Gender Studies - December 2007

1- Do you belong to the group that believes the differences are due to sexism, hence political lobbying is needed?

2- Do you belong to the group who think sexist discrimination has little to do with it, likes to study the reasons why women are behind, to personally break them?

3- Or do you belong to a third, unmentioned category?

I know the gap is discussed all the time. I'm curious how you think we need to go about making changes?

If you don't believe any differences exist at all, don't bother.

2007-12-20 02:37:37 · 25 answers · asked by Lioness 6

Which Festivus ritual do you most enjoy?
The Festivus Pole
Feats of Strength (which one?)
Airing of Grievances

Whatever you do to celebrate, ENJOY!

2007-12-20 02:04:18 · 11 answers · asked by not yet 7

Judging from the puerile nature of the questions and their complete inability to think analytically I have come to the conclusion that many of our misogynist contributers are at the very most 16.

2007-12-20 01:31:00 · 14 answers · asked by Ellesar 6

why do they clog up the roads in these slag wagons?

2007-12-20 01:17:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I usually add folks back when I realise they've added me - but as I'm too lazy to go looking, why not take this opportunity to speak up and let me know you added me... then I can add ya back.

And yes, this is a question :o)

2007-12-19 22:21:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I'm reading a book about the common mistakes women bosses make more than men. The most major one mentioned is "mismanagement of emotional distance." A lot of women fall into two categories:

1- The emotionally distant- Imitating the classic male boss; impersonal, tough and authoritative. As a result, pushing employees away, killing hopes, dreams & motivation.

2- The good mothers- Inviting too much emotionality into the relationships with employees, blurring the line between boss and friend. Wanting everyone to feel good, training employees to ask for more and more, and feel betrayed when for instance, a tough message regarding performance has to be delivered.

Thoughts? Experience? Cause? Anything you care to share.

2007-12-19 19:35:17 · 25 answers · asked by Lioness 6

This is a curious question which belongs really nowhere, so I ask it here where many of you are known tome.

When someone says "I feel" and then goes on to explain what they feel..

do you respect it in the same way you might if they said

"I think" and then went on to explain?

However bright we are, whatever frameworks of understanding we build with our intelligence, do we respect feelings enough?

Feeling make choices. We often put our intellect at the service of our feelings. To me that is called politics.

It doesn't matter how clever you are, or whether you can convince others to be part of the plan. When someone says "I feel" it is a demand to be treated as an equal because the same capacity to feel and experience exists. Even if I may not agree.

Do you respect Emotional Integrity to the same Degree you Respect the Right to Differing Views?

2007-12-19 18:18:11 · 16 answers · asked by Twilight 6

Sorry for the stupid question, but my wife says before giving birth to our child whenever she saw baby she always felt something. She says she still does sometimes with other babies. Being a man, this is such a strange concept to me. Is it really true for most women? Certainly can't be for all women.
I don't feel anything special when I see a baby. When I see my own baby I'm really happy but another baby, I'm just like yeah that's a cute baby.

2007-12-19 17:54:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

that you find you are more interesting than most of the people you meet" Lee Marvin.

Your thoughts?

2007-12-19 17:38:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

that you find you are more interesting than most of the people you meet" Lee Marvin.

Your thoughs?

2007-12-19 17:37:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whats the problem... guys like em, I like em.... and they know how to take care of business. Why is that repugnant to you?

2007-12-19 16:26:27 · 26 answers · asked by Zipperhead 6

Why is it that some people assume women are not sexually stimulated visually? I've stumbled across some people saying in the past that women are only emotionally and physically stimulated and that visually aren't that responsive-- Or even that for a woman to enjoy sex, it must have an emotional level.

I, personally, find this very untrue and know many woman who agree with me. We like to look at pretty things too! I've almost driven off the road in the past to stare at a (gorgeous) topless running man just like any guy may have done for a woman.

What about Romance novels (as one poster pointed out)? That is neither emotional nor physical, and it is pretty much porn. Since romance novels are so popular, doesn't that throw out the "physical/emotional only" myth right out the window?

Is it just me? Or are there other women that argee with me?

2007-12-19 16:18:13 · 25 answers · asked by ? 6

If some women want to participate, why do you want to stand in their way? Isn't this their choice, which is what the feminist credo is supposed to be about?

2007-12-19 15:37:16 · 19 answers · asked by JD 4

2007-12-19 15:07:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it because men keep telling them that this (make gap with thumb and forefinger) is 9 inches?

2007-12-19 15:01:28 · 22 answers · asked by Shivers 6

Problemed individuals with deep rooted pain who are also very gifted and talented.

2007-12-19 14:34:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

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The feminist got angry and left.

Is this yet another case of feminist hypocrisy being exposed, followed by a feminist pretending to be angry?

2007-12-19 14:29:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

just curious. Someone has had to come up with some good ones.

2007-12-19 13:59:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is she such a hero?

2007-12-19 13:56:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it ultimately the mother's fault, because of perhaps the way she was raised as a child herself or perhaps she didn't do the best job she could as a mother?
I can see that there is obviously something wrong with what I asked above, that it's women who should get the blame for a crime their child commits but my point is, why is it always the mother who is blamed?
I wouldn't go as far as saying that it's the fathers fault as well in the name of equality because nowadays men are more involved in child rearing, but why is the grown up child not held solely accountable for their own misdeeds?
Are mothers today being made scapegoats for all of societies ills, besides feminists?

2007-12-19 13:53:33 · 23 answers · asked by Shivers 6

Have heard this catch-phrase alot being used to describe what women unfairly want today, special privileges without responsibility.
Such as being treated equally yet still having men behave in a chivalrous manner towards them.
Am wondering if the other side of the coin has been considered, that it could be said that some men are wanting special privileges as well, by not wanting women to be on an equal footing and to treat women as lesser beings, yet will no longer be chivalrous either to the "weaker sex" as they see us.
Thoughts?
And notice that I said "some" men, not by any means all men.

2007-12-19 13:38:02 · 12 answers · asked by Shivers 6

What do you make of the following case?

A person moves into the city and rents a room after obtaining a job at a restaurant. The landlady allows her niece to move in without notice after she decides to leave her home town to finish school. She comes down and forces herself on the landlady. The woman begins beating and verbally abusing the three-year-old daughter immediately. There are twenty-one incidents counted in less than two weeks. The matter is mentioned to the landlady by the new resident, who has been there less than one month and did not expect this lady to move in.

The landlady sides with her niece and insists that she'd 'cut off the child's hands herself' if she keeps going into items at the grocery store. One late afternoon the new resident comes home and goes downstairs to avoid the chain-smoking, verbally abusive, -oriented and Internet crazy woman yelling at her child. She goes downstairs and begins to work on an art project, with the radio on full blast to drown out the sounds of the yelling. The niece starts to beat the three-year-old. The new resident runs upstairs and tells her to stop doing it, to distract attention. Her cell phone is upstairs along with her uniform and her keys, shoes and purse are downstairs. There are no locks on any inside doors, no way out of the basement and she'd have to return downstairs to get her things.

The niece begins slapping and pushing the new resident after an exchange of words, mostly insults with no meaning. She yells, pushes and gangs up on the new resident, not allowing her to leave. They are located in the front living room. The niece has the phone by the computer, which is behind her. She pushes the new resident twice against a loose shoe rack against the wall, which nearly falls on her. The niece slaps and threatens to kill the new resident.

She gets away and grabs a glass. She tells the niece to get away from her or she will hit her with the glass. The niece jumps her, pushes her head into the hardwood cement floor (which leads later on to a concussion), busts her knees open and it starts bleeding and after a struggle with the niece on top, the new resident gets up and gets away and strikes the niece on the head three times after she (the niece) lunges at her. There is little difference in the strength, body size and physical makeup between the two as described.

The niece grabs a towel and the phone. She is bleeding. The child screams. The new resident tells her she is going to the police and goes upstairs and then downstairs to get her things and then leaves, walking two kilometres to the police station. She reports the matter to the police who tell her to return to the resident, wait outside and then they will come. They agree that it was necessary and they are worried for the child because of the niece's actions towards her. The new resident returns after a quick stop at a convenience store and is unarmed. The police arrest her and take her in, charging her with assault with a weapon.

The defense counsel agrees that it is self-defense but that is 'was excessive'. The crown prosecutor pays to have the woman brought down, but has no idea what the 'weapon' was, believing it to be a beer mug or a tea cup. There is no motive. The defense concludes that they have little evidence and no motive. There is no presentation of physical evidence, no doctor's reports, no eyewitness accounts, no samples, no pictures, no police present at court, etc. just the niece who has healed completely with no damage or physical scarring. The crown prosecutor is convinced she was struck ten times but there is no evidence to support this claim. What do you make of this case?

2007-12-19 13:19:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Visible injuries? Any physical contact? Slap? Spit? Scratch? Bruises?

State your gender, if you don't mind.

2007-12-19 13:09:15 · 20 answers · asked by Lioness 6

I can spend my entire paycheck on lottery tickets(and lose my house), the state makes a killing(on legalized gambling), yet I cannot play 2-bit poker at my house without violating the law.

Before slavery was outlawed, it WAS the norm, and socially accepted. Before state-sanctioned racisim was outlawed by the Civil Rights movement, not too many people had an issue with those "Whites Only" signs.

Because the "law" gives me the right to do something, does that somehow cloud(or validate) a tough decision?

2007-12-19 12:54:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or are gender roles just social constructs invented to justify behaviour?
For instance, men always argue that they are programmed to seek beauty in a mate to ensure the continuity of their genes. That's why they focus on beautiful women and treat them better than average or plain women - that's why monogamy is (allegedly) so difficult.

Have their been any definitive studies that prove it is really social conditioning and ego, not biology, that drives this behaviour?

The same with the women are nurturers and should stay home and men are hunter/gatherers and should work outside the home to be providers - is it all just bias based around excluding women from the chance to be economically independent from men?

2007-12-19 12:46:33 · 8 answers · asked by Nat R 2

Those reality shows where these low-class tramps touting jealousy, envy, back-biting, back-stabbing, and every other negative attribute of the female condition.

I think these shows should be shown with a rating, or late at night. I would be horrified to have my daughter watch at such abominal behavior as much as these shows on prime-time TV with men fighting like dogs in the ring.

I think this must be what as known as de-evolution...we are regressing into pretty pathetic entities.

Your thoughts?

2007-12-19 12:18:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my girlfriend of almost 2 years, told me, not too long ago that, she had an abortion when she was with her ex (and youngish).

she gets extremely upset around the time of the predicted birth date.

i do not know how i can help her, because i am personally quite opposed to abortion. I have no desire to debate this topic with anyone, including her, and would never tell her my stance, but i do not know how to help her.

2007-12-19 11:35:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-19 11:09:36 · 34 answers · asked by Gregory H 1

Is your spouse/companion/friend able to confide anything to you without you telling someone else or useing it against them in an aurgument?

2007-12-19 10:30:33 · 7 answers · asked by bear5521 2

If a Diamond company named there product

Diamonds
She basically has to.

2007-12-19 09:22:00 · 16 answers · asked by Shan Patridge 2