my girlfriend of almost 2 years, told me, not too long ago that, she had an abortion when she was with her ex (and youngish).
she gets extremely upset around the time of the predicted birth date.
i do not know how i can help her, because i am personally quite opposed to abortion. I have no desire to debate this topic with anyone, including her, and would never tell her my stance, but i do not know how to help her.
2007-12-19 11:35:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Just take her out on that day as a way to take her mind off it.
Many women who have gotten abortions are against it after because they regret it. Maybe you two have more in common than thought.
2007-12-19 11:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How long ago was this? I mean if it's been more than a couple yrs. then yeah she needs some help -counsiling - because thats along time to carry the burden of that around. We all have made mistakes & things we wish we hadn't done but after awhile you have to move on with your life. I would sugest to her that maybe she would benefit from talking to a counselor & see what she says.
2007-12-19 12:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Karebear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown the effects of an aborted baby can linger FAR after the actual abortion. It's the thought of what might have been.
I am sure it's something Planned ParentHood whitewashes, or does not even discuss.
I respect a womans right...but I know if I were a woman, abortion would not be an option(or a choice) for an unborn child.
2007-12-19 12:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
She needs to help herself by going to a therapist, and if she is unwilling, then you need to seriously consider moving on from her because she has decided to make this pain a self fulfilling prophecy.
2007-12-19 18:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is in pain...and she is having a hard time healing.
she needs your help.
even if you are opposed to abortion this is not a time to be judgemental towards her..as she is most likely doing that to herself already.
she needs your support in getting through this.
treat her as you would someone that lost a family member.
because she did...and i think she realizes this...and the fact that she is the one who caused it..pains her more.
2007-12-22 19:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked her how you can help? She might want to be left alone that day or she might want you to mourn with her. She is mourning the loss of that child (and feel guilty too). If it is severe she might need professional help.
2007-12-19 11:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mikki Sue71 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. You can't really tell her "I told you so", so I feel this is you best option. Just be a little more compassionate and patient during this time.
2007-12-19 12:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Boob? Anyways....
Some woman have gone to extremes due to the sadness this has caused, I mean suicide. Really. Get her professional help.
2007-12-19 11:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
just be there for her and comfort her thats all she will need
2007-12-19 12:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all you can do is hold her, and help her cry.....
2007-12-19 15:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋