the sad thing is, when he says he's true to you now,it's hard to believe...you're blinded by your anger...
2007-04-16 21:15:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's called having a brain
2007-04-16 21:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Rob M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't explain much but the first reaction is get rid of him, once a cheater always a cheater but that is not true. Most guys cheat because it's in their nature they are made to try and mate with as many woman as they can even if they got a good woman at home. Should you have to deal with that? No! But if you know that was the problem then you either get over it and hope he will outgrow it or you say hit the road Jack and don't come back no more. But if he cheated for other reasons like you guys are not getting along, or you are not providing that type of release anymore, or any other reasons then yall need to talk about it so that you can understand and then you will be able to forgive. I don't think you guys have quite talked about it so you are still hurt and that kind of hurt lasts a long time and it's hard to let that go. It's hard to get back the relationship once a person has been cheated on because you have been betrayed. But if you love this person enough then you will one day be able to let it go and trust again. It's not going to happen over night and it might not happen at all but yall need to do some talking and he have to except that you are mad and hurt.
2007-04-17 04:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by MEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to believe what he says now because he has broken the ultimate trust its not just the anger that gets in the way.
Even after the anger dies down and you are over the cheating the mistrust will stay and you will find yourself questioning his motivation in a lot of things because underlying you feel he can't be trusted.
2007-04-17 04:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the single most important thing in a relationship so the first thing you have to ask yourself is if you will ever be able to trust him again... forgiving something as hurtful as this is complicated... and even if you find a way to forgive him it doesn't mean that he deserves another chance or that you will want to be with him...
In any case it takes time...lots of time...
2007-04-17 04:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by sara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. What are you passing judgment on? On him for "cheating" or on yourself for choosing a bf who cheats? Or, are you passing judgment on yourself for not having taken a similar opportunity when it was available? Or, are you upset because he did his cheating just when you were about to break up with him and you're upset because he beat you to the punch? Could be any of those reasons. Look deep inside yourself. Finally, either you forgive yourself for judging him, and get over it, or you decide you won't accept his behavior and dump him. What else do you want to do, keep hitting him over the head with his infidelity for the next 27 years?
2007-04-17 04:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why women stick with men like that. I just don't get it. Lots of women would sooner stay with men who treat them bad instead of dating nice guys. Maybe in marriage it might be worth working through it, but in exclusive dating it doesn't make sense to stick around with a cheater. Good night!
2007-04-17 04:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thought that he cheated on you will always be there on the back of your mind, there's just no more trust in the relationship.
2007-04-17 04:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because relationships get built by trust and he abused it. Forgive him, then move onto someone better.
2007-04-17 04:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to believe, and it should be hard to believe. i don't know about the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" but once is enough to drain all of the trust you had in him. he's going to have to work his butt off to get it back.
2007-04-17 04:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by fippypoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because you have loved him so much and has trusted him without doubts and then suddenly he betrayed you...give it time you are still hurting that's why it is so hard to forgive...
2007-04-17 04:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by princess ysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what sex you are, cheating partners render YOU obsolete. Its like saying hey I replaced you with something more better.
2007-04-17 04:19:47 · answer #11 · answered by ProFessa_Connartyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋