just being rude to a child?

Question

I am separted from my husband and our 8 and w12 years old daughthers and I are going on a trip . Our 8 years old daugther was over her father house and asked him for some spending money. he said i don't have any money. so she asked him if she could ask grandma (his mother ) for some and he told her don't you ask granny for nothing. she was so hurt . you see I left him for not being the man about taking care of his family I 'm marry for 11 years and I got tired. I could stay because of the kids. don't get me wrong his love his kids but he is begining to me irony and it is get to me to tell him off. I trying to wait until I see him in court, but it is get hard not to saying anything.l we haven spoken in each other see i left 2 months ago. I try talking to him but he sut me out complete. I don't want the kids to because very hurt but he is not trying at ll my being a good parent with them with me. any advice with be appreciated. I have to leave it was make me very sick

Answer 1

Well you did the right thing you left. Hopefully things will work out for you and the kids. Focus on that. Don't focus on trying to talk to your x. Explain to your daughter that her daddy doesn't have any money and that it would be wise for her to come to you with what ever she needs or wants. I don't know what else to say except good luck. My x and I communicate very well but it took about 4 years.

Answer 2

My husband and I divorced 6 months ago, so I know what you are going through. One thing I told myself was not to get disappointed by how he is going to be as a father to our two kids (4 and 6 yrs. old). I knew that he wasn't that great of a dad while we lived together, so I couldn't expect him to be better now that we are split. Don't expect too much from your ex. I know it's hard because you have more pressure on you now, but you will only be disappointed if you think he will now be the father you want him to be.

With time, you will make your own new life. Dedicate yourself to your kids, as I can see you are, and when they are strong and healthy (emotionally), you will find things (or a man) to make you happy again. Do your best to stay out of your ex's relationship with his children. Kids can survive almost anything with a good, strong love from their mother. You probably did the right thing to leave him, so don't let him drag you down now.

Answer 3

If you plan a trip for you and your children you need to make sure that you have the spending money for them - it's not the father's responsibility, you chose to take the children somewhere - not your husband - how do you know if your husband or the grandma is not strapped for money themselves? Remember - before planning a trip you have to look at the funds before the trip is planned - don't depend on anyone Else's money for a good time.