My boyfriend is an Indian, He converted to Islam before i met him. I'm a Chinese, Free thinker. We love each other deeply but thinking of converting just for the sake of marrying to him doesn't really makes sense. Do i have any other options?
2006-06-07 02:41:04 · 17 answers · asked by jave7685 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you can marry anybody that make you feel so special to you.
2006-06-07 02:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you do have options, and you know it. IF this demand is met, what will the next one be. ???? I am sorry to be so pessimestic, but .... where was all this conversion before you fell in love? Is this something new to you, or was it on the table from the start? I find it hard to believe that you, as a free thinking Chinese woman, could possibly commit to a religion that holds women as chattle! You have been raised differently, and this will not change. Within a short time, you will resent everything about your 'husband.' Stop now and go no further. This will lead to disaster.
2006-06-07 03:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do. If he wants you to convert so he can marry you then he is enforcing you. Islam does not allow that, I would suggest take your time and learn about Islam if you like then convert else find some one else. Reason I say that because once you get married without converting, you will have conflicts and arguments and especially when you have children. By that time leaving him will be hard because it will affect your children. So think and study or explore ISLAM and then make a decision.
2006-06-07 03:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an Indian and my husband is from Grenada in the caribbean. I would not ask him to changed for me. You should comprimise. He should be open minded to comprimise too. You have you beliefs and he does too. That does not mean you should have to change for him. Just have respect for each others religion. If you want to change then that is fine but if you don't want to tell him so. You could have an islamic wedding or a chinese wedding. You can still encourporate chinese culture into your life if you get married. Cook the food for him and he ccoks for you. You can pray with him and you can teach him your language or vica versa. Be happy!
2006-06-07 04:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by iggysmalltop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry him --- It will become a big issue!
Continue dating and see how your relationship goes with his Islamic beliefs --- if he starts pushing you to convert --- tell him your feelings --- chances are he will break off the relationship
2006-06-07 03:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't change religions for the sake of someone else. especially when you don't really want to be that religion. there is no law that say two people of different religions can't get married. be whatever religion makes you comfortable. change for him and you will end up hating him in the long run.
2006-06-07 02:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, it's important that both of you have the same faith, if you share the same faith it's beneficial to your married life, if you're a free thinker it's dangerous for you to sacrifice your faith to one belief that you don't know. Do you know who is Allah, what makes it different to Buddhism, does it have a relevance? I think both of you should seek one true faith. Pray to the God who answers prayer, not by deeds not by human wisdom not by philosophies but seek one true faith, a Christian faith.. try visiting this site www.amazingbible.org
2006-06-07 03:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by forget..me..not 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do that and you have the start of the end. Why can't you each enjoy your own beliefs and teach your children a little of both and let them decide what is best for them.
2006-06-07 02:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who told that the conversion doesnt make any sense becoz u r gaining him.. & that will be sweetest part of your life & after that you can lead the life of a free thinker thinking him alone...
2006-06-07 02:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love can overcome religious beliefs. You need to decide what is more important to you.
2006-06-07 02:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋