I am a single mom and I met a man at work I really connect with. The only problem is that he is a different race and my family hates it! I see him anyway and my son loves him. I really think we could have a future together but my family is soo racist. So i guess my question is Do i hold my head high and ignore my family and there racists ways?.. or Do I just give it up?
2007-03-11 05:36:46 · 10 answers · asked by kayla_ann_simmons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is your life, and you are a grown woman, you should be able to make your own choices based on you and your child. you family needs to grow up and realize that skin color has nothing to do with personality. color is determined by where a person's ansestors evolved. do they not like people just because they are from a neighboring town? it's the same consept, and sadly millions still fall prey to racism. fight the battle by continuing to see this guy. who knows, you may have found Mr. Right.
2007-03-11 09:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
This is Monique,
I think you should follow your heart and pray to God that your family will end their habits of being racist, because that's a really bad thing to be, and having to be in a relationship with a different nationality, can be a really exciting feeling and life, because you can learn more of what they do and at the same time, have another person to love and take care for!!!
2007-03-11 05:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on something like that. I just got out of an interracial relationship (but we didn't end it because of that). You have to get beyond those feelings. I know how you feel, some of my family and some of his family were like that too. But I'm telling you, I LOVED our relationship. It was amazing and I still love him. You have to do what is best for you. Ignore your family now and hope they come to terms with it in the future. Don't give up!
2007-03-11 05:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about what your family thinks it's you and your son who should make the decision. It's your life and it's up to you who you bring in to your life. If you really like him then go for it. Maybe your family just needs to get to know him more. Or maybe they may never like him, but just rememeber that it's your life no matter what. But ask your son at least once a week if there is anything he doesn't like about the guy and what he does like about him. Because your son has feelings to. Hope everything works out!
2007-03-11 05:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore your family. They have no say in your life unless you are out of your mind, and harming you or your son. Tell them that you are doing this for YOU, and they have no say. If thay dont support you, than they arent living up the standards of a real family.
My mom never adopted kids because she knew they'd become outcasts on my dad's side of the family since they wouldnt be pure-blooded. (my family is sort of local-royalty)
My mom says a lot she wishes she had adopted kids, but their opinions held her back.
Dont walk out of this door of opportunity. You have someone who makes you happy-- hold onto them.
2007-03-11 05:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your family about this man, tell them that you love him and he loves you back. Tell him that you want him to be part of your life, and you will respect their opinions as well as your's. At the end you have to trust your heart.
2007-03-11 05:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Little*Miss*Perfet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think it's right then go for it! if ur family is trying to stop u from what may be the man of your dreams then they need to grow up and realize they can't control u. do what feels right.
2007-03-11 05:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by envirocowgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do whatever that makes you happy.............and you don't have to let your family know about it anymore......if you don't wanna hurt them......
2007-03-11 05:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur heart not what they say
2007-03-11 05:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by lisaanndubay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whats right for you and your kids
2007-03-11 05:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by jamesbutchhood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋