convincing my mom that i am done with marijuana for good?

Question

first of all id like to say that i am off a marijuana addiction for a week. it was fairly easy to stop and i haven't looked back at the drug since. but unlucky for me, a day after i had stopped my mom found my paraphelia, and i told her the truth but i also explained that i had stopped. ever since then she's been giving me lectures every single day. she also calls my phone constantly to check up on what im doing. i am now going to the gym and doing more productive things but that isnt enough for her. she obviously thinks that marijuana is highly addictive and extremely worried that i will come back to it. i seriously think that she is being too over reactive, because during lectures she would look extremely depressed, saying things like how she cant sleep at night, even going on her knees and begging me to tell her the truth. it makes me angry because she is now accusing me of something that i am not doing.yes i did make a mistake,but we have to move on with our lives.i am 17 years old

Answer 1

if you had any left can i have it?

Answer 2

the reason your mum is going on is simply because when you were smoking joints she didnt know,,probably fell for all your 'im just tired' excuses and had no idea what and with who you were doing these things with so even though you may have stopped she really has nothing to gage it by,,,,unlike say,,heroin where you are falling forward without realizing and everyone can see it she has nothing,,there are no real signs so she is more guessing than accusing,,half through guilt at not noticing and half through panic at whether or not weed was/is all you were doing.she is worried you are still lying,that you will get onto harder drugs which is quite common but not necessarily a forgone conclusion,all you can do is keep saying what you are saying,,showing you are acting differently,have you talked to her about drugs? have you told her why you were smoking? she may need to hear so she can at least try to understand,at some point she will see that you are normal,that you go out,come back and are not different /'tired' from when you went out,she is your mum and loves you and for a parent to feel they are losing their child to something as horrible as drugs it is turmoil and it is true,,she will probably not be sleeping,but some of this worry you can avail,,tell her about the drugs you have been doing so she can try to see you are not going down that road,so you are not in the danger she may fear you are,you may feel 'i am 17,nearly an adult', but you are also her child and she would kill for you and as parents usually fear the worst she doesnt want you dead,simple and if crying and whinging at you is all she has then it is for these reasons.you may know you are not going to be found dead with a needle in your arm but she doesnt and to have that fear is hell! talk to her AS AN ADULT,as you say,you are 17.

Answer 3

People who believe you can't become adicted to pot or that it doesn't affect their lives or the lives of people around them are stupid. If you are still living at home and you need to mature you shouldn't be smoking it. Would you want someone performing open heart surgery on you if they were high? Would you be the slightest bit upset if you had a kid in the car and they died in an accident, come to find the driver in the other car was high who hit you? The fact is, some people can control their usage and some people cannot. That's the problem. My father couldn't quit, always said he needed to bla bla bla, smoked it for 35 years, lost a high paying job becuase he couldn't pass a surprise pee test. He finally realized it was ruining his health and his mind (daily habitual smoker) I am 34 and my husband is 37, he had to quit after he smoked it since he was 10 - We have kids and they don't need to be finding crap laying around the house cause someone was stoned and forgot to put it up. Or when youv'e been doing it for so long it just became normal to be high all day - not a good environment and made for a poor relationship after a while. I don't think it's as innocent as you believe it is. Like I said, it's more of the nature of the person doing it that concern's me. So cut your Mom some slack.

Answer 4

Maybe what your mother needs is counseling. Seems like she is the one who needs help. So you made a mistake once, doesn't mean it will happen again. You should get rid of all the paraphernalia that you have and try and show her that you are truly finished with it.
Marijuana is addictive and can cause a lot of mental problems. It may help people with pain but it does have its fall backs too.
When my daughter went off drugs I watched her a lot but she was good, never went back to them.
What your mother is trying to do is lay a guilt feeling on you. What about your father. What dose he have to say, maybe you could talk to him or someone in the family about your mom. She needs to get a life and let you live yours.
You sound like you are getting thing together - keep up the good work.

Answer 5

First off, congratulations for choosing a life over a drug!
Have you gotten rid of all paraphernalia? If not, do so. It won't help you or your mom to have that stuff around.
To me, it sounds like your mom is overreacting just a little bit at this time.
Of course she is worried about you, but none of her worries would have made you stop if you hadn't wanted to anyway.
You may tell her that you're sorry she can't sleep, but you're definitely doing OK, going to the Gym, avoiding people who use the drug, etc.
Tell her that you are already doing everything you are supposed to, and if she insists on continuing to worry you can't help her.
Be gentle with her, but try to separate yourself from her worry. Let her get over her own feelings. There is nothing you can do about how she feels when you're already doing everything the way you should.

Answer 6

Look this is your mother. First of all your mother lost trust in you when you became addicted to marijuana. It is going to be a slow process to regain the trust and confidence of your mother. The more as time goes by and your mother sees that indeed you have done away with this bad habit she will regain her trust and faith in you. Let me say for your sake you truly are done with this bad habit. If you ever and I mean ever decide to apply with a company for a really good job you are going to be required to undergo drug testing. This is common place this day and time. So first you must stay clean for at least a year for all the chemicals associated with marijuana are out of your body. Then when you take a drug test you will show up positive. Most drug tests this day and time and done with taking a small piece of hair, because hair maintains your body history believe it or not for all of your seventeen years of your life. But companies check for at least a year. some two years. So before you decide to apply for any jobs with big companies that have good jobs, please make sure you can stay clean for a year but two years is the best so you can get this job. Eat right and drink plenty of water, this will help get all the chemicals associated with drugs out of your body. Be patient with your mom, she is just showing her motherly love for you because she truly cares for you.

Answer 7

Everyone makes mistakes dude. I've made plenty. I'd go with the drug tests, but the marijuana stays in your system for 30 days, depending on the amount you toke everyday or every so often. Also, traces of THC, are present in the hair 6 months after you smoke. So, keep that in mind, but I would tell her to drug test you if you really want to regain her trust.

Answer 8

Give her time to process this and she will eventually believe you. Don't be angry with her cus you did disappoint her and it takes time to get over it. I'm a mother of 4 and my oldest boy is a big pot head and there's nothing I can do to make him stop he's gotta do that on his own.Yes it hurts me to see him throwing his life away for this drug but what can i do other than sit back and give him support when the time comes.

Answer 9

I am glad you have quit and wish you well. In order to smoke weed u had to lie and be deceptive and now you want trust. Your Mom wants to trust you but cannot at this point. The only way you can earn her trust is by being honest, time and consistency. You have to earn trust it is not given to you especially if you have been dishonest. If you still hang out with friends who use I would suggest getting new friends who do not use. This will show her you are serious.

Answer 10

Flywho has a reallly good answer. took the words right out of my mouth. =) you can't do anything to change the way your mom feels at this point. Just keep up your progess and she will understand over time. She's just caring about you that's all.

Answer 11

Let her continue to check on you for a little while, and stay off the drug, in time she will learn to trust you again and stop calling to check on you constantly.