Family & Relationships - 28 December 2006

My boyfriends son was just killed and I really dont know what to say to him to offer some comfort without obvoious bringing up the painful death of his son. Its only been a day since the passing and we really havent spoken much since he is making funeral arrangement, but the time will come where we will have alone time and I dont want to say the wrong thing like, "How are you doing?" that question sounds so stupid knowing good an well he is not doing well at all. I also dont want to just talk about other stuff pretending nothing happend, but I also dont want to talk about "it" and pour salt in to his wound. How do I approach him? What do I say?

2006-12-28 06:43:27 · 10 answers · asked by snoopdog79936 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

who do u turn to when the only one who can stop ur tears is the one who made u cry?

2006-12-28 06:43:02 · 14 answers · asked by pandabear 2 in Singles & Dating

These are some things he does...emails several times a day. Drives 100 miles to see me. Sleeps over and cuddles with me the entire night. Kisses me for a long time and at random times. Breaks plans with his friend to be with me instead. Hangs out with me in public, both before and after we get busy. Then he says he just wants to be Friends with Benefits. Do people usually do all this with their FWB??? Does it sound like there are feelings involved too?

2006-12-28 06:42:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you are cheated, abused, betrayed and blamed even you were innocent and you turned into never ending darkness. Now, if you have crystal-clear prove of his/her forgery which can put him/her behind bars, you still love him/her, will you complain to police, even if you are sure that it will mess his/her life totally.

2006-12-28 06:42:55 · 4 answers · asked by V 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband cheated on me multiple times while we were together & although we tried to work things out for a year he continued cheating on me regardless.

I left him & moved back home with family a year ago but we still aren't divorced. He kept telling me he would take care of it but he's never been one to keep his word. He went into the Navy shortly after I left him & he is now stationed in California. I have very little money right now because I had to leave my car behind when I moved & it's been hard getting a job with no transportation. I should also mention my husband wants me back & that's probably why he won't handle the divorce himself & I have a feeling he'll give me problems signing the papers if I come up with the money & file myself. He also has a girlfriend I should mention. Getting back with him is not an option. My question is, how would you recommend I go about getting a divorce? Should I contact his commanding officer and explain the situation? What should I do?

2006-12-28 06:42:15 · 18 answers · asked by Holly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

How do you keep mentally alert and physcially sound with long working hours over a number of years ?

Just curious but would be most appreciative if you are able to share your experience on avioding burn out.

Serious answers if you please.


Tried the following:

- Eight cups of strong Coffee or caffeine equivalent
- Eight cups of Water
- Five hours sleep daily except on Sundays
- Twelve hours sleep if work stretches over seventy two hours
- Vitamins: B 2 x 100mg; C 3 x 1000mg; Zinc 2 x 50mg
- Eye drops

The mind gets to a stage that seems to slow down accompanying tasks that take forever, with the side effects of not being able to sleep soundly as soon as the task is completed.

Suffice it to say, working hours may not be renegotiated with higher management. One would be kidding to say that it is not a dog eat dog environment.

2006-12-28 06:42:00 · 6 answers · asked by pax veritas 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-28 06:42:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What body language signs or cues does a man give off when he is attracted and or/ nervous?

2006-12-28 06:41:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just never had much luck with women. I am not a smooth talker, funny, rich, or great looking either. I am mentally stable, but not confident at all. I have tried all sorts of things, even went to a shrink with self esteem issues. I think the advice was something stupid like, don't worry, you'll find the right one. That's good advice for a high schooler, but not when you are 37.
I went to college. I work for a living, so its not that I am living in my parent's basement either. I exercise, but I am not buff.
I am not looking for a model. I have had girlfriends over the last few years who I managed to find through the personal ads. But, I never really liked them. My friends thought they were too fat or not attractive. [I hate saying that.] The ads are the dating avenue of last resort.
I dress well, but only had gays or grandmas or well below average girls approach me.
I talk to girls, but never get anywhere. I ask some out, but mostly get rejected, no matter how kindly

2006-12-28 06:40:47 · 9 answers · asked by JustTheD 2 in Singles & Dating

He never let's her stay overnight because he is ashamed to reveal his secret to here.

2006-12-28 06:40:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And how was the incounters?

2006-12-28 06:40:27 · 40 answers · asked by bigblkcoookie 2 in Singles & Dating

I am practicing an unwilling form of abstinence, and I am miserable. I remember the experience as though it was yesterday, her scent has stayed with me:

I was 16 and she 26, it was a fling. Afterwards I was filled with a confidence like never before. Sadly though I have not met anybody.

At first, I just wanted to get laid. But after awhile I just wanted some companionship. Its sad to think about it but I have never had a relationship in my life. The handfull of girls that I have "dated" (Literally 4) it has never gotten pass the courting phase.

I feel like that guy from the movie "the 40 yr old virgin". In fact I am that guy except that I am technically not a virgin; I sometimes refer to myself as a Born-Again virgin...lol.

I'm a nice guy, considerate, friendly, physically fit. I wouldn't say I'm shy, however I am reserved. I don't approach women.

God it has been so long that I stop thinking about it, but from time to time it hits me.

Should I just give up on love?

2006-12-28 06:40:18 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just out of curiosity, do ex bfs usually come back? what if you two were together for 3years... what are the chances that they will show up again?

2006-12-28 06:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by LT 1 in Singles & Dating

If your ex ask to come back did that take courage on his part?
My ex has asked me can we start over. He said that in the few months that we were not together he had to get some things together and now he has. He now talks to me everyday, he checks up on me, he asked could we go out to dinner and a movie, but made the date for two weeks out my thought was so I would not feel like we wanted to make a booty call. He is very attentive, and we talk for hours about nothing like we use to do. He has also answered any questions I had. I don’t know if it is the truth or not but I don’t have anything to say that’s it’s not, and he could have said lets not talk about it but he didn’t. So did him asking me out again take courage, and would a guy do all this just to get sex from someone who he knows is still in love with him that may play hard to get, but it would not take all that he is doing even though I am over joyed with that fact that he has made this turn around.

2006-12-28 06:39:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What should a girl do if the guy she likes is being hounded by another girl..should she give up?? or should he be game for as long as he stays single...

2006-12-28 06:39:03 · 10 answers · asked by red_klinik 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-28 06:38:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

An ugly guy who gives you what your heart desires, or a good looking guy, who's a drug addict and alcoholic? I'm just asking his cuz I have a real good gay friend, who's not that attractive. He's totally in love with this other guy, but that guy decided to date a good looking looser.

2006-12-28 06:38:28 · 9 answers · asked by blackbeetlewidow 4 in Singles & Dating

He told me he wants the ring back because he's still making payments on it. Well there is no way on God's green earth he's getting the ring, but I'd like to know anyway, what is proper etiquette in this situation?

2006-12-28 06:38:18 · 93 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

should i ask them all out to a dinner and ask them all there? do i make it a big deal or just casual?

2006-12-28 06:38:11 · 18 answers · asked by Starry Eyes 5 in Weddings

My ex has asked me can we start over. He said that in the few months that we were not together he had to get some things together and now he has. He now talks to me everyday, he checks up on me, he asked could we go out to dinner and a movie, but made the date for two weeks out my thought was so I would not feel like we wanted to make a booty call. He is very attentive, and we talk for hours about nothing like we use to do. He has also answered any questions I had. I don’t know if it is the truth or not but I don’t have anything to say that’s it’s not, and he could have said lets not talk about it but he didn’t. So did him asking me out again take courage, and would a guy do all this just to get sex from someone who he knows is still in love with him that may play hard to get, but it would not take all that he is doing even though I am over joyed with that fact that he has made this turn around.

2006-12-28 06:37:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok there is this guy i work with I like him but he has a girlfriend who is short, depressed, wears black alot and is an ugly person. Well i know he is interested in me because we flirt alot at work he has even asked me to some parties but his girlfriend hates me and is jelouse of me and said i couldn't go. She is always checking up on him when he is at work. He tells me he is afraid to leave her because they have a son together and he don't want to loose the child to her in court. If they didn't even have that child this man would be mine. So what do i do to get rid of depressed ugly chick and make this man the happiest man ever alive by being with me.

2006-12-28 06:37:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi I am 16 years old and yesterday I went to a party and ended up sleeping with my head on this boy that I really like. The only problem is I am a very shy person and worry that he will think I am stupid. Like before we all went to sleep he came and sat next to me but I got go shy that I just didn't know what to say so I just kept quiet. He must thing I am the most boring person in the world because I don't talk much because I am shy. I don't really know what to talk to him about or what to say when talking in a big group of people. I don't want to sound stupid. Please help me. Thankyou

2006-12-28 06:36:28 · 21 answers · asked by lilacmagic15 1 in Singles & Dating

I dreamt that i sucked my own **** (in the 1st person)
however I am straight and Iunching on tight *******

2006-12-28 06:36:26 · 11 answers · asked by frankyrulez 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are devorsied and my children I have six(6)Went with me the T.V show Cheaters got the proof.I also called Maury and he beat me up!When i was sleeping!Where is a good place to move in NewYork?Because I don't know what to do.

2006-12-28 06:36:07 · 8 answers · asked by Mrs.Edward Scissorhands 3 in Marriage & Divorce

k so theres this guy whos friends with my friend, and hes a jerk. he somehow found out that i had a boyfriend but he didnt know who it was. so he asked me who it was but i wouldnt tell him because its someone he really doesnt like so he would torture me and tease me. and now he keeps on asking me and asking me and calling me and asking my friends and stalking me about who it is. Help!!!

2006-12-28 06:35:41 · 4 answers · asked by Caroline H 2 in Singles & Dating

....and later on break up with that person......should you keep it or give it back?

2006-12-28 06:35:15 · 42 answers · asked by Shlooby 2 in Marriage & Divorce

The man I love as you know moves 450 miles away, well I tried so hard to move with him but I couldn't leave my daughter and she was in school here and I didn't feel it would be good to move her at this time. Well after his lease runs out, he is behind on his bills and he ends up moving in with some woman and so I told him I would move on well he trys to get closer to me now than before he calls everyday and tells me he loves me and even came to my town at Christmas to see me. He said she told him he had better tell me goodbye and I said well is that what you are telling me and he said no I came to see you and even brought me gifts. Well I didn't want to see him go so I didn't see him the day he left it was just so so hard because I still love him so much and he said that he loved me too. So what in the world is he doing he says he doesn't want to marry this lady so what is he doing! I know I should walk away but tell me what you think.

2006-12-28 06:34:11 · 12 answers · asked by BC 1 in Singles & Dating

a lot of you said kids were so great, then you say me ex has custody or my ex was this and that. So what your actually saying is that YES KIDS ARE A PAIN AND A LOT OF WORK. Maybe this is why you are no longer together???????????
Am i missing something??

2006-12-28 06:33:07 · 11 answers · asked by godzillasagoodman 2 in Marriage & Divorce

okay so my husband is a delivary driver for pizza! well the reason he got the job is because he knows how jealous i am of other s( i have a huge problem with chicks ) well his boss has hired 3 s...who i think he may like because he is always so HAPPY to go to work now. they are and skinny and real pretty and it makes me feel bad. well the other problem is i didnt know that he would be delivaring to the college so he is also ALWAYS at the dorm rooms and frat houses ect...well i called his job for him the other day and they said that he left for a run like an hour ago and hasnt returned.... which made me think " hes cheating on me" we have a rocky relsonship but i didnt think it was this bad. he says that he isnt cheating but i think hes lieing... i also think he may have given something to me because EVERY time that we have i break out into a really bad infection. i go to the doctors today .....do you guys think he is cheating on me? and what should i do?

2006-12-28 06:33:03 · 11 answers · asked by danielle 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My 11 year old daughter has a bad habit on puting her fingers in anything im cooking or eating to sample the dish.I cant stand it when people do that .What do you think?

2006-12-28 06:32:59 · 41 answers · asked by Ms.Pickle 3 in Other - Family & Relationships