Who's to blame for all the rapists and child molesters?

Question

Is it ultimately the mother's fault, because of perhaps the way she was raised as a child herself or perhaps she didn't do the best job she could as a mother?
I can see that there is obviously something wrong with what I asked above, that it's women who should get the blame for a crime their child commits but my point is, why is it always the mother who is blamed?
I wouldn't go as far as saying that it's the fathers fault as well in the name of equality because nowadays men are more involved in child rearing, but why is the grown up child not held solely accountable for their own misdeeds?
Are mothers today being made scapegoats for all of societies ills, besides feminists?

Hero, I don't know if you meant me by your thumbs down remark, but right now I'm just reading the answers, not thumbsing up or down. And I absolutely abhor child molestors in particular.

And I hope that you weren't referring to me as a paedophile. As someone who was molested at a very young age, to be accused of such a horrific act will only be the accusers downfall.

Thanks for clearing that up Hero :)

Haha RobLee, you are funny today. Been taking tips from Jackal?

Answer 1

There is a cult of mother blaming that's spoken of in gender studies classes. Mothers have always been "scapegoats for all of societies ills". There are entire shelves in the humanities and social sciences sections devoted to mother blaming. It's nothing new. Freud would be a good place to start--although his inspiration, Oedipus may be a better place to start. Better yet, check out the Old or New Testament, or any other religious tract. Mothers are the obvious targets.

Edit: Chevalier...this is not my opinion. Take a woman's studies course and trust me, blaming the mother is a huge concept found everywhere throughout history. Again, this is not me speaking. I see fathers blamed too...doesn't negate the whole culture of mother blaming that is the foundation of a great deal of philosophical and psychological theory.

Answer 2

This is too complicated of a topic to place blame on any one thing or person. There are lots of people who grow up with bad mothers and they don't become rapists and child molesters. In turn, some guys have bad fathers that are patterning a general disrespect for women that feeds into the mindset for committing sex crimes. However, not all guys with bad fathers grow up to be disrespectful, some vow never to be like their dads.

In the end every adult must take responsibility for their own actions and misdeeds even though they may have had some really bad childhood experiences that helped warp their personalities. Society needs to study this stuff to learn ways to help prevent it, but it's not an excuse for the criminal.

Answer 3

I think you may be oversimplifying this. Mothers do not get the blame but may be a part of the cause for some rapists. There is a difference between cause and blame. Besides I think the problem is more complex than that any way. I think from the studies I've seen that most serial rapist were overly dominated /abused by their mothers AND had limited or no access to their fathers. I think the focus on the mother in these cases comes from the abuse hysteria feminist have stirred up. And FYI feminism by removing fathers from the home by their use of false hysteria and defamation tactics are tied to many of the problems we have now.

Edit Teleecee How are you getting that mothers are blamed so much? When I look at the news what I always hear is people asking where the FATHERS are. So it is bs to say mothers get the blame.

Answer 4

I don't think it's the mothers fault at all. She cannot control their mind, nor can she force them to do something they don't want to do. They SHOULD be the only ones for blame when the rape or molest a child.

What if, for example, a couple always taught their son to do right, to be kind and courteous, and always be a gentlemen. They teach him the best they can to grow up to be responsible and respectful, but people at school make fun of him. His mother offers him help and guidance but he pushes it away and suffers in his anger alone. The anger builds up until he is an adult and is a monster and he wants to see other kids suffer now too. His father tries his hardest to help him but he ignores him and rapes and molests children because of all the hate that has been bottle up over years. Is it really fair to say that it is anyone's fault but his own?

Answer 5

It takes a great deal of work to raise properly a child. There's several factors to consider the reason behind a rapist's motives: psychological, antecedents of abuse/abandon during formative years, even genetical disposition. Is quite complex, so saying "ah, is the mother/father fault" is just throwing a quick assumption. There were wicked murderers who were accomplished professionals and there is people who came from shattered homes and became excellent persons, so there's no a size that fits everything.

Answer 6

I think it's a combination of factors. Certainly fathers need to be good role models for how to treat women and mothers have to teach children to respect each person regardless of sex. But culture also plays a role, family, friends, school, etc. If people are bad to kids often, but not always they may be mean to others when they are adults. If adults set in and break the chain of abuse on a child, then that child is likely to fight for others rights.

Answer 7

I don't think it is ether's fault!! It is the rapist's fault. They always try to blame it on how they where raised and everything, but I think that is bull!! What if a person has three or four kids and then only one turns out to be a rapist, the others are normal and was raised by the same parents. Who are they gonna blame then? I say people need to take responsibility for their own actions. If you are a rapist, then it is YOUR OWN fault!! That is how I feel about the situation, some may agree and some may not!

Answer 8

most mums would try do a good job,that is make good men out of their sons.it is just some sick minds out there who are to blame for their own actions.you can not really blame a mother of anyone who is above the age of 20 -25 and commits these horid crimes.

Answer 9

The rapists and the child molesters themselves. (men and women)

Parents can only do so much to teach their kids right from wrong....the rest is up to the individual. Just because he/she had the urge to do something doesn't mean they have to act on it. These crimes are deliberate and are about power and control over the victim.

Answer 10

The perpetrator themself, male or female, is to blame.

If a parent (mother or father) is unaware of the abuse - what can they do whilst unaware?

If the child tells a parent and the parent chooses to do nothing - then blame is shifted because the parent/s are the only ones a child can knowingly count on to stand up for them.