Marriage & Divorce - 1 August 2006

recently my husband up and quit his job and we have a lot of bills i can pay them but its gonna be tight he says he's looking for work but all i see him doing is hanging with his friends and not doing any of the house work around the house. im trying to be supportive because i stopped working about a year ago for two months so i sorter feel like i should show him the same consideration but i did look for work and kept the house tidy. and found work there shortly actually worked 2 jobs but am i wrong to be short tempered and ready to explode about this? should i just relax and say nothing

2006-08-01 16:53:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a friend who's husband dosent want to have sexual relations with her and she wants guys opinions on why this is happening please help!!!

2006-08-01 16:52:34 · 10 answers · asked by greeneyedmami5 1

2006-08-01 16:43:45 · 6 answers · asked by empowered2008 3

2006-08-01 16:40:46 · 13 answers · asked by llllluuvvv 1

Physical abuse is very obvious. Mental, emotional abuse is more subtle. When your spouse is not verbally physically abusing you, how do you know you are being abused?

2006-08-01 16:39:48 · 18 answers · asked by whattodo898 1

The decree gave him 30 days to complete the refinance into his name. He has failed to do so (claiming he doesn't qualify due to bad credit) and is not making timely house payments. I'm worried that he is ruining my credit and may file bankruptcy making me responsible for the home that I am not living in. What recourse do I have? Will a judge order him to sell the property if he refuses to refinance? Could I evict him from the home and sell the house?

2006-08-01 16:35:33 · 9 answers · asked by XXXXXXX 2

My daughter lives with her mother(she has legal custody), her grandparents, her aunt and her cousin in a 3 bedroom house. She does not have her own room. My daughter is therefore so accustomed to sleeping in the same bed as so many other people tha she refuses to sleep in her own room and her own bed. She continually throws fits over sleeping in her room and sneaks in the middle of the night at the foot of my bed with me and my wife. I heard that in New York State that a child cannot sleep in the same bed as anyone except a parent. Would i get in trouble for her sleeping in my bed with me and my wife? My daughter has mentioned that she slept in our bed once to her mom and her mother got so furious but i responded that it's basically her fault for not providing for her a bed of her own and a room as I have. Do I let her just sleep in my bed with me and my wife? I am not willing to compromise by not sleeping with my pregnant wife. I will not let my wife sleep alone.

2006-08-01 16:29:50 · 20 answers · asked by IM 2

I have been in school -until next week- and working -and unfortunately, he was laid off on June 1. He has started his own business and trying to make a go at it, but it's been crazy!!
I just want to do something sweet and that would make him happy because it's been a rough couple of years and he is my best friend--- that's why we've made it 25 years---- But it does not have to be real romantic and doesn't need to cost a whole lot because of job situation, can't spend too much!!
I NEED IDEAS of something I can do in a short period of time!!
Thanks!!

2006-08-01 16:23:56 · 4 answers · asked by Ladybugtjc 2

I am separted from my husband and our 8 and w12 years old daughthers and I are going on a trip . Our 8 years old daugther was over her father house and asked him for some spending money. he said i don't have any money. so she asked him if she could ask grandma (his mother ) for some and he told her don't you ask granny for nothing. she was so hurt . you see I left him for not being the man about taking care of his family I 'm marry for 11 years and I got tired. I could stay because of the kids. don't get me wrong his love his kids but he is begining to me irony and it is get to me to tell him off. I trying to wait until I see him in court, but it is get hard not to saying anything.l we haven spoken in each other see i left 2 months ago. I try talking to him but he sut me out complete. I don't want the kids to because very hurt but he is not trying at ll my being a good parent with them with me. any advice with be appreciated. I have to leave it was make me very sick

2006-08-01 16:19:41 · 3 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

2006-08-01 16:17:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 29 years and my husband has always been attracted to other women. It has made me feel that I was never enough for him and I have not wanted to be intimate with him for several years now. I have told him how much it hurts and he still buys porn and surfs the net . I have a 17 year old daughter that found his porn movies and hid it under her bed. What should I do?

2006-08-01 16:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by clueless 1

2006-08-01 16:09:02 · 13 answers · asked by kevin_21015 1

He is 10 lives with his mom, I love him so much!! he has a new dad, we havnt seen much of eachother in his life. every time I ask him he says he is busy with his friends and cant come. I have bought him good stuff. This kind of hurts. Should I just give up this and let him come around and then anticipate making a new family with my fiance now?

2006-08-01 16:06:28 · 12 answers · asked by jason c 2

Hey all you married ladies out there...does you hubby have a hobbie??

What is it and do you like it or does it drive you nuts??

My hubby is into RC cars, and playing the X BOX 360...

2006-08-01 16:04:35 · 7 answers · asked by Kitikat 6

Since we are splitting the costs of everything down the middle i think that includes the wedding dress. What do you guys think?

2006-08-01 15:58:15 · 14 answers · asked by lovinglife 1

2006-08-01 15:55:25 · 15 answers · asked by luvaboy 1

My husband of 14 years was like prince charming. Caring, considerate, romantic, the whole deal. Soon before the birth of our 2nd child 8 years ago, he started to change. Hanging out with friends and doing favors for them, leaving me alone all the time. He barely gives me or the kids any attention. Also, in the last few years, he's become depressed and stressed out constantly (he blames it on his family's business, which was changed when his dad died). Holidays, vacations (1 weekend a year) and any events we have to attend are major stress situations for him, to the point where he's unbearable. I try to keep the kids from being too affected or aware of his issues. Also, he's a hoarder to the nth degree. There are whole rooms I can't use because they're packed with stuff. He uses alcohol as medication.If I try to bring up any of these issues, he says things like "it's Your perception that my (drinking, hoarding, friendship, etc) is a problem." Won't do therapy or meds. Help

2006-08-01 15:54:11 · 5 answers · asked by lindyk8 2

I posted a few times here...again the story for the third time...married almost 5 years...after my husband graduated with his masters he went back to his country...after a few months he stopped taking my calls and stopped sending money...he then sent me divorce papers...we've recently started talking again, he tells me how he loves me and cares and wishes we were still married...but he's never coming back and he won't say why...i believe its his family...anyway...he tried to tell me about one of our old friends and how he's always had a crush on me and maybe i should marry him and he wishes only the best for me and wants to "make it right"...with another man? He is arab...(my ex) but anyway...im so upset. Im so lonely. Im in another relationship and he is so nice but i still think about my ex husband. It is like a disease. Its too hard to tell him that I dont want to talk anymore, but I've got to move on with my life. I have 0 friends and my family members are tired of me. Help.

2006-08-01 15:50:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Has anybody seen that commercial for Viagra where the slightly graying man of 45 or so is sitting and watching a TV program when his gorgeous, very shapely wife / gf of about 30 or so gets up and lightly brushes his shoulder as she slowly struts her stuff on the way up to the bedroom? I've seen it quite often on Fox Sports Network during telecasts of Cincinnati Reds games. Don't know if it's being telecasted nationally or not. Point is, how can a man possibly need Viagra when he's got a woman that looks like that? Lord, I'm 55 and as I sure hell wouldn't need any help!

2006-08-01 15:40:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've posted a few questions about my marriage. My husband and I have been talking more and more about divorce this week; even had an argument today. I'm tired of fighting. It's not good for me or the kids. He won't file even though he has the money. I'm broke, but am highly considering taking money out of one of his accounts to cover the retainer/filing fees plus a month for a hotel stay for me and the kids. I feel it's best to get away from this or else it will make me sick. I already get headaches just about everyday. I just don't see how we can make amends. I don't want to live this way anymore.

2006-08-01 15:39:22 · 14 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2

I wanted to give him the night of his life! Romantic dinner alone, candles, body oil, etc,etc,
What do you think?
If you have any better suggestions please tell me!
By the way he will be 53 years old on his birthday!
Help?

2006-08-01 15:36:53 · 30 answers · asked by iLoveDawnDawn 3

I got this great new job as an admissions advisor at a university. The pay is great, so are the benefits, and the people that work there are awesome!!!!!! I thought i would never find a job like this since most of my other jobs were crappy and paid less than 7.50 per hour and no benefits. Anyway my boyfriend works as a mover at a moving company, but the work is not steady. So ever since i havent gotten this job my boyfriend has been stand offish of me. I dont understand he seemed happy when i got my interview with the company.

2006-08-01 15:35:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-01 15:27:19 · 4 answers · asked by luvaboy 1

i'm a 27 years old, married 7 years, 3 kids, happy being casual! low rise jeans, tank tops, long hair-casual! now my loving hubby is asking me to wear skirts, tailored shirts and look more "prof. chic". i'm an at home mom and i don't think the chickens care how well i dress! i love to please my man, but this is difficult. i dress like the woman i feel that i am. i love color, wear make-up, and care about my self. its not that i don't want to look nice, i'm just not prof. chic. any advice?

2006-08-01 15:24:06 · 25 answers · asked by rawlin 2

2006-08-01 15:23:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-01 15:22:18 · 12 answers · asked by Thuy Nguyen 2

My parents got a divorce about a year ago...my dad's been out of the house for about a year, and a couple months after he moved out, my uncle - my mom's brother-in-law - came up from North Carolina (I live in NY) to visit.

I found this rather odd, since we haven't seen or spoken to him in about 4 or 5 years. On top of this, he came to visit without his wife, my mom's sister.

Today, I walked in on them kssing on the couch. I turned around as soon as I saw them and ran upstairs...I don't think they saw me. My uncle has come to visit 3 times this summer, for about 2-3 weeks at a time, and I can only assume this didn't just start and its been going on the entire time.

I'm 17 years old, and I can accept the fact that my mom will have a love life. But with her sister's husband? To me that just seems wrong...

What do I do? Who do I tell? I'd probably feel most comfortable telling my dad, but he has nothing to do with this. Should I just keep quiet? Please help me...

2006-08-01 15:19:40 · 8 answers · asked by ?confused? 2

Let's be serious with this one. Thanks.

2006-08-01 15:14:38 · 10 answers · asked by Gothic Martha™ 6

2006-08-01 15:08:55 · 10 answers · asked by luvaboy 1

I had been married for almost 11yrs..Now it is over!! I have been alone for a long time due to his traveling out of the country...And now he tells me he does not love me anymore..Are sex life has been terriable for the past 5 yrs..NONE in 13mo..We were a young couple we should have had more of a intimate relationship..But now I know why..I suppose if I was in a marriage and did not love the person I was with I would not be sexual either..Right?Any advice??I am open...

2006-08-01 15:03:00 · 19 answers · asked by He~loves me~NOT 1