Marriage & Divorce - 7 June 2006

My wife spends 3-4 hours a night on the PC then gets pissed when I get online. She has all but eliminated our friends from our life (since they do not go to church like she believe they should). She is constantly hiding things (bills, her bounced checks, etc)from me but then snoops into my email & checks up on me. She blames me because she can't afford to go to counsoling but She took a job making less than half of what she was making & told me I should get a new job making more $$ or find a part time job to help pay bills. I've looked into divorce & really can't afford it because of the kids. I'm physicaly & emotionaly drained. I love my wife but at what point do I save myself?

2006-06-07 04:38:15 · 13 answers · asked by bishop 2

ing him can cause him to get very upset with you ?my husband swears up and down tht he didnt cheat and that he is getting tired of me accusing him.Now another thing thats plays into all this he doesnt get weird calls he doesnt just get up and leave for hours and not tell me where he is going he is with me 95 % of his time that litle 5 % he is at work .He only disappeared for one day for 5 hrs and i found out that him and some girl from work hung out so he could vent because she was there and was willing to listen so he said they sat at the park and talked for a little bit he aslo said she didnt stay with him the whole time and that she also has a bf and is very happy and one more thing he also says he doesnt find her attractive and says he doesnt even look at her like that so am i just over reactting is it at all possible that they just sat and talked for an hour or 2 ?I mean what would you think if this was you ?

2006-06-07 04:33:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have heard that (in hetro relationships) the woman generally instigates divorce, but the man causes it (always the evil man!). I am wondering if we know about same sex couples? This would be illuminating.

2006-06-07 04:33:05 · 5 answers · asked by city_shuffle 2

My wife has been depressed forever. Hasn't worked in 15 years even though we've had enormous financial woes. Past abuse of alcohol. She has not been to the doctor for even basic care in over five years. Sleeps all the time...she is basically a glorified babysitter (there to get the kids off to school and there when they get back - most of the time). Intimacy is infrequent at best (once every six to eight weeks) and she won't kiss or hug unless I'm on my way out the door. I've tried everything short of filing for divorce - but I'm scared of screwing up the kids (10 and 12). Her family, and mine said they would support me, but I wish there was a better alternative. I don't want to spend my next 40 years unhappy, without intimacy and broke. I want my kids to have it better (I work, parent from work, do homework when I get home, cook dinner most of the time, do 90% of the laundry, cub scouts, girl scouts, etc...) Should I just file for divorce and let the chips fall?

2006-06-07 04:31:29 · 16 answers · asked by Justanyoldname 1

I saw buddies who likes to share this issues to everyone, like a glorious prompt, do you keep it or share it to every single one who knows nothing of you?

2006-06-07 04:29:05 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-07 04:28:02 · 6 answers · asked by dora_onwardshipping 1

Do you take separate vacations... or a few days...... to go away ? To the beach, mountains,etc. ? Not with the intention of being unfaithful, but to just get away.

2006-06-07 04:23:25 · 30 answers · asked by Beaumeader 3

I Know someone who's Mother-in-law, that does every thing in her power to make the daughter-in -law up-set/unhappy. This is the Deal: they live with the in-laws, the mother-in- law will carry news to he son about his wife, even the most simplest thing the in-law will find a fault. Also The mother-inlaw cooks with plenty pepper, where as the daugther-inlaw can't eat pepper, if the she don't eat from them her husband get up-set. The Daughter-inlaw cooks for herself and her husband and the in-laws don't eat. This causes alot of of argument between the couple. And leaving the in-laws is not an option.

2006-06-07 04:19:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for about 2 years and have a 15 month old daughter. It seems like having sex is more of a chore than a pleasure. By the time I get off of work and he gets off of work and I try to squeeze quality time in with my daughter I am too exhausted. Is this normal. What can I do to bring the spark back. I am only 26 and hubby is 28 that is too young to have this problem!!! Constant fighting about his family also kills the mood. IS my marriage doomed! Any advice would help. What is the number of times per week that most people our age have sex???

2006-06-07 04:15:15 · 13 answers · asked by dumbunny33 2

2006-06-07 04:06:36 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Lily♥ 3

Is this a negative? Would he gain from waiting or is he possibly confused/not sure? We had already come to an agreement as far as assets, alimony, length of alimony about 3 mos ago. He stated that he wants what is best for me. Why hasn't he filed, yet? Should I worry? I have even asked if he still wants to go through-he says yes. FYI: I love him and don't want D-reason i haven't filed.

2006-06-07 03:55:02 · 10 answers · asked by Mir3lla 3

She scheduled 3 hearings and cancelled all 3 for various reasons. Will the petition die of after a certian amount of time? I am in Georgia.

2006-06-07 03:54:46 · 7 answers · asked by HLD3 1

I've been married for 13 years almost 14. The first 11 years were great - just the little things that really are petty and insignificant in the whole scheme of things. However, a couple of years ago he started getting involved with some unsavory characters, got involved in meth, committed some crimes and had a long term affair. I recently filed for divorce...which I am going through with regardless. My question - he has been clean for over a year and really changed his life. He wants to give it another go, but I am a little leary of it - I don't want to be hurt again. We do have five kids together in which I have been the sole provider for (2 yrs) along with my grandson. He has been helping out as he can for the last 9 months. He lives in a halfway house that takes his checks, but he will be getting out in July. He is NOT moving back in with me - he says he is willing to start from square one. Am I being naive to even be considering such a thing?

2006-06-07 03:50:30 · 18 answers · asked by peyton 1

2006-06-07 03:43:55 · 13 answers · asked by catch 22 1

i have been married fo about 5 years and i love my man but what sould i do lever me or stay i hate to look at him sometime

2006-06-07 03:43:44 · 23 answers · asked by serinawilson2001 1

Sometimes when I go out to the club, I wear a cheap wedding band I bought at Wal-Mart and I get hit on even more than when I don't have it. It's mostly single girls, but sometimes I bring home a married woman also. Any other guys wear fake wedding bands?

2006-06-07 03:41:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should I ask her to get rid of it?

2006-06-07 03:40:56 · 16 answers · asked by Mr. Red 1

Guys always claim when you get married their life is over and everything. Why is this?

2006-06-07 03:39:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why don't you wear one? Is it because you still want to appear "available" to other women? If you do not wear one, why do you expect your wife to?

I would just like to hear a guy's view on this.

2006-06-07 03:30:38 · 20 answers · asked by innocence faded 6

2006-06-07 03:25:58 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-07 03:23:31 · 32 answers · asked by wuddy092000 1

for the last 4 months she's been seeing a therapist. while seeing her therapiost she quit her job of 13 years. as her husband what can i do to help her?

2006-06-07 03:16:06 · 8 answers · asked by RARE AIR 1

after being married for 19 years..and now divorced & single mom..I'm not sure what directions to take now. with my life..??

2006-06-07 03:10:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

This woman knows that we are married. I have spoken to her and informed her that she was crossing a line and they are still seeing each other. He claims that it is a friendship. I am not sure if the relationship is sexual or least I cant prove it is or not, but I really would like some feedback as to what a nother has or would do in my situation

2006-06-07 02:54:36 · 79 answers · asked by Mrs. G 1

i need a deeper meaning of a spouse?

2006-06-07 02:47:02 · 6 answers · asked by jenny 1

I am marrying a man that treats me like a child! He thinks he can tell me what to do in even the smallest matters. He tries to tell me what to do for things ranging from whether I (God forbid!) spend MY
money on lunch when I'm out running errands all day (I'm underweight already) to how clean I keep MY car (a car I worked 2 years at barely above minimum wage to buy). He says he wouldn't have to tell me what to do if I wasn't so forgetful all the time! I work long hours so sometimes I get tired or distracted and forget things.

The real kicker came last night when he asked me what I was going to change my name to when we got married. I want to take my last name as my middle name and use his last name. He thinks that's stupid and is adamant I drop my last name in any form altogether. His mom told him he was being a male chuvanist pig, and that it doesn't matter what my name is. He suffers from severe depression and won't take his medicine. He didn't used to be like this.

2006-06-07 02:46:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is an Indian, He converted to Islam before i met him. I'm a Chinese, Free thinker. We love each other deeply but thinking of converting just for the sake of marrying to him doesn't really makes sense. Do i have any other options?

2006-06-07 02:41:04 · 17 answers · asked by jave7685 2

2006-06-07 02:38:41 · 21 answers · asked by mxamy 3

my friends wanna know. im agains them. is it illegal? PLEEEEEEEEEASE say yes

2006-06-07 02:36:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband now of 7 years has had a history of ups and downs. There was some physical abuse and emotional abuse. I did my share as well too. We have 3 kids, and are in marriage counseling now. He doen't really drink, does not do drugs, and never gambles or goes to strip clubs. He is a good father, and there is a show of promise. The last incident was about a few months ago. I moved out for a month, until he got his act together. I just don't know if I am staying in the relationship amidst a false hope. Or if I should just really stick it out, and hopes for only better. I hope that I didn't confuse you all!!

2006-06-07 02:35:52 · 20 answers · asked by ♥jessica♥♥ 2