If your ex ask to come back did that take courage on his part?
My ex has asked me can we start over. He said that in the few months that we were not together he had to get some things together and now he has. He now talks to me everyday, he checks up on me, he asked could we go out to dinner and a movie, but made the date for two weeks out my thought was so I would not feel like we wanted to make a booty call. He is very attentive, and we talk for hours about nothing like we use to do. He has also answered any questions I had. I don’t know if it is the truth or not but I don’t have anything to say that’s it’s not, and he could have said lets not talk about it but he didn’t. So did him asking me out again take courage, and would a guy do all this just to get sex from someone who he knows is still in love with him that may play hard to get, but it would not take all that he is doing even though I am over joyed with that fact that he has made this turn around.
2006-12-28 06:39:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was not cheating or at least I did not think so, but when he came home from war I wanted things to go back to the way they were, and he could not give me that so I left because of his actions at the time.
2006-12-28 06:50:46 · update #1
It seems like he has good intentions to me, but you can never be sure. You could try dating him again, get to know him more, but if he mentions sex or makes advances torwards you early when you just got back together, then that's a sign that he might not be as sincere as he acts.
Now, in my opinion, I don't think a man would go to all that trouble just to make a woman feel comfortable if he was just wanting sex, but you never know. I don't know him as well as you do so there's no way I could be sure.
You could give him a try and forgive him, then, if he goes back to his old ways, dump him. Just be wary of him until you know for sure that he truly has changed for the better.
I think it would take some courage for a man to truly change that much for someone, so it sounds like he really does care about you just to go to that much trouble to make it work and make you feel safe.
2006-12-28 06:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out on the date with him, but let it be known that you want to take things slow. It is a good possibility that he has changed for the better, but not all men do. It did take courage for him to ask you to come back to him. Not all guys would do that either. Most of them just think that they can do without you and you were never good enough anyways. Take your chance!
2006-12-28 14:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by DawnC36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really seem to say why you broke up. That's a little concerning. However, in general I would say it does take courage for anyone to do what your talking about.
I would try it on your terms if you really want to get back with the guy. Be mindful of the reasons you broke up and give the guy another chance if your willing. Trust your instincts.
2006-12-28 15:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say why you broke up in the first place.so I don't know how to answer this. But if you are "overjoyed" I guess it wouldn't hurt anything for one date as long as it isn't somewhere that would put you on an overnighter.Because you know that would just be a PLANNED booty call. Do not under any circumstances sleep with him for 5 dates. I think you already know this or you wouldn't be asking. I think you wanted affirmation! who wouldn't lol
2006-12-28 14:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he might just want to try it again with you but I'm not sure. I don't think a guy would go through all that just to get some "booty." call but then again I could be wrong. You have to do what you feel is right. Just becareful and don't do anything you don't want to do.
2006-12-28 14:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some courage, but keep an eye on him. Since he ended it before, he might be willing to end it again. Don't get hurt if it happens again, just enjoy the time you have together.
2006-12-28 14:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by cleanguy4cleanfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just take a step back , looks to me like u putting way to much thought into this, sometimes the best awswers in life are often the simplest ones that we can only see if we just take the time to look at things a little differently.
2006-12-28 14:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dynamiko 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's giving you the things you need in the relationship, and you feel confident that it won't stop once/if he gets you back, then I say why not! You should go for it. Maybe he's realized how important you are to him.
2006-12-28 14:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by FutureMrsMarsalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys go back to exes for sex all the time, but not ususally attentively. I didn't. But she made it easy. test the waters, there's a difference between guts and carnal needs.
2006-12-28 14:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by tridentoftime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say give him one more chance. He seems sincere and may realize what he has given up. If he screws up again, kick him to the curb and don't look back.
2006-12-28 14:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋