There are other questions like this, but everybody has a unique situation and this is mine:
I have been dating my fiance for 4 years, I am in my last semester of High School. I am planning to go to a fully accredited online school to become certified as a Vet Tech. I am currently working as an apprentice vet tech, and my fiance works at an auto dealer. So far we have saved almost $4,000 towards a down payment on a home, and we both support ourselves reasonably well.
How I feel about him: when I think about spending the rest of my life with him, I can actually see that happening. We get along well, we do fight, but hey who doesnt? With other boyfriends I just could never picture myself with them, it is different now. I have no desire to date other people at all, and I love my fiance with all of my heart.
Do you think it is an ok idea to get married next year?
2007-01-09 15:11:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just to add some things...
Both of our families are backing us getting married
The age that we would be getting married (if we stay together for another 2 years) would be 20 and 22
And to the person who said that vet techs don't make enough money to support a family....you are wrong. I know several vet techs who have great families, by no means are they rich, but they live well. Also, that is what I want to do,and have wanted since the age of about 5, and I don't care what it pays, and the school I am going to is a real school, just online so I have time to work and earn money.
As for buying a house with the credit issue, we both have been slowly establishing some decent credit. Buying things here and there, and making sure we pay them off right away.
Finally, I ask this question to merely see what your opinions are. Personally I feel that this is what I want to do and that is that. I just wanted to find out what others thought, that's all.
2007-01-09 15:32:57 · update #1
It's honestly up to you but I don't think that it's a good idea. Yes, 4 years may seem like a long time but in reality, it's not especially since you're only 18. When you hit your early to mid 20's, that's when you grow into the person you will become and that person may be very different than who you are now. You may even want different things then.
2007-01-09 15:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, but I think you already knew that answer. If everything's so great, then why are you asking for advice on this? You're 18 and, while you may not think so right now, you're very young and have your whole life ahead of you. Vet techs don't make much more than minimum wage and $4000 isn't even close to enough moey for two young kids with no credit or bad credit to buy a house. I'm sorry if this seems harsh, but it's the truth. If you're really meant to be with your boyfriend, you'll wait and it'll still happen. Do you and your boyfriend a favor and don't rush into it.
2007-01-09 23:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try living with him first. 4 years may seem like a long time, but if you live with him you might realise you hardly know anything about him... Remember the saying "You don't know someone til you've lived with them". 18 is young to get married, but hey, I was engaged at 16-18. Pratically married, had the rings and everything. But you're still young and have all the time in the world to get married. Why not wait another few years?
Why are some people in a rush to get married? I think some people think marriage is always forever and marriage fixes things. But it doesn't. You really don't want to be divorced at 20 do you? So think about it carefully!
2007-01-09 23:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by sweet*peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision of course because it's your life. Here's my opinion: you are still very young and I can tell you from experience that people do change over time especially at your age. Things may be great now but it's hard to say who you will become a couple of years down the road and if you will still be compatible. I suggest putting it off and waiting until you complete your education at least. If you are meant to be together you'll stay together and if not you two will part ways with one another.
Either way I would suggest you hold off getting a house together because I know someone who is stuck in a horrible relationship with her boyfriend because they co-own the house they live in and she has invested alot of money into fixing it up...neither of them will let go of the house. It's kind of like that movie "The Breakup" where neither partner wants to give up their condo...think on it....
2007-01-09 23:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are very young and managed to save 4 grand, that is pretty darn good... You both are headed in the right direction, getting a career that will provide. I think it depends on the maturity of who is getting married....Then you have to deal with the parents...They will probably say your too young....and you are young, that isn't a bad thing....but when you really set up "home", and say I do, sometimes it changes things...sometimes its really what should be.....I got married just turning 19, and we will be married 27yrs this Feb.1st. so really it just is are you ready, and is he ready to completely settle down. If you both are, and seem like you have your heads together, then do what you think is best. Hope you both have a good life........wait on the babies!!!....It is expensive, and spend some time with each other first.....
2007-01-09 23:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a wonderful thing, isn't it? But it's not everything. You may be very much in love and sure now, but that can easily change when your situation changes. Wait a while longer till you're a bit more mature and stable (finish your studies, get a degree and a job). When the right time comes, you won't have to wonder anymore, nor ask strangers for advice. Best of luck sweetie.
2007-01-09 23:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by TY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and see a future with him then get married! I am 21 and my fiance is 20. Everyone says we're too young, but when you're in love you know it. When you can see a future with that person that's all that matters. And since you sound like you both have your heads on straight and know what you want and you already have saved for a house, I say do it.
As long as you two are happy, nothing else matters. If you're friends and family are happy thats even better. But its you and him and I wish you all the best!
2007-01-09 23:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Halley G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
agree with China. You can't even legally drink yet. You may think you know what you want in life and how it's going to work out, but you don't even know yourself completely yet. You're still "growing"
2007-01-09 23:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by dylancv62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no too young wait i went through this and know u wont' listen because of stubborn teens but if you really want advice don't do this finish school real school then decide
2007-01-09 23:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by marion r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋