How can I help or teach a potential boyfriend to hold conversation better?

Question

There is a man that I am very interested in, he has all the qualities that I am looking for in a man, except for one....he can't hold conversation very well. If I start a conversation, he usually does fine and chimes in, however, he never ever starts a conversation. When I run out of topics to talk about, its dead air, we sit and stare at each other and I can't stand it. I am really concerned about this, conversation skills are really important to me, but I don't want to give him his walking papers over this one thing.

Answer 1

Ask him if he sees it as a problem...as if he doesn't see it as a problem then you will unable to change him and maybe he just like to sit with you in slience as he feels happy with that.

Also try to talk to him about this situation and maybe suggest some things. If things do go a bit dead with the conversation leave and come back a while later or switch the tv on for a bit as this may start some conversations

Answer 2

Ask him questions. Open ended questions are best. These are questions that tell you what has gone on or someones opinion of something. Most people like to talk about them selves and what they want to do. Do you have any common interests?

He may feel that he has nothing to contribute. A lot of men I know won't say anything unless they have something that is important and worth saying.

One thing that holds me back is the possibility of saying or asking things which a partner or Friend could judge or be offended by.

Another hold back is expectation. Have you spoken with him over this problem. Have you told him your expectation in this area.

Answer 3

That sort of thing comes with practice, I think. Maybe if you try asking him really broad questions sometimes it would get him talking. And try to be really interested in what he's talking about (try not to sound fake, please). If you do that, he's probably going to start talking more and more because you make him feel like he has something worthwhile to say. That's about the best I can do, unless he realizes that he needs to improve those skills on his own. Good night!