Family & Relationships - 7 January 2007

Has anyone ever been in a relationship with someone who had anger/rage/abusive tendencies who went to counseling?

Did it help your relationship?
Was there a singnificant change?
Are you happy you stayed and gave it a chance or do you wish you had cut your loses and moved on?
Was the relationship really fulfilling if you stayed or just "better" then it was before?
Did you leave and then find out later that he/she got worse or better with their next partner?

Just trying to get a feel from other experineces of people if someone can really "get it" with serious counseling or a wake up call.

Most interested in people who have left an abusive man and if he changed with his next partner. I know everyone says they never change but if you can share a concrete example I wouldreally appreciate it. Like did you find out your ex is treating his new gf better or worse then you.

Lots of questions I know LOL
Answer what you'd like.
Thanks for your time :)

2007-01-07 05:37:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

first of all id like to say that i am off a marijuana addiction for a week. it was fairly easy to stop and i haven't looked back at the drug since. but unlucky for me, a day after i had stopped my mom found my paraphelia, and i told her the truth but i also explained that i had stopped. ever since then she's been giving me lectures every single day. she also calls my phone constantly to check up on what im doing. i am now going to the gym and doing more productive things but that isnt enough for her. she obviously thinks that marijuana is highly addictive and extremely worried that i will come back to it. i seriously think that she is being too over reactive, because during lectures she would look extremely depressed, saying things like how she cant sleep at night, even going on her knees and begging me to tell her the truth. it makes me angry because she is now accusing me of something that i am not doing.yes i did make a mistake,but we have to move on with our lives.i am 17 years old

2007-01-07 05:37:41 · 16 answers · asked by ihatekoreangirls69 1 in Family

2007-01-07 05:37:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So my best friend Anthony is 24 and he confides to me in everything. Well the other day he told me he wanted to get CIRCUMSIZED!! I was soo surprised because of his age since I thought that's something they do to baby boys not grown men!! Anyway I tried to talk him out of it b/c I think it's a BAD idea and his future girlfriends may not sleep with him if he has it done. Any suggestions to stop him from doing it??

He actually showed it to me and I don't think it looks bad at all!! I don't know why he wants to rid himself of his foreskin!!

2007-01-07 05:37:19 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-07 05:36:18 · 9 answers · asked by Toby j 1 in Singles & Dating

we are 5,5 years together, first he was married, now he is for 2 years divorced, but still living with his exwife. they have a daughter (7 yrs). he told me he loves me, but...do you think he will ever leave her for me?

2007-01-07 05:36:12 · 33 answers · asked by witch 2 in Marriage & Divorce

well how do you tell if you really like someone....???

answer plzzz

2007-01-07 05:34:11 · 7 answers · asked by Pony Express 1 in Singles & Dating

it really hurts my feelings alot,and when i confront it to them theyre like "oh shut up,your overexaggerating"???

2007-01-07 05:33:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i want to flirt with this girl but i don't want it to sound awkward.....

2007-01-07 05:33:53 · 7 answers · asked by Buju 1 in Singles & Dating

i mean he was my first about three months ago and we have sex itleast every other week and more thin 2 times? j/w about my health!

2007-01-07 05:32:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just had to spend 2 weeks i a hospital with minor heart problems. i need to find a organizations that can help me with paying some bills. i am not asking for a hand out because i will pay it back in short order. my wife is in school and when i am out of work there is no money coming in. we had a small saving acct. but it went fast.i do not know where to turn. we have twins 14 years old and there is a never ending need for things. these are not wants they are truly needs.if anyone knows where i can go for help for a bout 2 weeks please let me know.

2007-01-07 05:31:08 · 2 answers · asked by dennis c 2 in Family

I broke up with my BF last Saturday and now he doesnt talk to me, he says he will call but, he doesnt and he says he will take me back one day and then the next day he says "I don't know" and gets off the phone?! The reason I broke up was becuz he said "I don't think this is going to work" and alot of crap about me was being said over myspace! By his friends and cousins whom I don't even know. And every time I call all he can say is "I don't know" and I called him the other day and asked if I could go down to his house and we could talk but, he said he will not be there?! It's drving me crazy WHAT SHOULD I DO?

2007-01-07 05:31:02 · 11 answers · asked by pebblespunk2 2 in Singles & Dating

i just had to spend 2 weeks i a hospital with minor heart problems. i need to find a organizations that can help me with paying some bills. i am not asking for a hand out because i will pay it back in short order. my wife is in school and when i am out of work there is no money coming in. we had a small saving acct. but it went fast.i do not know where to turn. we have twins 14 years old and there is a never ending need for things. these are not wants they are truly needs.if anyone knows where i can go for help for a bout 2 weeks please let me know.

2007-01-07 05:30:13 · 9 answers · asked by dennis c 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Where one of them was incredibly good-looking and the other one was decent. And I'm not saying they're "mismatched" necessarily but unexpected.

2007-01-07 05:29:05 · 12 answers · asked by Greg S 3 in Singles & Dating

I just can't figure it. The nice guys just don't do it for me. I'd rather get pissed about by a bad boy. I know I'm not alone, it's been discussed with girlfriends. But why?

2007-01-07 05:29:05 · 42 answers · asked by Buffy 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-07 05:29:03 · 28 answers · asked by liza 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-07 05:28:55 · 12 answers · asked by sheriff fatman 2 in Singles & Dating

yeah im doing homework now and i love listening to soft music to motivate me while doing my work, it helps keep me interested.my parents were YELLING at me to turn it off even tho it was on silenty because its "a distraction" which its not to me everyones diferent thats why i need opinions??

2007-01-07 05:27:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Im takin this girl i like to the cinema tonite and i havent dated in so long i think i forget how. so have you guys and girls any tips?

2007-01-07 05:26:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its very unlucky for me that the girl who ditched me for my classmate, has come in my postgrad class. They both hangout together always(obvious), but what angers me is they both are really mean and selfish towards other people. Whatever happens they first secure themselves and ignore everybody including me!!! They are self cenetered for themselves in everything!! and basically very rude to anyone who tries to talk to them or suggest something. She even told me once that she hates me!! straight face!! This angers me because i cant bear that the people who hurt me try to now act smart and without conscience. I cant believe i was once with her(its good it did not work out). But everytime i see them together i get totally irritated and feel this hate inside me!!! How do i control my anger and hate????

2007-01-07 05:26:31 · 8 answers · asked by metallixan 2 in Singles & Dating

It started when she was 16 and she blames me for her dad not giving her more money. She sent her dad a college graduation invitation leaving me out. Now her whole family rallys around her. Her brother sent his dad a christmas card and didn't even put my name on it like he normally does. This hatred (their words) has spilled over to my husbands brother and sister in law. We can't even have christmas at our house anymore because they treat me so bad. Any suggestions?

2007-01-07 05:26:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-01-07 05:24:53 · 6 answers · asked by BON S 4 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are at the lowest point in our marriage at this time. We had a plan about a year ago to start planning for a family..within the near future. The guys at work..had an idea to go work in Calif. and make lots of money!! So..by all means..he hopped on a plane 9 months ago and has come home about 6 days a month since then. He's in total awe of the amount of money his RN male room mates are making. Hence.. he started school..meanwhile..the baby idea was never discussed again...and neither was the long duration of school and what that would do to our relationship...and now he's taken that a step further and has told me he will continue to work out of state even after graduation..and "this is how he wants to work"..( 7 & 7)..he further adds..after graduation. .. we can have a baby. ALL OF THESE DECISIONS ARE being made and not truly discussed with me... I have plead with him that my feelings are not being heard! Reply is always but this is for our future.. ANy thoughts?

2007-01-07 05:24:04 · 9 answers · asked by Hear2Help 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Guys are easy!!! They are usually blinded by whats on the outside and don't really see whats really there until its too late. As long as u have a pretty face and a 'hot' body they're hocked!!!!!And they say females are the easy ones to catch.

2007-01-07 05:23:35 · 26 answers · asked by Krishy 2 in Singles & Dating

I mean without a sexual attraction to them. I mean most guys like girls who are their friends, and decides to go out with them. What do you think?

2007-01-07 05:23:24 · 11 answers · asked by Blue Eyed Blonde 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

How many pre-wedding parties is it normal to have? I know that it depends on how many the engaged couple want because it's their wedding. But what's the average number? I'm the maid of honor for my friend's wedding...she's planning on having a bachelorette party, a lingerie party, a bridal shower, another bridal shower with all the people from the church who aren't invited to the wedding, and a rehearsal dinner. Luckily,responsibility was divided and I was only assigned the bridal shower. I was just wondering though because this seems like alot of parties, especially since it's basically the same 10-20 people on all the guest lists and the bride/groom are expecting to get gifts/money at every event from every person.

2007-01-07 05:21:40 · 8 answers · asked by Keruma 2 in Weddings

am i normal if i need to have a shower before my boyfriend goes down on me, i just wont feel comfortable otherwise. this however, makes things less spontaneous. i feel silly asking him to stop so i can shower first!

2007-01-07 05:21:34 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend is very opposed to diamonds and other precious stones because they are related to the blood stone trade that funds wars and dictators in Africa, etc. What can I buy as a proposal / engagement gift instead? I've heard of buying matching expensive gifts (like matching kayaks) buy I would like to get something more long lasting.

2007-01-07 05:21:32 · 20 answers · asked by bluejay 2 in Weddings

I am a step parent of 3. The kids come over every few weeks or so to visit with their dad. Something that has been waying on my mind is on Christmas eve, my mom (whom lives with us)was trying to get the kids to go to sleep. She tells the oldest that if she dos'nt go to sleep Santa won't come and put presents under the tree. The oldest looks at her and sais "So what". My mom goes to walk off and the oldest flipps her off!!! I bring this to my husbands attention and he tells me he will ask her about it and that she will tell him the truth. Of course, she tells her dad she did'nt do that. He tells me my mom is seeing things and that his daughter would never do something like that, she, my mom is liying! I understand that parents can be a little blind with some things there kids do but this is going to far! I don't know how to deal with this.....

2007-01-07 05:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by Tami H 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what do you thing of him

2007-01-07 05:20:19 · 31 answers · asked by Mr Tiger Tony 4 in Singles & Dating