Im going back to my ex husband what is the first step?

Answer 1

It depends on why you left him in the first place. My first step would be to work out those issues.

Answer 2

The first step should be to sit down, discuss ANY and ALL problems that resulted in the seperation to begin with. Then agree together that these issues will not be brought up again in any way shape or form unless another occurance happens. Also you need to be going to marriage counseling from the start. My husband and I periodically go to marriage counseling and we arn't having any issues, it is just a good way to make sure you are really hearing what the other is saying, and make sure you are on the same page. Don't bring up the past, number one, it is over and you two are getting back together. Good luck

Answer 3

The first step is to work out why the two of you split in the first place and resolve those issues first. If you have not done that then what is the point of going back, why make the same mistake again.
I don't know why you split but I have found that usually both parties make mistakes.
Unless you can fix what was broken there is no point getting back together.

Answer 4

Well there was a reason that you got divorced, so think about how you have grown as a person since then. Do not allow yourself to fall back into behaviors that created the first rift. Although I will not go back to my ex EVER I think about how I know what works for me now and that if he were back in my life that I would not allow him to lord over me and tell me how to behave. I am a big girl and can do things on my own, but would want a partner and friend not a mother (or father as the case may be).

Answer 5

Counseling --- its the only way that anything will work. Everyone thinks go back and then it will be like it was before I left. It doesnt work like this a lot of things were probably done while you were apart that may be thrown back in eachothers faces. Counseling is the first step.

Answer 6

You need to first decide why you want to go back is this a step forward for you will this get you where you want to be emotionally? Why did you leave? Is this situation that made you break up resolved? You also need to go to counselling together.Make sure this Is the right thing to do and not just the easy thing because it would be very sad to find yourself back where you were when you broke up.

Answer 7

Work out all the previous issues. Communicate!
Give a little. Remember that you both have to work at a relationship. It needs to be nurtured. Oh yeah, did I mention...communicate? Talk about everything! Be interested in what he is doing and ask him to do the same for you.

Good luck. But, don't go back to him for the wrong reasons! If he is abusive, stay away. You don't need that.

Answer 8

Making sure that you are doing it for the right reason - not loneliness - not the kids not finances, but because you two have figured out that you still love each other enough to work it out. GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING BEFORE you move back in together - getting professional help can only make your relationship stronger and give you two the fighting chance you are looking for - but for the now - suggest that you both keep your own places for a while. you'd do that with dating someone new wouldn't you?

I wish you both the best of luck.

Answer 9

Just make sure this is what YOU want as well. There is reasons that he is your EX. However, you guys might work out...

* Never both be angry at the same time.
*If you must criticize, do it lovingly.
* Never bring up mistakes of the past
* Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

** Good Luck To You**

Answer 10

One step forward and two steps back, no one ever gets too far like that.Its not a step you need to take, but a giant leap would shed new light on your love life.Move on girlfriend.