How do you know when you are being abused mentally or emotionally by your spouse?

Question

Physical abuse is very obvious. Mental, emotional abuse is more subtle. When your spouse is not verbally physically abusing you, how do you know you are being abused?

Answer 1

You lose your self-confidence, you feel you are worthless, you don't look in a mirror because you don't like what you see, You can't find anything nice to say about yourself, you think, "If my husband is saying this to me it must be true," and don't questions what he says about you.

Answer 2

I'm not a psychiatrist, that would be the person who could best answer your question. I would say that if you get away from that person for a few days and feel like a weight has been lifted off you, then that relationship is abusive to you. I think it takes two to make a marriage, so it's hard to say that one person is abusive. Relationships can become so full of negative energy, that you have to leave for your own mental or emotional health. Maybe just getting some space inside the relationship would diffuse it.

Answer 3

There are 3 types of abuse. Mental, physical, and sexual abuse. Ok, like you said the physical is a no brain-er so to speak. The sexual should be as well, but just in case, that is when husband/boyfriend has sex with you when you don't want it, which is also rape.
Now for the mental abuse, that is when they are always yelling at you, calling you names, putting you down, belittling you, etc.

Answer 4

Talk with people,do not keep anything hidden,This is like when you think your partner is having an affair,if your thinking it then your mind is telling you to watch out. Go see a professional or call a hot line they can help lead you in the right direction. If the other party is making you feel bad about yourself or putting you down these are great signs something is wrong, If they are keeping you only to themselves something is wrong, If they're blaming you then watch out.If they tear you down and then apoligise and then do it again,watch out. There are books you can read at any library about what to watch out for as well as the internet. When they make you feel as though everything you do is wrong and they are always right,if they only cut you down when your alone so no one else can hear. Watch out. Abuse will get worse as time goes on,not better.

Answer 5

Well, does he make you feel insecue and useless? Does he tell you you are stupid, ugly or worthless? Is he always telling you how wrong you are? How you can't do anything right? Does he forbid you to do anything (drive a car, pay the bills, go out without him)??? Does he not give you privacy? Does he alienate your friends? Does he try to keep you from your family? That's abuse. If you don't feel in charge of your own life because he won't let you, that's emotional abuse. You should never let another person control you.

Answer 6

My first husband was verbally and emotionally abusive to me, and I stayed with him too long. Over the four years we were married I went from being a college-educated, self-sufficient, happy young woman to a depressed, crying, overweight person who was dead on the inside. It took a long time for me to get back to my old self. One reason I stayed so long is because I didn't believe in divorce. Now I know that God doesn't want people to stay in marriages where they are belittled, yelled at, insulted, manipulated and forced to live like second-class citizens in their own home. In other words, an emotionally and mentally abusive marriage.

My heart goes out to you so much it hurts! Please take care of yourself. Life is too short to let someone chip away at your self-esteem little by little, day by day, year by year. You deserve so much better.

Answer 7

When you feel worn down, hopeless and worthless because of your spouse's behavior toward you. When that happens you are being emotionally abused. When they cut you off from family and friends or things that make you happy you are being emotionally abused. When you have no control over yourself or your life you are being emotionally abused.

Answer 8

When he makes you feel like sh*t because youre wearing blue eyeshadow instead of brown eyeshadow. When he hides your car keys and refuses to let you out of the house because you wont 'talk' to him. When he calls you names. When he hits the wall instead of you. When YOU start feeling like all you want to do is sink into the ground and never come back. When he tells you that you need help and that everything would be better if you were on medication. When he keeps you from having a phone or makes fun of you for finding comfort in a video game or chatting online with family and friends.
When he insults you, belittles you in front of your/his family, tells you how you cant do anything right, has sex with you then says he has had better from a monkey.

Answer 9

You need to look up support for abuse and you will see the clear signs and the graph of stages of the abuse cycle than you make your own mind up.....most people being abused have no idea they r being abused.

Answer 10

very carefully read what Ziggunerin and Sally wrote, they said it the best. and is exactly what i would say to cause iv been there. and if you choose to stay it will only get worse, physicall abuse is next in line. any kind of abuse is a red flag. get out of it fast.

Answer 11

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