My husband and I have been having A LOT of disagreements lately. I've read tons of articles about how to "fight fair", "say what you mean", "be a better listener", and on and on. I want our marriage to work, especially b/c we have 2 children.
The problem is this: No matter what I say, everything is always my fault. My husband says I don't listen (which, by all professional accounts I do - i.e., making eye contact, hearing what he says, empathizing with his emotions, repeating back to him what he said, not interrupting, not giving advice, etc) but he still says I don't listen! I walk away from our disagreements feeling defeated b/c I feel like I did something wrong, apologized profusely, and promised to try hard not to repeat the behaviors in the future. Later, I remember that I didn't get to express my issues in a constructive way. He turned the entire conversation around to him and his needs. I've sent him articles about figting fair and communicating but he WON'T read them! Help!
2007-03-11
05:31:03
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Falina T. Rayon
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Marriage & Divorce