they have kids together but she calls just to talk to him, she still wants him back.
2007-03-11 05:29:43 · 18 answers · asked by annieluvsgary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not much you can do,she will always be there in his life as with yours too if you stay with him
2007-03-11 05:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by guitpicker777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing that you can do directly he is the only one that has to power to unless you threaten her. Look this is what you do you never do the dirty work yourself you always work behind the matrix. You should tell him that it bothers you and you think that they are having an affair or some stupid thing that would get him riled and he might just give up on it.
If they still want to be friends and all there is to it for him is friendship is okay but you should alert him that she still wants him. Talk to him about it and make him understand how uncomfortable you are with the situation. If he slows down on taking her call and talking to he on the whole then you are in the game and he loves you, is willing to try.
If not then you know to yourself that he is still inlove with the ex wife and can't say no to her and there is no future in that.
2007-03-11 05:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 23:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends ex-wife will always be a part of his life, they share a child together. Wouldn't you want his kids to know their parents get along? You should. They broke up for a reason, so you shouldn't accuse him of still wanting her, or her of still wanting him. It seems that you are a bit insecure about it, and you should talk to him about it, so that your insecurity will be addressed. But you should not treat him like he is doing something wrong, nor should you plot to "get rid of her". That is kind of silly isn't it? If it poses that much of a problem, maybe he isn't the man for you. Like it or not, that's life.
2007-03-11 05:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not get rid of your boyfriends ex wife if they have kids together.
You can only be understanding that he will have communication with her for the sake of the children. If you make a big deal about it you will only let him know that you are insecure in the relationship.
You can't make him stop taking to her but you can make him not want to talk to her. You can be the women he wants to talk to and spend his time with outside of his children. Move slow and steady and you will see a change in him. A man loves a women that they understands and is not jealous and is secure with herself.
2007-03-11 05:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Either grow up and realize that this is the man you picked (with all the baggage that comes with it) or find another man!!
My ex (and the father of my boys) and I talk all the time. I wouldn't have gotten married if my new husband was threatened by that. My children will grow up healthier and happier having two parents that get along and are committed to their happiness.
Stop causing drama. If your boyfriend loves you, and is an honorable man, nothing will happen with his ex. If he's a slime ball, then you're better off without him.
2007-03-11 05:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he takes her calls and continues to talk to her, it seems like he is not willing to get rid of her, let alone you getting rid of her. I understand about the kids issue, but if he knows she wants him back and they talk about that together, then you need to ask him ...straight up, if he wants her back. You might not like the answer, but at least you will find out for sure. If he wants her , then let him go and move on. Good Luck
2007-03-11 05:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. It sucks and you better get used to it cause it is not going to go away. If you really can't take it/handle it, I suggest you find a guy without so much baggage. You will be a lot happier in the end. Trust me. Besides, some of these guys love the fact that their girlfriend and ex are in a sense fighting over him. Get out now and run fast.
2007-03-11 06:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by 2Jaded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can do, he will always have contact with her until the children grow up. Once they grow up the contact will be less. The important thing is do not get your relationship with him mixed up with his relationship with the ex-wife. When you try to control someones relationships you start having problems. Trust him and his love for you and just accept the ex-wife.
2007-03-11 06:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry wont happen especially when there are kids involved. You will have this problem for as long as she is single. Wait it out and if she is still single after 6mths to a yr and is still calling him and bothering him. Then you may need to ask am I happy enough to stay in this relationship?
2007-03-11 06:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant.She will be a part of your life as long as their kids live.Like it or not.Why are they divorced?Before you blame it all on her, get HER side of it first.Theres usually 3 sides to a story, his side, her side and the truth.The fact is youre going to have to share him with her for life.If he doesnt wnat her back then it doesnt matter if she wants him back or not.If youre afraid he will run back to her, then you'll help that along by being whiney and complaining and bitter about her and especially jealous.It'd be nice if they could work things out tho for the kids sake.If that is possible bebig and push him in that direction.Think about the kids, not yourself.
2007-03-11 05:59:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋