i am in this relationship w/ a boy who is a little older than i am and it seems like we always have problems....either he's accusing me of cheating on him or its just a big communication problem.....just today he tells me that some girl kissed him....now how ami suppose to believe that.....what should i do? almost everyone i know wants me to break up with him, but i do love him.....i just we are at different parts of our lives so its going to be a little rough....but out of all of the bad times, we do have good ones....but i also feel that i can't trust him because while im in school, he is doing only God knows what......Distress in need of some helpful advice!!!!!
2007-01-09 15:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love him, but leave him.
listen to your freinds...they can see what you don't.
he's playin' games, so move on. you'll find better!
ttrust is important.
you already know what you'll get from him, which sounds like too much bs and not a lot of the good stuff.
2007-01-09 15:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I had a relationship like this once. I wasted a year and 9 months with a guy who was cheating on me for about the last 3 months(maybe longer). During those months, he always asked me if I was cheating and he was very paranoid. Also, he would be extra nice to me & he was very paranoid about me having guy friends. What I'm trying to say is...if he is paranoid about you cheating on him, he may actually be the one cheating. I hope that makes sense to you, it's hard to explain it on here.
Also, if you feel like you can't trust him...then you probably can't. Just step back and look at your relationship from the outside. If a friend was in this situation, what advice would you give to her? You may love him, but sometimes it's better to let someone that you love go if the relationship is not working. If it's meant to be, then you two may end up back together. Good luck to you.
2007-01-09 15:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO relationship is going to work without trust. If you honestly feel you can't trust him and that he's cheating on you, you might consider cutting him loose. If he's causing more pain than happiness for you, you need to think about leaving him even if it hurts in the short term. It always hurts at first but it'll get better some day just keep hoping and don't give up on yourself. You found one guy, there's more out there that will treat you with love and respect.
2007-01-09 15:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you this and this is from my own experience. your not in a relationship your in a 'he' s the boss' situation. if he cant trust you and hes constantly telling you that your cheating its because he has something to hide or hes not innocent. Love is without jealousy he should trust you can go to a club with your best guy friends and still come home faithful in his arms. honey what you beleive is love and what love is to diffrent games. i know you love him and its hard to leave so tell him he needs to straignten up his act or you'll act and walk out. And if he dosent he didnt love you enough in the first place. he may be older and think your young and mindless but girl you have it going for you. dont ever let a man or anyone put more on your pretty head than it worth.
and if that aint the truth i dont know what is
2007-01-09 15:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was telling the truth and someone kissed him, that doesn't mean that he kissed them back. look at it this way, at least he told you that someone kissed him. he didn't have to tell you, and be the good boyfriend he is he told you the truth.give him a second chance, but if it happens again get rid of him.
2007-01-09 15:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by taralynXXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump him he kissed another girl!!!!!!!! his clearly cheating on you!!!!!! trust is important in a relationship forget it put your thoughts and energy into school and get an education thats the only thing that will stick by you theirs heaps of guys out there.
2007-01-09 15:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone you know wants you to break up with him, you should listen to them. When opinion from lots of different sources is unanimous, you have to at least wonder why.
2007-01-09 15:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, just let him know how you feel and let him know you want a faithful relationship.
2007-01-09 15:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋