to be a mother. many people use the argument that most women can give birth, but i feel that it takes more than biology to be a good parent. and by good parent, i mean men too.
thoughts?
sorry guys, i'm on a mommy kick tonight! :)
2007-12-02 14:26:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
goth: come natural, eh? so, every woman should be a mother? i think NOT!
2007-12-02 14:30:42 · update #1
It does take some thing special. It takes love, understanding, caring, patience and a maternal instinct. And lots of energy!
2007-12-02 14:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Christine B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you are right on! It does take more than biology to be a good parent. And it's regardless of whether you're the mother or the father.
I think it means that you have to realize that you're now responsible for something bigger than yourself. A baby/child is this vulnerable little person that needs you (the parent) to survive and needs your guidance. I good parent will understand this. There are going to be things that you're not going to be able to do anymore or at least not for awhile.
Even a 12 year girl can become pregnant and give birth to a baby. But would she be ready to accept the responsibility that goes along with it?
Regardless of your age...it's something you have to take into account. Having a baby is a life altering experience.
Also...I think it means you have to acknowledge that you're going to make mistakes. Being a good parent doesn't mean everything is perfect. You love them with all you got and do the best you can for them. All those baby books are fine with all the advice they give...but you can't know what to really expect until you bring that baby home. Being a parent is hard work.
Lastly...I think that some people are not cut out to be parents. It's not what they wanted to be in the first place. Maybe they had kids because it was what they were supposed to do after getting married. Maybe there was a contraceptive malfunction. There is the obvious...some parents abuse their children. Enough said there.
2007-12-02 23:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by *A Few Quarts Low* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tricky. I would say there are some people that don't make good parents and agree that just because you can give birth does not make you a good mother.
However, who am I to judge what constitutes a good parent? They are, in fact, parents and I suspect they are doing what they feel they should be doing, so I guess I can't judge. Some of the wackiest people have raised wonderful people...perhaps by accident. LOL
2007-12-02 22:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any woman can give birth and NOT be good mother. Just like any man can get a woman pregnant and NOT be a good Father. But, as we all know, this is a CHOICE we can be good at it with help from family and friends!
2007-12-02 23:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by shannonamsler53092 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it take a lot more than biology to be a good parent. my mother is a drug addict and has tried to kill me and told my sister to cause me to miscarry when i was pregnant.
being a parent is probably the biggest responsibility you could ever have. but it is one of the most rewarding if you let it be. my little boy is 4 and everyday he does or says something new and amazing.
i wouldn't trade being a parent for anything else in the world
2007-12-02 23:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by L.A. J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with that, I dont think eveyone can be a good parent. It doesnt just take having a child to be a good parent. I think some people just have like a magic to them that makes them different than other parents.
2007-12-02 22:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG....no, just because you are female does not make you a good mother. Cripes. What a crock. Ok, I'm over my rant. LOL
I picked my husband in part because he was such a good father to his children (he's got an ex and we are going to get that voodoo knive holder. jk) Anyway....I digress.
The nurturing part of me picked him, and he in turn has helped me become a good Mom....and some part of me knew that about him, because mothering was not an instinct I think I just happened to have. It was hidden, and he helped me develop it.
I love that he did that for me. I'm a better mother because of him.
2007-12-02 22:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with both Av A and Christine B answers. Y ou have to like kids to be a good parent plus you have to be ready to deal with anything....
Some people are just not cut out for the parenting job..
2007-12-02 22:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree. It takes nothing special to be a mother or a father. But it does take something special to be a good mother or a good father.
2007-12-02 22:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted to be a mother. I dislike children intensely.
Then I got pregnant while on the pill.
We are now so amazed at our lives.
We occasionally pine for our pre-parent times.
I really think that thought I denied my nurturing abilities for 30 years, they were still there. Ready to care for my precious girl.
2007-12-02 22:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by vhesponage 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋