Do you women really feel your biological clock ticking?

Question

Sorry for the stupid question, but my wife says before giving birth to our child whenever she saw baby she always felt something. She says she still does sometimes with other babies. Being a man, this is such a strange concept to me. Is it really true for most women? Certainly can't be for all women.
I don't feel anything special when I see a baby. When I see my own baby I'm really happy but another baby, I'm just like yeah that's a cute baby.

I go through a change when I see my own baby, or I assume if my sister had one I would react the same way. I feel happy & I wanna protect her. I don't exactly go through a change when I see someone's baby who's not related to me.

Kate, we should play golf together. Maybe they'd let you in at Augusta now.

Bonzai, I don't think my wife is at all obsessed with it. I never felt like she wanted children any more than I did. And I definitely wasn't that crazy about it. We both wanted to wait until we were really stable which we did. We weren't even that crazy about the whole idea of marriage. I think you are generalizing.

Answer 1

I can't speak for all women, but when my daughters were little, I did feel a sort of a baby hunger when I saw other babies. Over time, when it became obvious I would not be having any more children and my girls were getting older, it faded away. I really don't feel anything special when I see a baby anymore. If anything, I feel a sort of relief that my girls are teenagers and the older one is on the verge of turning eighteen and graduating from high school. I know many people say that teenagers are so difficult but aside from my younger daughter's often prickly temper, I actually find them much easier to deal with than when they were babies. I no longer have to do everything for them and they can tell me what exactly is wrong with them instead of simply crying while I'm trying to figure it out.

Answer 2

haha, I think I'm going through that right now. I have this TREMENDOUS need to have another baby. I look at baby pics online all day, I see babies in public and I want to CRY! I even want a PUPPY because my maternal instincts are in OVERDRIVE. I am single and not interested in a baby without marriage, so it's a pretty difficult time for me. I would say it's an animalistic feeling almost similar to what I see female cats go through when in heat. LOL that's a bit extreme because I don't lie in the street crying out like they do... but, my hormones are on overdrive and I crave that closeness with a man to "seal the deal" I stay in and lock all the doors so no stray men walk into my house LOL but, yes, I never thought it was real until this year. I recently lost a baby that I was afraid of at first because he and I aren't married, BUT started to feel OK and accept the baby. Then, I lost it a few weeks ago. I kind of wonder if that was my last chance. I hope not. I have one 4 yr old by my ex husband. i miss the infancy stage soo much! holding her, caring for her, the smell of her, her little baby voice, her innocent little hands, fingers, toes... wow, I got it BAD :(

Answer 3

Only once has it ticked. A couple of years after having second child, my head said no more children-wanted to go back to work, but had a deep yearning inside to complete the family. It was an odd feeling deep in my belly and heart. An aching emptiness that somehow I hadn't finished with having kids.
After having third child, it's now been 4 years since and haven't had anymore "ticking".
Oddly, I never planned on being a mother to begin with. Funny how life works.

Answer 4

it really happens. I think it is a women's nurturing side that takes over. Most men are more rough and tough and usually don't want anything to do with someone else child. Women have a sense of caring and nurturing and defending any child. They hold a baby and melt instantly, because I think that is one reason why women were put here on earth to reproduce, so when they hold a baby they feel that deep connection with their own purpose. Not all women are in touch with that side of them and are more interested in their own lives and are not willing to sacrifice to bring another into the world.

Answer 5

Well, since you can reproduce until practically the end of your life, it's no surprise you'd feel no rush.

But for women, we can only reproduce children for about half of our ADULT lives (note, not WHOLE lives, adult lives). And even if we're still capable of reproducing, it's risky to have a child later in life because of possible defects. Point is, once a woman has settled down (taking into account that people marry later in life than they used to), she really only has a 10-20 year window as the optimal time to have kids. That's really not much time. So, if a woman does feel her "clock ticking", it's understandable.

Answer 6

Definately! When I go to my friends' weddings, I xometimes cry. Sadly its not because of the beautiful ceremony, usually because I'm upset because that hasn't happened for me yet! HAHA.

But yeah, when I see new babies, my heart aches for another one especially since my 3yo daughter acts like she doesn't need me as much any more.

Answer 7

Only women who are obsessed with the idea of motherhood. They have this twisted idea that they must fulfill this role as mother, or else they will some how miss out on something. I for one could care less about motherhood, I do not need to be a mother in order to have my life be complete.

Answer 8

Yes and men go though a change too.

Answer 9

I don't care about my biological clock. Just protection.

Answer 10

At my age the pendulum has stopped beating.