Is the title of an article written by Nirpal Dhaliwal. Basically he says that men will do anything, putting up with boredom, nagging, etc just for sex. He says that every man he knows has cheated.
I refuse to believe men are so shallow. And that the reason women put up with it is because they will do anything for good sex. He maintains that men and woman are incapable of a genuine spiritual union. I think he's shallow and ignorant. Am I wrong?
2007-04-16 21:29:36 · 21 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually, I think my question should be - Why does his wife stay with him? (Yes - he's married_.
And Why does a newspaper pay for such drivel.
Sorry guys, I think most of you are better than this.
2007-04-16 22:05:00 · update #1
I don't think he's wrong I know he's wrong. I have never cheated. I have very good close relationships with my female friends and i could think of nothing worse that would spoil the friendship then having a sexual relationship (Not sure that they would like me that way and vice versa)
I could think of nothing worse then to sit with a boring person. What a load of bollocks, look around your local community and look at all the couples that have been married 20/30/40/50 years, now that is spiritual union.
2007-04-16 22:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol he is definately shallow and ignorant. I'm the one who cheats in my relationship! My partner doesn't even get any sex atm (gave birth to a baby not long ago and having a hard time getting back into sex) but he still puts up with me. We have much in common. In fact, I am more like a guy and he is more like a girl. Works perfectly.
btw men are more likely to cheat than woman are. Some people think this is because of the reproductive system. Men produce millions of sperm every day, so they feel the need to have sex so that the sperm will fertilize a woman. A woman has only one egg released per month. So what is the man going to do when she is not in her fertile stage, or when she is pregnant?
It is also because of our society and culture. It is much more accepted for a man to cheat "hey you scored, good on ya" than a woman to cheat "that girl is such a s.l.u.t".
2007-04-17 04:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a load of nonsense! Some men don't care about anyone but themselves and the same goes for some women. It comes down to what each person wants from a relationship, it maybe sex, or a healthy mature relationship. I know lots of men and women that have been together for years and have a really strong bond, however their relationship's have not always been good, but they get through any hard times by talking and compromise. communication is highly important in a relationship and if you don't have communication, your relationship is pointless.
You need honesty and trust. It seems that you have been looking at the wrong men. Think about what you want, it's hard to find, but you just might be surprised at who's out there in the world and what they have to offer. Be smart and be sensible, not all men are smoes!
Take care sweetheart!
2007-04-17 04:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be the case, Or it is just that on the surface that appears to be the case. I get the feeling you are reading the textbook version on relationships.
Some relationships work on a sort of love/hate, They love each other deep down but hate everything else about them. My neighbors for example argue fairly often, but most of the time its just sturring each other up and having a laugh. Its just their way of not having to face this big serious relationship people tend to think love is all about.
So dont read into it so much, tho sex does help grease the wheels for a relationship it isnt the only thing thats going
2007-04-17 04:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woman and man are interdependent, not in sex, but also in other life problems. I can say with confidence that sex is not only the point where both man and woman meet to satisfy their desire of sex. Woman is called a weaker vessel and she is dependent on man in all problems arising out of life structures and problems. A man becomes dependent on woman also when he becomes old. He becomes a child whereas his wife becomes his mom. He is with the Mom even if he has no desire of sex. I therefore do not agree that men and women have nothing common except sex.
2007-04-17 04:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that man is marrired? i like the way he says women will wait for 'good sex' and a man will hang around after 'nagging' etc for sex. rediculous. that man would get a slap from me if i read that and he was my husband! lol
as far as i am concerned, if a man cheats, he is either a sleeze or he has reasoning for it! maybe the wife is a *****? or maybe this guy just needs a kick in the nads!!
how very dare he! buit then.......its a matter of opinion?! xxx
2007-04-17 05:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
half and half - I think a lot of men and indeed women will tolerate quite a lot for sex - but will only do so for so long.
I do believe that people are capable of a genuine union - people stand by other people through extremely upsetting and awful situations - that a shag at the end of it simply wouldnt warrant!
obviously there are people out there that would do pretty much anything for sex - but I think these people are in the minority!
xx
2007-04-17 04:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women cheat just as much if not more than men. women are just infinately better liars. And I think this guy lacks a few social skills if he gets bored and 'puts up' with nagging. If your bored do something fun. if your being nagged at, nag back (a good argument can quickly be followed by a good time). Sounds like this book was written after his beloved took off with someone else that was better sex than him.
2007-04-17 04:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well.. I will give him credit for attracted attention. But I tend to disagree.
Men and Women share lots in common. This differs from couple to couple based on their interests and personalities.
Aside from basic interests, I am sure men and women share these similar interests. They like to feel loved, cared for, appreciated, etc.
Yes, sex is an important part of any relationship, however its not usually the basis for one. I have not personally met anyone that stays with there significant lover for years out of there life because the sex is good. Relationships are built
on fundamentals of emotions, interests, personalities, and interaction.
The statement men will do anything for sex is true (and can be re-phrased to read women will do anything for sex.) By me making this statement I am not referring to a relationship but to a one night stand. As everyone reading this can relate to (we have all been there ourselves, or known someone) who listens to stories they aren't interested in just for the one night stand. In this situation the statement proves true.
I think the writer of this "novel" is just upset with his own relationship so he generalizes everyones. I personally love my wife very much, and will withstand anything because I love her.
That's just my 2 cents.
2007-04-17 11:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you i have loads in common my male mates and my partner that's not sex . some people do have relationships based on sex and people do cheat but most of the time i've found out from friends that there's other underlying problems not just in bedroom . i would not put up with the crap he's talking about and neither would my other half just because of the sex! he's chatting total ****!! he's obviously having marital probs lol
2007-04-17 06:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by womble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋