i'm a 27 years old, married 7 years, 3 kids, happy being casual! low rise jeans, tank tops, long hair-casual! now my loving hubby is asking me to wear skirts, tailored shirts and look more "prof. chic". i'm an at home mom and i don't think the chickens care how well i dress! i love to please my man, but this is difficult. i dress like the woman i feel that i am. i love color, wear make-up, and care about my self. its not that i don't want to look nice, i'm just not prof. chic. any advice?
2006-08-01 15:24:06 · 25 answers · asked by rawlin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband is a construction worker, he works with about 7 other men.
2006-08-01 15:52:09 · update #1
You should do what you feel is best, but it is always good to change it up, keep that fire in your relationship. You husband may be attracted to you more if he is not so familiar with you. Plus men love when ladies dress up for them, it makes them fell important (which he is because he is you husband and the father of your children). Don't change for him, change for yourself, don't get stuck in a rut, add glamor and be chic. But still be yourself there is a balance somewhere. Good luck!
2006-08-01 15:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by ladyoflight81 1 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Ok so if he asks this of you.. in turn you should make a request of how you would like him to work out more and wear "so and so" more.
Now this sounds immature but the message is to have him reflect on his request to you.
Is he ok with you making such a request to him?
Should you feel ok with it?
All these things he say of "prof' chic" speaks of the woman that wear such at his work. He must be noticing the woman there and feels guilty so he wants you to wear these outifits so that he can oogle you instead of them.
There's a time and place for every outfit. If you are just hanging out at home, wearing office "chic" doesn't make sense.
I would start asking him questions.
If he wants you to dress up when you go out together places/dates etc.., well that's a natural request that you want your mate to match how polished you are and to look snazzy, no worries.
2006-08-01 15:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear jean skirts, those look just as good and you can match anything with them! Otherwise, tell him no. You can dress up when your older and feel more dainty. Your children rearing days are not over yet and that requires casual clothing. However, make acceptions. Like going on dates with him...maybe wear dress up capris or a dressier skirt (or a jean skirt with a dressy top!).
Have him buy you pearls! No matter what you wear, you ALWAYS feel dressed up when wearing pearls! I love mine and wear them all the time in my jeans....or even if im getting ready for bed and wearing my pajamas!
2006-08-01 15:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have already gone astray and is trying to get you, for some sadistic reason, to dress like the woman or women he has the hots for. Turn it around and ask him to wear an ascot and a smoking jacket when he comes home from work and serve him a brandy. See what he says about that!
2006-08-01 15:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by toolate4me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your shallow husband that you'll dress the way he wants you to when he starts wearing high collared shirts and polyester pants. Tell him you think he would be totally sexy in clothes like that. Hopefully, he'll get the point. If not, talk to him about it and express how you feel to him. If he loves and cares about you, he will apologize for being so childish and drop the issue.
2006-08-01 15:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont do it, chances are, he might go astray you know what i mean? Maybe what he means by that is dressing up when you guys go out? Just because you've been married for 7 years does not mean you have to let yourself go. Surprise him and make little steps. Im not asking you to change yourself totally but maybe you should compromise a little. Good Luck...
2006-08-01 15:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay....perhaps you husband is taking a fancy to the women he works with. And in leiu of taking up with them, he wants you to portray that look. Now, is he asking you to wear such clothing when you go out on the weekends? Or is he wanting you to look like that all the time? Now this would be awkward to dress all the time...take some time to talk with him privately, with not distractions around, like children and phones. Ask him what he really wants...does he want you to go to work?
2006-08-01 15:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him shopping with you and pick out a middle-ground outfit that you both can settle on. I used to like baggy clothes and my husband took my shopping and pointed out how much better I look in fitted clothes. I still wear my baggy clothes when I want, but I found the style he recommended gives me added confidence. Start with one outfit and wear it occasionally to see how you like it. Don't go buying a whole new wardrobe - as you said you don't have much reason to wear it around the house.
2006-08-01 16:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...I wouldn't change yourself and who you are for anyone. Ask him why he wants this sudden change for you? What does he gain from it? Will it help his attraction to you? Well, if you feel you can do it and not feel like you are taking away who you are, I say just throw on some clothes he likes and just appease him a little bit.
Sounds like he still wants to be with you and not go running around with other women. I guess thats a good thing
2006-08-01 15:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wear that sort of stuff when you and your husband go places together. Tell him that around the house you are comfortable in how you look but you will try his style when you go places with him. Just come to a compromise.
2006-08-01 15:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋