My parents got a divorce about a year ago...my dad's been out of the house for about a year, and a couple months after he moved out, my uncle - my mom's brother-in-law - came up from North Carolina (I live in NY) to visit.
I found this rather odd, since we haven't seen or spoken to him in about 4 or 5 years. On top of this, he came to visit without his wife, my mom's sister.
Today, I walked in on them kssing on the couch. I turned around as soon as I saw them and ran upstairs...I don't think they saw me. My uncle has come to visit 3 times this summer, for about 2-3 weeks at a time, and I can only assume this didn't just start and its been going on the entire time.
I'm 17 years old, and I can accept the fact that my mom will have a love life. But with her sister's husband? To me that just seems wrong...
What do I do? Who do I tell? I'd probably feel most comfortable telling my dad, but he has nothing to do with this. Should I just keep quiet? Please help me...
2006-08-01 15:19:40 · 8 answers · asked by ?confused? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dang girl,
I think we should just find you a classy Vegas strip joint to work in because with that family life....
Good luck on the driver's test. Remember what I said and you will do fine. Let us all know how it works out.
2006-08-02 17:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the aunt and uncle in question still married? If they are, you will need to confront your mother about her relationship with your uncle. It is totally inappropriate for her to be doing this and your not saying anything is showing your approval of it. I realize that this may be difficult for you to discuss, and you're right, your father does not need to be involved, but letting it continue is unacceptable. If your mother decides to continue the relationship with your uncle despite your request, you may need to break the news to your dad and see what he suggests. For your uncle to be visiting 2-3 weeks at a time tells me that there are issues in his marriage as well. Father knows best. He should be able to help you.
2006-08-01 22:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.............do you know for a fact that your aunt and her hubby are together? I mean they could have split up.
If they are together, you should tell you mom that you know what is going on...I mean you are 17 it is not like you are a child and seen something that you thought was wrong....you seen something you know is wrong.
Depending on how your mom reacts would be a good clue on what to do next.
Is she sorry and did it just happen.....what is she excepting from the relationship etc.
It is not as cut and dry as you want it to be.
I wouldn't tell your aunt tho.......talk about issues...your mom is going to hate you for it...and your aunt is going to hate your mom and so on.
And whatever you do DON"T tell your your dad..like you said he has nothing to do w/ it....don't need to bring him in on this matter
NC....I am in NC....reckon I know the dude? I could spill the beans for ya...
2006-08-01 22:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is their business regardless of others' opnions. They cant help their feelings maybe it just happened. And if anything, a TRUE family would try to understand and support them for it and not put them down or make them feel some type of way. How do you know they dont already feel bad? Obviously they do if they had kept it a secret. Like I said, they can't help their feelings and s-h-i-t happens. All we can do is mind our own business, live for ourselves and NOT judge others.....whomever is meant to know, wil find out in due time. Dont take it upon yourself to tell. In all honesty and in reality, its not your business :)
2006-08-01 22:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sigh....such a very wrong thing for your mother do do...AND your uncle. And your mother is doing such a vile thing with her sister's husband? That is really vile. Adultery is not what your mother should be teaching you.
I would not go behind your mother's back and tell anyone. If you do anthing at all, let that be talk with your mother...let her know how what she is doing makes you feel.
Good luck, dear one...I pray for you all.
2006-08-01 22:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind your own bussiness and let it be.they are both adults and who knows what her sister is doing if she lets him come that much with out her.
2006-08-01 23:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by miss v8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your uncles wife. she deserves to know what is going on.
2006-08-01 22:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jocelyn A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u should tell your mother sister
2006-08-01 22:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by angel h 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋