genders as a whole.
You cannot dispute the fact that most of the discoveries and advancments were made by men.
Most studies show that women usually take up the middle ground with the majority of geniuses being men.

Thanks guns fan for the sources:

http://www.rediff.com/news/2006/sep/08iq...

http://www.fmwf.com/newsarticle.php?id=1...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar...

http://www.metro.co.uk/metrosexual/artic...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/educa...

http://www.abcnews.go.com/Technology/sto...

Also if anyone knows of pivotal discoveries made by women please let me know.

2007-12-02 16:01:36 · 22 answers · asked by Dan A 6

What television family from the 50s or 60s (maybe into the 70s) do you think represented a positive, mutually respectful, equal relationship between husband and wife and parents and children?

Which ones are most problematic?

And why?

I have an opinion on the first question, but I am going to wait a bit to reveal it. I am almost certain it will surprise you.

2007-12-02 15:25:20 · 15 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5

questions on any of these subjects if they don't agree with the way they were brainwashed? What is the use of living in a country where freedom of speech is allowed if you are afraid to hear any free speech?

2007-12-02 14:59:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-02 14:55:32 · 16 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4

do you think that men are as critical of your body as you are? as other women?

i wonder if my guy refuses to acknowledge the 5 extra pounds i'm still carrying from pregnancy because he loves me or he doens't really care as much as I do. haha.

your thoughts?

2007-12-02 14:42:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is having a nose that sticks out and a well defined jawline considered more attractive by the media and society?

2007-12-02 14:39:35 · 5 answers · asked by Veronica S 2

It struck me that the cop/traffic ticket questions seemed to ASSume that the cop was male, right? Would that change the anwers if it was a female cop dealing with a crying women, crying man, crying gay man?

(ok, I admit, I didn't read all the cop questions and answers, do don't yell at me if I'm lazy and missed something)

2007-12-02 14:27:22 · 9 answers · asked by reddevilbloodymary 6

to be a mother. many people use the argument that most women can give birth, but i feel that it takes more than biology to be a good parent. and by good parent, i mean men too.

thoughts?

sorry guys, i'm on a mommy kick tonight! :)

2007-12-02 14:26:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mothers out there: do you consider yourself a woman or a mother first? even if you have a career and other interests/relationships, do you still define yourself as a mother first?

i never thought i would, but my world revolves around my son. even though i am in college, working full-time and pursuing my career of choice, i do consider myself a mother first. he is my biggest love.

what do you feel? and why?

thanks!

2007-12-02 14:25:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

has never been married, is not currently in a relationship with a woman, is in his mid 30's, a bit shy, normal looking but not effeminate or metrosexual, do you have a tendency to just assume he is gay?

2007-12-02 14:05:11 · 26 answers · asked by O'Shea 5

Men and/or women will work. Any interesting facts on women's rights would be nice too.

2007-12-02 14:00:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Bush is seeking $28 million to spend on abstinence-only education, adding to the $1 billion already spent over the past decade. At the same time, 600 feminists at a recent New York meeting are calling for an end to the abstinence-only programs. How do you feel about them? Are they a good or bad investment for our tax dollars? Do you know where your candidates stand on the issue? If not, this article....

http://www.womensenews.org/article.cfm/dyn/aid/3396

2007-12-02 13:47:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous