I am an older woman with a younger man. His lifestyle is not what most women want but it was ok with me. He's an exotic dancer. That was not the problem. I love him so much but I feel that our age difference is a problem not because of his age but I feel that I'm robbing him of his youth. I have gotten to the point where I don't trust him. He haven't really done anything to make me feel that way but then again he have. I know that he love me without a doubt and he have been there for me and my children and he has none. Alot of the problems that we do have comes from me. He have fought for our relationship since day 1 and if it was up to me I would have been gone . I decided to let him go and he begs for me to take him back but I told him no because we are not made for each other. I feel that he don't want the same things I want but in reality he really do. He will do anything to be with me so why can't I see it? He has now moved with another woman should I let him be free?
2007-04-16 20:57:53 · 15 answers · asked by MEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do I fight for him now that I know what some of my problems are or do I let some other woman get a good man? He do have issues but do a strong woman stick with him with these issues or let him go? He is immature to some point, he do let his looks go to his head, he is woman crazy but what man is not, he is kinda on the dumb side (I do mean literally), he have no job and I don't think he is looking for one atleast not hard enough, he really don't have much to offer, his family and friends have turned their backs on him ( red flag), He expects a woman to have sex with him, cook for him, and clean for him even though she is the one working hard, he uses his dancing as an excuse to talking to other women, he carry alot of pain and hurt because of his mom and dad . Yell he got alot of baggage and issues but he is still a good man. He have an anger problem he is almost like a cave man with his thoughts on women. Should she now deal with it or do I be a woman and get my man back?
2007-04-16 21:09:34 · update #1
u chased him away bcuz u weren't happy. now do whatever u want, usually the 2nd split is twice as hard and by the 5th you'll have your mind made up for real. Sperm tracker is right, a million times better men, but you will be the same person and still afraid. I heard love is not that way. It's not jeolous or boastful and you will feel an inner peace that will pass any attempt to understand it.
2007-04-16 21:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Hazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do fight a little. I question the ones who leave me, investigate, and try to fix the problems because a lot of people are willing to just walk away from an issue or don't know how to deal with them at all. I'm not saying I would fight to be with them again in a romantic way but I will fight 100% to make ammends, end on friendly terms, or just restore a wonderful friendship in general. Does that make sense? I don't like feeling like I owe anybody anything, so I try to fix it if a friend, a family member, or a love of mine has any negative feelings towards me. I would try to be compassionate and never give up on somebody who once deeply cared about me.
2016-04-01 05:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having difficulty getting this picture. He's with another woman now and you wonder if you should let him be free? Does this mean he's living with the other woman but still wants "privileges" with you? Does he still want to come back with you?
There's nothing "wrong" with a younger man/older woman. There is something wrong with two people who want a relationship and don't want to talk about it. So, if you want a relationship with him, and he wants a relationship with you, then sit down and talk about it. And learn to accept yourself. If you are having trouble understanding your own wishes, how can he understand you? Figure out what you want and then act on it. Good luck.
2007-04-16 21:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be free. It is hard, and I feel for you. I have been in these situations with women (I am male).
The truth is, that even though it really hurts you right now, and though it will hurt you for a while... you will surprisingly, in the end, find another lover. This lover will be greater than you could possibly imagine at this point, and you will never look back, or have to ask a Yahoo question once you find him. Even if it takes months... or years, believe me, you will find the right person. There will be no questions.
2007-04-16 21:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jadochop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be. He obviously cares for you or he would not have fought for you the way he has.
Enjoy the fact that a younger man want's you. IT makes up forthe life expectancy difference between man and women. You have more chance of having him around for longer when you guys are older. :)
What more could you want
2007-04-16 21:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by crazychick1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you care so much what other people thought of your relationship that you bothered to fight about it? It sounds like he has given up and moved on as you made it very clear that you did not want him there no matter how much he wanted to be there. Just let him go. Next time you get envolved with someone think about what you and he want not what others think.
2007-04-16 21:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like he put up a good fight for u to be with him and u just couldn't accept him. if you couldn't accept him then what makes you think it would be easier now? don't fight for him unless you really accept all of him and have total trust honesty and faith in the relation and how he feels for u. other wise you will just be messing with his mind and that is very wrong. i think you need to do some more soul searching and fine out who u are and know that u are worthy of the relationship and love. i think you are letting past relationships scars show up and distory the relationships you are in now. good luck
2007-04-16 21:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've already decided to let him go...i know you love him but you can't do anything right now. he asked you to come back before but you didn't accept him back. so it's better off letting him go now. besides, he already has someone else now. but i do believe that if you guys are really meant for each other, then at the end, destiny will do something for you at the end.._c",)
2007-04-16 21:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by pRiNcEss_c",) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let this go you stated you cant trust him . as to him moving in wih another woman there is your answer let him go for good you wont get hurt by him in that way again i truley wish you the best on your decision . i know you make the right decision. in my opion?
2007-04-16 21:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly believe that you are not meant to be with him, you need to tell him. Eventually you will move both on, and you both (hopefully) will find the one you are meant to be with. If you believe that he is "the one" definately fight for him!!
Good luck!
2007-04-16 21:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by bubble wrapping 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋