Singles & Dating - 16 April 2007

Me and my girlfriend are adults in our late 20’s and going out for two months. My girlfriend works for this one lady who she takes care of for about three years. The lady she takes care of, her son has feeling for my girlfriend. I have suggested to my girlfriend that since he has told her he has feelings for her and he doesn’t seem to get the point that she is with someone she should quit her job. But my girlfriend says it’s a good job and she doesn’t want to quit. Is there something wrong here or is it just me? Maybe it’s me? She goes to work everyday so I am there to question it in my head all the time. What is going on and should I do?

2007-04-16 21:37:44 · 5 answers · asked by Michael 1

a guy discovers a girl he has met had a shitload of babies? It's not like it's our fault you don't know what a rubber is. I can understand it sucks being a single mom with a bunch of babies running around, but how can she expect a single guy with no kids to want a starter family? I met a girl that seemed cool and went over to see her to find out she had 3 children running around and trying to climb on me like I am supposed to be cool with that. I hate babies so I started to hiss at them like a poisonous snake. Then I bailed and I guess that makes me a bad guy. Is it my fault she is a baby factory?

2007-04-16 21:35:31 · 1 answers · asked by jared f 1

I have been with a boy for 2 months.
I've been letting him be in controle and i dont like it.
am i doing the right thing to change this, by not ringing him or texting him and waiting for him to ring or text me first?

The thing is, its already been 24 hours and he still hasnt called me....

How else can i get myself in controle of this relationship?

2007-04-16 21:34:16 · 7 answers · asked by catherine_5543 1

I've been with him for 6 years. I'm 26 and he's 31. Recently some things have happened and I feel I can't trust him. I caught him talking dirty to other girls online and saying he's single on his myspace. He said he didn't know how to change his relationship status, but then he changed his account to private after I confronted him, so that makes me think some was going on that he didn't want me to know. He clamed he changed it to private cause people he didn't know kept sending him friend requests. He also said he was just talking dirty to these other girls as a joke. I really don't want to break up with him, but I don't know how to go about trusting him again. Maybe the excuses he told were true, but I don't know what to believe. Is it possible to trust someone ever again?

2007-04-16 21:33:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is the title of an article written by Nirpal Dhaliwal. Basically he says that men will do anything, putting up with boredom, nagging, etc just for sex. He says that every man he knows has cheated.
I refuse to believe men are so shallow. And that the reason women put up with it is because they will do anything for good sex. He maintains that men and woman are incapable of a genuine spiritual union. I think he's shallow and ignorant. Am I wrong?

2007-04-16 21:29:36 · 21 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7

Its stalking right, to even consider looking up a casual acquaintance from years ago? We went to the same Univ. Mildly obsessed but now very ashamed (I've actually searched her on the net). DO NOT WANT TO BE A STALKER. It seems like contacting her would be the only way to let go -- (of nothing -- There never was an 'us'-- I know, I'd like to be ruled by reason.) But having a hard time with this one.

2007-04-16 21:29:31 · 5 answers · asked by A Brewer 2

2007-04-16 21:26:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked this hot chick out to lunch and she said she wanted to go out for Dutch food, but there's no Dutch restaurants in our town--is this her way of saying she doesn't like me??

2007-04-16 21:20:31 · 1 answers · asked by elizabeth_and_kevin 1

the sad thing is, when he says he's true to you now,it's hard to believe...you're blinded by your anger...

2007-04-16 21:15:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex who lives 3,000 miles away and I are in communication now, after a year of brutal misunderstanding. Something felt wrong with all of my attempts at going out with others; same for him, too, and I finally visited & realized I still loved him and wanted to make him happy. I actually told him I would probably love him for the rest of my life, and asked him again to consider moving to be with me. He said he wasn't ready to get back together because he didn't feel like it right now, with all the water under the bridge, but also he wished the last year hadn't happened, and that he had been veey much in love. He said some tender things as I left him, and when I suggested we stay in touch, absolute joy leapt into his face. We are emailing almost every day about what we are doing, what we are trying to accomplish, how we feel about our lives. We have been doing this for about a week. It doesn't feel sexy, especially, but something is happening but my question is, what? What d'you think?

2007-04-16 21:12:02 · 4 answers · asked by myrtlebough 1

What should she do? Can she get pregnant?

2007-04-16 21:11:46 · 20 answers · asked by Jeff S 2

There is a man that I am very interested in, he has all the qualities that I am looking for in a man, except for one....he can't hold conversation very well. If I start a conversation, he usually does fine and chimes in, however, he never ever starts a conversation. When I run out of topics to talk about, its dead air, we sit and stare at each other and I can't stand it. I am really concerned about this, conversation skills are really important to me, but I don't want to give him his walking papers over this one thing.

2007-04-16 21:09:47 · 3 answers · asked by sparkels74 2

Im not the conventional boyfirend type which means i try to outdo none other than myself when it comes to fashion and everything else. I mean we're ok in the love and relationship department and we get along really dynamically and have a lot of fun. My fashion sense is a blazer, casual shirt or polo, solid black hardtop shoes w/ hard bottom, jeans or three quarters. Now my girlfriend, she often tells me "oh hey yeah its nice." in a flattering way but it doesn't fool me. But this is the way i dress not just in front of her but my typical buddys. How should i show myself in front of my girl and should i change my apparel just for her??

2007-04-16 21:08:27 · 8 answers · asked by ProFessa_Connartyst 2

between a BREAK and a break-UP? i still havent got that cleared up yet.

2007-04-16 21:07:00 · 3 answers · asked by jay 2

or if you wanted someone & all you do is think about them, does that mean you're not going to get to be with them? (i dont know what im saying) Like as soon as you stop wanting something you suddenly get it.... is that true?

2007-04-16 21:02:09 · 4 answers · asked by SUNSHiNE 2

I am an older woman with a younger man. His lifestyle is not what most women want but it was ok with me. He's an exotic dancer. That was not the problem. I love him so much but I feel that our age difference is a problem not because of his age but I feel that I'm robbing him of his youth. I have gotten to the point where I don't trust him. He haven't really done anything to make me feel that way but then again he have. I know that he love me without a doubt and he have been there for me and my children and he has none. Alot of the problems that we do have comes from me. He have fought for our relationship since day 1 and if it was up to me I would have been gone . I decided to let him go and he begs for me to take him back but I told him no because we are not made for each other. I feel that he don't want the same things I want but in reality he really do. He will do anything to be with me so why can't I see it? He has now moved with another woman should I let him be free?

2007-04-16 20:57:53 · 15 answers · asked by MEL 1

what if he only likes it rough and goes too far one day or never wants to be soft and sensual? Does this have anything to do with the way he sees me or respects me?

2007-04-16 20:40:20 · 5 answers · asked by nursecumquick 1

I had a messy first kiss-well i thought it was messy n wet but the ex reckoned i was a good kisser, anyway im 15 and going out with another boy to the movies in a few days and some of my friends think its weird that i made my ex wait so long (6 months) for a kiss (but it was my first bf and first kiss) and when i did it i was feeling sick that day and yea like i said above we never kissed again and i duno if it was cause i didn't feel for him or cause i suck at kissing-i don't wanna miss the oppurtunity next time or it to be messy or to turn off this new guy i like cause i can't kiss-had no experience-any advice or anything :) cause i liek the thought of kissing and like this guy im going to the movies with but even though hes a year younger i still feel inexperienced :(

2007-04-16 20:35:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Men/Guys: I would appreciate an insight of the male mind. Serious anwers only please.

Long story short: I dated a guy. He turns out to be engaged.I never take his calls after that. He calls me even after he gets married leaving me crazy messages,"I can't believe U -R doing this!" blah. blah blah. Yeah, I was hurt. I was betrayed,deceived, angry, very upset. The worst part was a trying to understand how the heck it happened & how I became the "mistress". I was p#ss#d!
He ran in2 my b.f. & told her about his "wife" &the "wedding" &the house they bought, &his "wife's" career. My b.f. didn't even ask him. She doesn't even know him! He just knew who she was & volunteeres this info. Why? Obviously he knows I'll find out. But why do it? What's his real intentions besides the obvious?
I ran in2 him this weekend @ a diner. He has a baby now. It was weird. What does he do? Taking the long way out, walks by my table.
What's he doing? After 3 years he still plays this games? Why?

2007-04-16 19:48:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

she was sober, he was high.

2007-04-16 19:37:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-16 18:33:53 · 30 answers · asked by jrfpvarsity07 1

i still have strong feelings for this girl who use to like me too, but we now live 500 miles away and are dating other people... but tonight she told me that she was cutting herself and hadn't told anybody else. i don't know what i can do bc of the distance so i just gave her my phone number and told her to call me if she ever felt like hurting herself. was this the right thing to do? why would she not talk to me for a while then come to me with this? what does that mean?

2007-04-16 18:33:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

hey guys just wanted to know what u would do if a girl attempted not to moan when she was with u (sex, foreplay, whatever) &remained expressionless??

would hike up the heat to get a reaction??

stop immediatly??

think she was faking it?? lol

girls have u tried this &gotten into some heated trouble??
&what is it about getting a girl to moan that turns u on more??

2007-04-16 18:25:36 · 18 answers · asked by Phoenix21 7

that when it come to sex, he's too gentle, without making him feel bad or putting him down.....

2007-04-16 18:24:59 · 14 answers · asked by Gardenia 2

soo.. i have always wanted to get married have kids. u know any girls dream.. well back then when i wanted that i like hated myself i never thought that i was good enough.. and now i dont want any of that well i do want kids.. but i dont wanna get marreid and i dont ever wanna date i think its cuz i dont wanna get hurt again. i have decided that i want to be alone for life but thats not gonna be a really happy life but i dont think that i am gonna be good enough for anyone because for one im not a toothpick and i never will be it just not in my genes to be really small.. and im ok with that but why cant people see u for who u are and not what u look like and why cant i just believe in myself and stop being soo hatefull towards myself i think that everyones life would be soo much better if i just wasnt around.......

2007-04-16 18:21:55 · 9 answers · asked by InSaNe 4

to kiss and hold hands and I'm getting frustrated. I'm 25 she is 19. Thank you for your help. What should I do?

2007-04-16 18:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by mike 1

my ex bf and i broke up a month ago. i tried to patch things up but he ignored all my attempts. so i stopped all contact with him.

lately he's been posting depressing messages online like he's emotionless, barely surviving stuff like that. whenever he posts something like that, i always post an encouraging song or some encouraging words. it's not addressed to him but it's pretty obvious it's for him.

today i posted i'm swamped with everything, work, state tax, etc. he posted back"i'm not here. deal with it." so i signed off. just now i found he updated his facebook, put his favorite quote as "It is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all. Yeah, right."

what does he mean?i'm pretty sure he doesnt care about me at all since he's so insensitive to my feelings and ignored all my attepts to patch up. is he hurting? then why didnt he try to patch things up with me?

2007-04-16 18:17:33 · 6 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2

hey guyz help me! i love this girl and i always express my love to her when i am with her.. when she knew that i love her.. her friends is always teasing her.. but there are many situations that need to know like, when i am walking her friend suddenly push her to me and we bumped each other but the weird thing is she didnt react that she was angry, when i am talking to her she is looking at my eyes and makes a big smile, i gave her a gift at valentines day that was febuary 14 i thought that she ate the chocolate, but at march 25 she text me and told me that "you know what this is just the first time that i will open your present, i will just eat one chocolate" and i ask why?? she replied "because i want your present, i want it to stay long to me" i didnt mind her.. hayyz.. i am not really sure if she loves me.. i didnt text her a very long time, and one day she text me and say "hello" and she asked "how are you" i replied "im fine" then i didnt add up What will i do? will i quit??

2007-04-16 18:10:39 · 7 answers · asked by -=JaKe WyLeR=- 1

Alright, my whole life, I wanted to save my virginity for someone special. I met this guy at his apartment with my sister's boyfriend. We spent 5 days together off and on...drinking. I then lost my virginity to him on our 5 day of spending time together (whilst being drunk off Rum and Coke). He told me he was the one and I believed him...because I reallyyy liked him. This was 2 weeks before my 18th birthday. I'm now 22. Anyway, I haven't had sex with anyone but that guy and now I have met a guy I like...that I am dating. But on every date he tries to get sexual with me. He respects me wanting to wait until later on...but on our first date, he told me he didn't want anything serious. But we talk almost every day over the phone or Myspace. I don't know if he's starting to fall for me or what. But it seems like he wants some form of sex on every date. I am not ready. I want my first REAL time to be special and romantic with someone I am in a relationship with (TBC)

2007-04-16 18:06:55 · 9 answers · asked by Answer Girl 4

Something fresh, meaningful, and teenish. Thanks>

2007-04-16 18:05:26 · 18 answers · asked by sillygurl 1