I Know someone who's Mother-in-law, that does every thing in her power to make the daughter-in -law up-set/unhappy. This is the Deal: they live with the in-laws, the mother-in- law will carry news to he son about his wife, even the most simplest thing the in-law will find a fault. Also The mother-inlaw cooks with plenty pepper, where as the daugther-inlaw can't eat pepper, if the she don't eat from them her husband get up-set. The Daughter-inlaw cooks for herself and her husband and the in-laws don't eat. This causes alot of of argument between the couple. And leaving the in-laws is not an option.
2006-06-07 04:19:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They need to save up enough money to get their own place.
I had a mother-in-law that did the same. But she changed when she realized i really wasn't the person she wanted me to be.
Your friend should not get upset with his wife because she doesn't eat for goodness sake if she can't eat pepper. And her husband needs to start taking up for her. I know you are supposed to honor thy mother & they father...but you are also supposed to due unto others as you have them do unto you.
2006-06-07 04:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can also be a major problem in your marital relationship. Here are some tips to help you cope with your in-laws.
1) RESPECT
Even if you don't think your in-laws deserve it, show respect for them anyway.
2) LOYALTY
It is natural that your spouse may feel some loyalty for his/her family. It's OK as long as you don't come in second.
3) CRITICISM
Even if you have the in-laws from hell, don't criticize them. If you spouse criticizes them, just listen. Making comments other than asking clarifying questions can create problems.
4) ROOTS
Take time to discover both your genetic and cultural roots and share them with your spouse.
5) FEELINGS
Identify and share your feelings about your family of origin with your partner.
6) HEALING
If you are having difficulties with your own family issues, it is important that you be open to healing any past injuries so you can move forward in your life with your spouse.
7) BOUNDARIES
Define and set boundaries with your in-laws concerning your feelings, thoughts and expectations about holidays, vacations, visits, time with grandchildren, financial issues, and privacy.
8) SAYING NO
Know when you have had enough. Have a password if necessary so that your spouse understands when it is time to end the visit with your in-laws.
9) CARE GIVING
As your in-laws and parents age, it is important that you discuss practical concerns with them such as their health and financial issues. Find out their expectations about their care in case they cannot provide for themselves in their later years.
10) PRIORITY
Remember to put your marriage first.
2006-06-07 11:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to get out before they don't have a marriage to speak of...and if her husband can't stand up to momma then it may be that the writing is already on the proverbial wall.
2006-06-07 11:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by peyton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. They need to move out. Living with in-laws NEVER works.
2006-06-07 11:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move up. Live separately! Living together with in-laws will destroy your marriage
2006-06-14 03:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Fie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT
M GOING TO BE MARRIED IN DEC
MY FIANCE WANTS TO LIVE WITH HIS PARENTS BUT I HAVE TOLD HIM NO NO NO
IT WILL NEVER WORK AND ALSO THERE WILL BE NO PRIVACY
WE HAVENT DONE IT YET AND I DONT KNOW JUST HOW I WOULD BE ABLE TO LIVE WITH THEM
2006-06-12 23:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by prlnr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋