has never been married, is not currently in a relationship with a woman, is in his mid 30's, a bit shy, normal looking but not effeminate or metrosexual, do you have a tendency to just assume he is gay?
2007-12-02 14:05:11 · 26 answers · asked by O'Shea 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I don't tell anyone that, but people at work do ask if I am married. At work, I never talk about relationships or anything about my private life, so I am just looking for insight as to how they perceive it.
2007-12-02 14:28:11 · update #1
People would be baffled, envious, assuming. You would appear as mysterious, and honourable. Others may judge you (not neccesarily as gay, but different) because your situation seems rare, though it is not. People are often afraid of what is different.
First of all if you were gay, I think it would be obvious, unless you were in denial, which also shows.
Second, Bravo! We are in a confining society that instills abusive values on it's citizens.
Most people abuse sex and each other, finding themselves in co-depend ant relationships, or going from person to person, spreading things around.
Most people dwell on the outward superficial appearance of each other, not having a clue as to who you really are.
Others may strive to be where you are at in order to overcome sexual addiction instilled by movies, commercialism, and popularity (insecurity).
You are on the way to having a real, meaningful relationship on a deep level apart from the norm of society. Many are and will be envious of your relationship with yourself.
I see your situation as virginity. This is something very, very special and intimate, mostly abused and taken for granted.
Save it for the one you Really Fall in Love with and who loves you equally in return.
Be yourself.
You know what's up!
2007-12-03 04:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Curlyc+ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not currently in a relationship, but he was in a relationship recently, then I wouldn't assume he was gay. But if I knew that he hadn't been in a relationship for a few years, I'd definitely wonder whether or not he was gay. I wouldn't assume he was definitely gay, but I'd wonder.
I don't know why all these other answers are saying they'd assume he was asexual. There are a lot more gay guys in modern America than asexuals.
2007-12-03 03:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your more enthuised with your career or your own life then pampering some bimbo and having no life of your, nothing wrong with that wish i could be single and living my life how i want when i want, but i got struck by the love arrow, good or bad i dont know but juust keep living and if your going to ever settle down then you will no rush youve lived statisticlly a thrid of your life, you have a ways to go.
2007-12-02 18:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not assume a man as described above were gay. Good for you on keeping your private life out of the work place. Geez, I wish more people would.
2007-12-02 18:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by YourVegasIsShowing 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says that you have to live in a relationship? If you are happy being by yourself, so be it. There are too many social requirements placed upon men to marry and settle down. One should live their life at a speed which is comfortable. If others make assumptions about you then you should take them to task over their misanthropy and lack of understanding of the 'human condition'. Be yourself, regardless of what the obdurate and misinformed may speciously claim about you.
2007-12-02 14:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a 35 year old who's been celibate for 5 years, I can tell you that many people will think that (surprisingly, more women than men) and many will assume asexuality. I've managed to become fairly asexual, no longer engaging even in self-abuse, but I can assure you that I had a quite... problematically high sex drive and it took a great deal of self-discipline to put it in check and redirect those energies. Still, people make assumptions.
But other people know how to respect differences or just to mind their own business. I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-12-02 14:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Um, no.
What does being gay and being single have anything to do with each other? You would have to assume that being gay and being single are correlated, which they are obviously not. If you hit on men, or were in a relationship with a man, then I'd assume you were gay.
2007-12-02 14:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are not bad looking,that is why your co workers asked you if you are single ,because you are a good catch. I think a man who is in his 30s that's not currently in relationship have a high expectation in women.
2007-12-02 14:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think he was just shy or not ready for a relationship. I wouldn't assume he is gay.
2007-12-02 14:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget what people may think about you.The moot point is,are you happy the way you are?If not,do what it takes to make yourself happy.When you are in sync with yourself,rest of the things fall in place and automatic adjustment keeps happening between us and the external environment.It's a natural phenomenon for a well adjusted human being.
2007-12-02 20:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋