Are you a mother or a woman?

Question

Mothers out there: do you consider yourself a woman or a mother first? even if you have a career and other interests/relationships, do you still define yourself as a mother first?

i never thought i would, but my world revolves around my son. even though i am in college, working full-time and pursuing my career of choice, i do consider myself a mother first. he is my biggest love.

what do you feel? and why?

thanks!

spuddy: unless you have a baby, you really cannot understand. i know that sounds lofty, but it's true. i never intended to have babies, or thought i would think this way...but i do. it's about defining someone else's needs before your own. i worry about what he needs/wants before i consider myself. the title of the question was worded to catch attention.

Rovale: i can see that happening. my son is tiny and i intend to only have him, so he is pretty much my universe.

vanilli: i'm sorry, but i think you missed the point. physically yes, you have to be a woman before you have a baby, but it takes more than biology to be a mother.

i don't define myself just as mother. i still have a life. i go to college. i have a job. i have an awesome co-parent and wonderful boyfriend. the point is, you change when you have a baby. YOUR PRIORITIES CHANGE. i didn't have to keep my son. i could've had an abortion, i am as pro-choice as they come, but i chose this. and like i said before, you don't get that until or IF you have a baby. i could care less if you have a kid. what i find "creepy" are rude people who pass judgement on other women because they chose to be a mother. i know many are sensitive because society pressures women to have babies, but i DON'T CARE. i would never pressure someone who doesn't want kids to have a baby. i kinda get tired of that snotty attitude.
no offense, but really, you can have your opinion on this all you want, but it means very little to me. by the way, i am not creepy, thanks though for the lovely sentiment.

i put my son first, if that makes me creepy, so be it.

spuddy: dude, even if i WANTED to be like that, i don't have the time or soccer mom credentials. i will never drive a minivan and since both my guy and i are covered in tattoos, we would stick out like sore thumbs. not everyone in this generation is THAT kind of mom. generalizations do suck.

spuddy: you are the one thats defensive.

Answer 1

being female is something you learn to be when you are very very young....being a mother comes about (hopefully) after several years and it changes everything.

I am a mother.

Answer 2

Woman !!Being a mother is the biggest part of being a woman.Sadness fills my heart for the one who puts her children last.Your children will always be there.They will always need you and some day be there for you.Others come and go in your life.Even spouses.Keep your child close and you will never be alone.Give him the world,unconditional love and always be there for him.If you do this you are a woman because motherhood is part of being a woman.We are the backbone of the world.My oldest is 34 going through a divorce.He really needs me now.Being needed is good.I always tell my boys if you need me I will be there.And if a day comes when no one needs you.I will . I am total woman.Girly girl ,cook,work etc. and my sons have been the most important thing in my life.They are still a constant part of my life and give up almost anything to be together on occasions.They all still call me every chance they get..There is nothing better than a childs love.It is unconditional.

Answer 3

you were first a woman and you have your own perspective in life before becoming a mother. You were once thinking of your own being and have a role in the society or community you live in. Nothing changes about you except your thoughts of developing something you can contribute to the world. but once you become a mother your world changes. this time you focus on being a mother and that is a gift and your doing the right thing. All i can say is..you are now a complete woman... continue to do good, bless, pray for, love and be forgiving..

Answer 4

I am a Mother first, then a woman. It's so hard to leave in the morning and know that I won't see him till after work. Whenever that is. I schedule my time well but it's challenging to predict traffic or double booked appointments. (To keep time and appointments moving.) Thankfully I can come home at anytime my son may need me. That wasn't always an option. I love to talk with him. I love playing with him. He is my world. I am thankful for my many blessings.

I can relate.

Take care.

Answer 5

Being a mother is such an honorary word isn't it? I love it! Anyone can be a woman, with the right parts that is.ha. Anyone who can bare a child can be" technically "considered a mother. But a true mother is someone of high meaning...love, nuture, devotion... You can adopt or foster a child and become their true mother. But wait a few years down the line. Then you get the honorary title "Gramma!"

Answer 6

Well I want to be a mother first but now that my children are 15 and older they won't let me be. They want to take care of matters themselves and leave old mom out completely..So I really can't say which I am first..I just know what I want to be...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I would be a woman to my partner and a mother to my children.

I would say that having a career is important but not as important as your family because jobs come and go but hopefully your family will always be with you.

Answer 9

You aren't wrong for putting your son first. That's what every parent should do. Luckily, you haven't sacrificed everything else in your life to do so.

I consider myself a student first, since my education is my biggest priority right now.

Answer 10

It also depends on how old your children are. When mine were younger, I considered myself a mother first. Now that they are older and more independent, I see myself as a woman.