there is this guy we are best friends and i like him and i know he likes me but he wont go out with me because he said he is scared to have a realtionship with me.how do i make him not scared and what does he mean that he is scared to have a realtionship with me.
2007-01-09 15:15:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys do not like to go psycho.. are afraid to fall for a girl. you maybe just to much for him to handle cuz he has always wanted you.
2007-01-09 15:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Romantic attraction is all about energy - set the stage and let the flames ignite.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Love yourself - and show it, using body language: Sit up straight, make eye contact and shake hands firmly. There's nothing sexier than self-confidence.
•STEP 2: Be approachable. Again, here's where body language can help - face the person with your arms uncrossed, make eye contact and smile with sincerity.
•STEP 3: Plant some romantic seeds - put the idea of romance in his or her head without being too obvious. For instance, do thoughtful things for your soon-to-be suitor to show that you are going out of your way for him or her; listen with your whole heart when he or she speaks - there is nothing more romantic than to feel someone is really hearing you.
•STEP 4: Create opportunities for a romantic interlude. These can be either subtle ("I heard that movie got great reviews. We should really go see it sometime.") or much more blatant ("Can I cook for you sometime?")
•STEP 5: Don't be afraid to make the initial contact. Sometimes, all the other person needs is the green light.
•STEP 6: Be yourself, and take pride in your individuality. If the other person doesn't appreciate it, you definitely deserve better.
Tips & Warnings
•Be a friend first and spend some time together.
•If your self-confidence needs a little boost, indulge yourself with a makeover or a visit to a day spa; spend some time alone doing something that you're good at; smile often and work on your posture (both of these can affect your mood).
•Focus on other things to avoid becoming obsessed - and to show yourself and your potential suitor that you have other interests and talents.
•Be patient - being pushy or needy is likely to get you the opposite response from the one you're after.
•Don't waste your valuable time and energy on someone who is clearly unavailable. Does the person's body language make him or her unapproachable? Perhaps he or she does not want to be pursued in the first place.
2007-01-09 23:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If he literally said "I'm scared to go out with you"...that could have several meanings. The worst being "I'm not interested".
And several meanings in between. You should ask him why he's scared.
2007-01-09 23:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Have a gentle smile on your face. And maybe point out that going on a date does not necessarily mean having a whole relationship.
2007-01-09 23:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my best advice is to ask him to hangout with you casually as like just friends after you guys do that things should just fall into place if they are meant to be.
2007-01-09 23:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by lora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he means by scared is that.. he treasures your friendship so much that he's afraid to bring to the upper level(meaning bf-gf) bec.. you might fight one day and not be friends anymore..he's afraid to loose you as his best buddy...
2007-01-09 23:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by anette 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as him out stop being a cat, so are u going to ask him? well e-mail me back if u decide to at koebsnumber8@yahoo.com
2007-01-09 23:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by kobesnumber8@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he could be trying to tell you that he doesnt want to ruin the friendship. i would just move on.. dont push him into anything hes not ready for.
2007-01-09 23:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so tell him you just want to have a little friends with benifits.
2007-01-09 23:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by momo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you are psycho.
2007-01-09 23:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋