Okay, i am pretty young i guess (13) and i live with my mom and my stepdad. My dad lives about 12 miles away. Well, i always have problems with my mom's side of the family so she always tells me to get out and move away and stuff but everytime i try to move out she tells me no. But i want to live with my dad but i cant just abandon my moms family like that. But then i dotn wanna go to my dads cuz i will just want to move back to my moms. And my mom literally never bothers with me, just my little sister. Their worlds revolve around her life. I have no idea whatsoever where i should go or what i should do. PLEASEEEEE HELP ME THIS IS SERIOUSE!!!
2007-03-11 05:27:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why not sit down with your Mom, Dad, and Step Dad and discuss how you have been feeling. Maybe you can work out something that would all of your needs. Since your Dad only live 12 miles away I can not see why you would not be able to spend as much time with your Mother's family as when you live with your Mother. Talk, communicate, and work it out with all.
2007-03-11 05:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom probably doesn't want you to move in with your dad because she would loose some child support. If you do move in with your dad just accept that you will be there until you're old enough to move out and you will have to live by his rules. The other thing to think about is does your mom and step dad REALLY pay all the attention to your little sister, i know it always seems like the other kid gets all the attention but I wonder if you asked your little sister if she would think that YOU got all the attention. Just something to think about Hun. Good luck, you're going thru something a lot of people have to go through. Just remember stick it out where ever you end up and make the best of it. There is almost always something good in every situation.
2007-03-11 06:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel having come from a family of divorce. Number one, nothing you can do will solve your family's problems. 13 is a tough age and it only gets tougher as you go through high school, but once high school is over and some time passes things with your family get a lot better. Number two, your mom shouldn't be telling you to move out and then to tell you the opposite just as you are ready to move out. It is giving you a mixed message. You need to listen to your heart. Which parent really takes the time to listen to you? Which parent understands you? Your parents live close enough to each other that once you are driving you can visit as much as you want (and you should be able to visit as much as you want right now, so if your mom doesn't let you visit as much as you want that's a big red flag right there.) You need to live with the parent who is best for you, and at 13 that's hard to decide. But you need to take a step back and really look at the situation and ask yourself these tough questions. If living with your dad is the best thing for you then you need to tell your mom that and not worry if she's hurt by that because she is your mom and she will get over it.
2007-03-11 07:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by johnnysgurl124 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are too young to have these kinda problem to solve on your own. I think the best situation is for you to concentrate on your study. Think as this is the only solution for you to get away from all this problems. By study and doing good at school can make you to the top, try to keep yourself busy on the school holiday by working as part-time. Same some money for college if you can. You have a long period to go from now... start to think about your future is the best to forget about this problem. Being good and smart will get you a better job or good college later on. You wont need anyone else to help you. Think about that OK.
2007-03-11 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you sit down with your mom and dad and maybe someone you trust like a family friend to be your advocate?
Your mom shouldn't be telling you to get out and she needs to know how much that hurts you and makes you feel unloved. Maybe it is time to live with dad, at least for a little while.
2007-03-11 06:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being such a baby. sounds like your own behavior is ruining your family experience. you think people should love everything about your behavior out of pure obligation. it doesnt work that way. quit thinking of moving and abandoning your family and things will get better. if you move, it will be the same problems cause....ooops there you still are! sounds like you are extremely jealous of your sister. maybe its because she earns her loving attention. hmmm. time to grow up hon.
2007-03-11 05:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to move to your Dads, permanently.
2007-03-11 05:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋