it really hurts my feelings alot,and when i confront it to them theyre like "oh shut up,your overexaggerating"???
2007-01-07 05:33:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yea it is it is a form of child abuse and cna cause lack of self esteem in years to come maybe you can get a middle man like a grandparent to sit in while you explain your feelings to your parents
2007-01-07 05:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by cmann70726 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes It actually Is If It's always happening. A lot of emotions comes from parents. Their good days could mean better treatment from them and kinder words. When they are having a bad day you can be affected the same way. The same goes not only for parents but for all people. When your friends are having a bad day they may have had some problems from somewhere else earlier. Parents basically have been through everything already so In a sense they expect you to already know but the problem is you haven't and more encouragement sounds like what you need to hear from them. Remember It takes more muscles to frown than to smile.....good luck sweetie!
2007-01-07 05:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by passion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not nesicerally, but it's possible. You have to think about this though, my father's a lawyer and all the time we hear about kids being put into fauster care because of abusive (emotional or physical) traits. If I were you (and if your not already), depending on how old you are, I'm assuming your in high school or something (??), so if you are in school see a school counsler. Just tell them that you would like to talk about your parents, and how to confront them. Dont tell them first off how you think your abused, or you could have the police at your door that day.
Hope all goes well, and email me if you need help!! (juliagulia592@hotmail.com)
Much love,
Julia
2007-01-07 05:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is emotional abuse. Anyone who says you are exaggerating is just kissing boots to their own abusive parents, because abused people think they should be graeful to be abused by their parents, instead of valued. That way they feel better about their parents being nasty petty idiots.
Insults are all emotional abuse. What else could they be?
2007-01-07 05:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by greybamby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know this and this is the truth. What we do not like in others, is what we truly do not like in ourselves.
It sounds as though your parents have their own self image issues to deal with and they are directing their own inequities upon you.
Sorry you are experiencing this for it can really hurt, but maybe in the big picture, you may be going through this in order to break the chain of events.
What I am saying is maybe this is what you parent/s went through with their parents. Now that you know better you will not allow your children to experience the same.
You will be uplifting and supportive of them ending the cycles of low self-esteem.
2007-01-07 05:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would hurt my feelings too if my parents told me that. I would tell them that they are suppose to encourage me and be positive and not degrading and embarrassing. It is rude to tell someone to shut up.
They are suppose to love you unconditionally. I hope you don't learn from what they do. You are worthy and to know you are not, is one smart child.
Here are some bible versus about Praying for Your Children: Raising a Child for God> http://ati.iblp.org/ati/family/articles/family/raisingachildforgod/
Have them read them.
Here is a good website about Parenting educating, keeping cool under anger, etc....http://www.loveourchildrenusa.org/parent_controlanger.php
Don't stop communicating with them even when you feel belittled by them. write a paper that could be titled "What I Expect From My Parents." I am sure you don't expect them to be perfect as none of us are. You should expect them to give you advice, even when you don't want it. Discipline is a must. Tell them the good things you admire about them, tell them that you really feel down and hurt when they call you stupid. Tell them you love them, and you appreciate all they do for you. Tell them it makes you sad and angry when you are called names by your own parents. You expect that of other kids, not grown up adults, especially your own parents. When you start communicating more, they should open up and listen to you more. Hugs to you. Don't give up on them.
2007-01-07 05:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's called verbal abuse. Everybody does dumb and stupid things, look at the other answers you got!! But yes, it is a form of abuse, and so are these other arrogant answers.
2007-01-07 05:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They just want you to see things their way which is always as you see it.
Figure when you hit 18 you can think what you want without listening to it anymore. I just kept quiet once I learned I was on an entirely different path than my folks, it save all kinds of argument and yelling time.
2007-01-07 05:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww.. thats not nice.. n all the people who have said to be tougher and stuff just dont know what its like probably cos their spoilt little cows!
it can be really hard especially if u dont feel like the most intelligent person or what ever.. anyway if they say that then you should just throw it back in their faces as its their genes that have made you that way! hehe :) maybe thats their way of trying to motivate you or something x
2007-01-07 05:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are supposed to nurture their children not put them down. I would spend the least amount of time with them as possible if they aren't willing to be decent parents.
2007-01-07 05:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋