Family & Relationships - 9 January 2007

Is it possible to ever truly forgive a spouse who has an affair and leaves you for another person? Do you ever look at that person in a positive way again? If you have kids and have to deal with them - how do you get past all the hurt and anger? How do you not let those feelings impact the way you deal with them in the future?

2007-01-09 15:18:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if your planning to leave your partener..which way would you choose..i think id just hop on the bus...read the lyrics from this song and choose>
The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer is easy if you take it logically
Id like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover

She said its really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning wont be lost or misconstrued
But Ill repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just listen to me <-----------
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

She said it grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again
I said I appreciate that and would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why dont we both just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning youll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free

You just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just listen to me <------------

2007-01-09 15:18:13 · 1 answers · asked by free-spirit 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-09 15:17:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok... so my girlfriend broke up with me, and said it would be better if we were just really good friends. Now, I got her this gold charm bracelet with a heart on it and a sapphire charm. And earlier, I got her this necklace from something silver. Now, she started wearing the necklace the day after she broke up with me, and today started wearing the bracelet? And I also think she was trying to get me to see the bracelet too, she was holding her hand or fidgeting with it... And she is also getting close to another guy, and he knows I gave her those things, yet she still is doing that!?! Why would she be doing this, lol

2007-01-09 15:17:33 · 14 answers · asked by Zach S 5 in Singles & Dating

why do friends among girls love calling each-other '*****' ? i cant undestand this

2007-01-09 15:16:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

there is this guy we are best friends and i like him and i know he likes me but he wont go out with me because he said he is scared to have a realtionship with me.how do i make him not scared and what does he mean that he is scared to have a realtionship with me.

2007-01-09 15:15:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 15:14:27 · 14 answers · asked by B_REAL 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Supposidly, he's scared of commitment. Whatever that means. I really like him but i can't get over him even though it's bull. We're pretty good friends too but he's shy.

2007-01-09 15:14:18 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Singles & Dating

if She has a Boyfriend already???

i live in illinois and she lives in michagen right now, how do i get her to tell me if she has a boyfriend without asking her directly (that would be just a tad awkward) i want to ask her to go out with me, but i want to find out if she has a boyfriend before i make an @$$ of myself.

any suggestions???

2007-01-09 15:13:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

they always have negative things to say about themselves. like am i too fat?, do you find me attractive?, do i look okay ? etc why ?

2007-01-09 15:13:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

you will never find "the one" especially when you are reaching the age of 30. I have this feeling all the time, I try to be hopeful but it is really hard.

2007-01-09 15:13:15 · 9 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Singles & Dating

I took my sister and her friends to the mall and now I like one of them. She called me on Sunday and we talked a little bit, but then I asked her if she wanted to do something this week and she said she didn't know. I called her yesterday and got her voicemail and I left a message but she didn't call back. I texted her later and she said she got the voicemail but didnt say anything about calling me back. Then I texted her and asked her to call me tomorrow (today) when she gets a chance and she said alright. But she didn't call today. I asked her about it and she didn't say anything but she texted me and told me she had cheering tomorrow, but I can call her after that. I'm confused... I need some advice.

2007-01-09 15:13:05 · 3 answers · asked by Floridaboy 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 15:13:03 · 2 answers · asked by Bob Dylan 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 15:12:36 · 8 answers · asked by dat251flava 2 in Weddings

well he only hangs out with me like once every 3 weeks, and when he does, it seems like he wants to be hanging out with other people. in a normal situation i would get rid of him in a second, but this is not a normal situation. i am gay, and i sort of like him a lot, partly because he doesn't care i am gay. also, he seems to know of my feeling for him, but he just blows them off... i think he only hangs out with me over pitty. i think he feels bad that i don't have a lot of friends. he's always busy with other friends and literally hangs out with me less than twice a month. i was just wondering what other people might do in my situation....

2007-01-09 15:12:04 · 12 answers · asked by J J 3 in Friends

okay so me and my boyfriend havent gone any farther than makeout but all he talks about is going farther. should i go farther beause he is my boyfriend? does he actually like me or will he dump me after he gets what he wants? any help??

2007-01-09 15:12:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Soooo, I have been dating this guy for about two months. We aren't established because I just recently moved away, but I am moving back within the next 6 months. We get along great! I just need some advice on our "intimate experiences"....he's older than I am. I am 22 and he is 28. When we hook up we don't do anything but (I feel so foolish saying this) "dry hump" with all clothes off except our undies. haha but we really get into it. We both are very attracted to each other and our sessions get hot and steamy, but it doesn't ever go any further than that. Is that weird? Am i missing a sign that maybe he's not into me? In the moment he says things like you are so beautiful. I was just wondering since it doesn't go any further do you think there is something wrong with me? Is he not into me sexually? Any advice?

2007-01-09 15:11:55 · 5 answers · asked by mambo209 1 in Singles & Dating

Just finished watching Boston Legal, and the big sex topic tonight was being friends with benefits, and it was last as long as no one finds out...

2007-01-09 15:11:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

recently separated, i have three small kids would like to date at some point in the future do men want to date some one with three kids?

2007-01-09 15:11:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There are other questions like this, but everybody has a unique situation and this is mine:

I have been dating my fiance for 4 years, I am in my last semester of High School. I am planning to go to a fully accredited online school to become certified as a Vet Tech. I am currently working as an apprentice vet tech, and my fiance works at an auto dealer. So far we have saved almost $4,000 towards a down payment on a home, and we both support ourselves reasonably well.

How I feel about him: when I think about spending the rest of my life with him, I can actually see that happening. We get along well, we do fight, but hey who doesnt? With other boyfriends I just could never picture myself with them, it is different now. I have no desire to date other people at all, and I love my fiance with all of my heart.

Do you think it is an ok idea to get married next year?

2007-01-09 15:11:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

what are the problems you guys face? Can anyone give advice to my hubby because im think im driving him crazy, being pregnant and all..or some advice for me so i can calm down or somthing?

2007-01-09 15:11:03 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i am a big girl, and he was a big guy, he needed the surgery for health reasons, but i feel less confident now, if u had the surgery and can tell me about your spouse or significant other and what happen in your relationship, thanks

2007-01-09 15:10:48 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Length? girt? opinions?

2007-01-09 15:10:29 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friend waited five years to have sex with this one guy and suddenly they broke up....

so does this mean you shouldn't have sex in a relationship?
is that why they say....marriage before sex

...i'm not one but anyway should we still follow that method or do you think it's incorrect?y?

2007-01-09 15:09:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 15:09:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am in this relationship w/ a boy who is a little older than i am and it seems like we always have problems....either he's accusing me of cheating on him or its just a big communication problem.....just today he tells me that some girl kissed him....now how ami suppose to believe that.....what should i do? almost everyone i know wants me to break up with him, but i do love him.....i just we are at different parts of our lives so its going to be a little rough....but out of all of the bad times, we do have good ones....but i also feel that i can't trust him because while im in school, he is doing only God knows what......Distress in need of some helpful advice!!!!!

2007-01-09 15:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Seriously...divorce courts grant lazy, golddigging housewives tons of money a month, they get the kids, the support, everything. No wonder why so many ex-wives get killed. I'm tired of this stupid *** feminist society putting women on a pedestal while mistreating men. We are often attempted through school and the media to be brainwashed into thinking its women being mistreated, but reality says vice versa

2007-01-09 15:08:15 · 20 answers · asked by d-tes 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I would like something that he could have as a reminder of his birthday. I was thinking of maybe donating to a third world cause in his name , like maybe providing funds for something in agriculture or a well or something. He is quite religious and so a Christian or Catholic charity might be good. His birthday is in a week.

2007-01-09 15:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by scarlet 1 in Singles & Dating

dont get me wrong I loved her I have given her me hopes and dreams. but yet she has accused me of cheating more than once i am honest and tell her everything and she does not believe my words. I have done the things she has aked me to be a better husband to her. but still she mentally and emtionally treats me like crap. so help me out here?

2007-01-09 15:07:35 · 8 answers · asked by angels shadow 1 in Marriage & Divorce

have an ex that i dated for 3 years and i love her with all my heart. In the end of the relationship i slacked off and pretty much pushed her away we been broken up for 3 months now lately she has been calling me alot i asked her out to dinner and im sorry for the way i treated her i want to know if theres a chance that i can show her that i still care and that im sorry and if i could get another chance. Have you ever been in this situation? i miss her so much i want to treat her like shes meant to be but is it too late??

2007-01-09 15:07:04 · 15 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Singles & Dating