Does everything change when you get married?

Question

Guys always claim when you get married their life is over and everything. Why is this?

Answer 1

I think it's their view on the whole relationship. When you are just dating someone, you always know in the back of your mind, on some level, that you are not really completely attatched to that person, that you could "break up", even after having kids and owning a house and all that. Being engaged brings new excitement, and some level of selfishness, knowing that the person loves YOU so much that they are willing to make that commitment to YOU. Once you are married, it's a little euphoric, the rush that you went through with it, the blessing of the families, and the excitement of starting something fresh, something new. After that wears off, your feelings can change into thinking different thoughts such as "being stuck" or knowing that the person has no intentions of EVER leaving, and some men start thinking all the excitement is gone. That's when they start seeking that excitement agian, and usually the ones seeking it end up cheating on their wives, not understanding that if they are caught, she WILL leave. When she does, they all of a sudden think she's a b*tch or something of the same catagory. I wonder why they don't go back to the feeling of wanting to hang on to her because she is leaving. How exciting!!

It works both ways. I have known women to go through this.

Also, I don't believe EVERYONE goes through thinking thoughts about their life being over, a LOT of people are extremely devoted and happy with the ones that they have chosen to spend the rest of their lives with.

Answer 2

Yeah a lot changes and sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. You live together and you learn all the thing that you didn't know about them before. Like how they take care of themself/the home/work/clothing and other things that you weren't aware of. You have to learn to accept those things since you are married and it's supposed to be death do you part. You also should find out what you are willing to accept from the person. If you find something you cannot and will not accept then you need to talk to the person and let them know that this needs to be changed. I dont mean trivial things... I mean your standards of cheating, hitting, lying, being open and honest the things that when you get down to it REALLY MATTER!!!

The guys lives aren't over they just have to stand up and be a real man.
That means no more cheating, lying, and being lazy because they have to do their part. In a marriage a man is supposed to be the dominate but in most marriages men tend to treat their wife like their Mother and then complain about their wife "acting like their Mother".

Answer 3

The most cause of this statement is that most marry when passion is running their lives and after marriage this passion slows down over time and the real person you married begins to inter your mind. All the things you don't like about each other begins to show up where before you didn't even bother to see if there were any faults. Some over come this and some don't and end the marriage.

Answer 4

It only changes if you let it change. Just be the person that you were before you got married & expect the same from him. If he starts acting to different then talk to him about it.
There will be some strain on the marriage at first, because of the new responsibilities of bills & caring for more than one person. But if you both work then things should be ok.

Answer 5

It depends on if you married the right person. It will change if you get married for the wrong reason's and if they are not your soulmate? I have been married 2 times and I can say the first time was tottaly wrong. I wanted to get a divorce a month after we got hitched. This time it is so different. I love it. It gets better as time goes bye. He is definatly the one for me. We to everything together and I can't get enough of him. So it depends on the person you married. Are they the right on. Anyone can get married. But not everyone marry's the "ONE"! And when you do, you will know it.

Answer 6

It does change. But only because you now have bills "together" not your bills and his bills. Its a bigger partnership. A little advice. If you do not have kids then wait at least a year after you get married to try. You need to know how to grow as a married couple before you have kids. It makes it easier for the both of you.

Answer 7

They just cant do whatever they want any more. and the same goes for girls that are married. you are living your life for your self and your wife or hubby now. i got married @ 19 and a lot of things changed for me. Just make sure that you are ready to get married and that you have done everything you want to do as a free person first.

Answer 8

Their life isnt over, but they can no longer do all the things they used to do. They can't stay out late, and have no worries, and they can't set bad examples (for the kids sake) but change is a good thing some guys dont wanna face the facts

Answer 9

Yes. Your perspective changes; you begin to see things from a different point of view (and you should - you are married now)

Usually it changes for the better.

Some things are obvious - you can have joint financial status now; children born of a marriage have a differing legal status in many states.

Some things are not - you have decided to bond yourself to this person ostensibly for life; you have demonstrated tour commitment to each other.

Good luck, and many years of happines!

Answer 10

Guys who say that are afraid of commitment! Your life gets better once your married! They also like to say things like that when they are around the other guys. It's just one of those macho type of things.