My ex has asked me can we start over. He said that in the few months that we were not together he had to get some things together and now he has. He now talks to me everyday, he checks up on me, he asked could we go out to dinner and a movie, but made the date for two weeks out my thought was so I would not feel like we wanted to make a booty call. He is very attentive, and we talk for hours about nothing like we use to do. He has also answered any questions I had. I don’t know if it is the truth or not but I don’t have anything to say that’s it’s not, and he could have said lets not talk about it but he didn’t. So did him asking me out again take courage, and would a guy do all this just to get sex from someone who he knows is still in love with him that may play hard to get, but it would not take all that he is doing even though I am over joyed with that fact that he has made this turn around.
2006-12-28 06:37:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was not cheating or at least I did not think so, but when he came home from war I wanted things to go back to the way they were, and he could not give me that so I left because of his actions at the time.
2006-12-28 06:49:33 · update #1
If you are still in love with him it looks like this separation made him realize what a good thing he had going and wants it back because he realizes he is still in love with you. If you feel the same for him than get back together and have a happy marriage. I don't know if it took courage to ask you to take him back , I think it took a lot of loving you that made him ask you to let him come back and start over again.
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2006-12-28 06:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This actually sounds pretty sincere to me. My brother went through this after a separating from his wife and then having a wake up call and a change of heart.
Take your time and follow your feelings.
BTW, my brother and his wife are back to the same old cat and dog fighting, so things might not be much different when you get back together...
2006-12-28 14:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unclear what the problem was. For your own protection, suggest counselling before you get back together and if you do go out to dinner with him or date, don't be a booty call.
2006-12-28 14:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courage is not the word I would choose. But it sounds like he really loves you and wants to work things out. If you feel there is something to work out by all means give him a chance.
2006-12-28 14:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. If it was all about sex he would have quickly moved on to someone who would just give it up. All men know of at least one chick who will.
Sounds to me he really wants to please you. Go out and don't have sex. Just enjoy eachother as long as possible without sex having anyting to do with it. If you feel really strongly about it and he really is in this just to love you then tell him you want to keep the sex out of it and start over with a clean slate. Let him woo you for as long as possible. If he really wants you in his life he will do this forever if you ask him too.
2006-12-28 14:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by K W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what caused the split up, if it was cheating, than all is not well in paradise, and he needs to come back to u, the other woman has dump ted him. if it is because of cheating, there needs to be alot more done than just a bit of talk and a few promises, as actions speak louder than words.
2006-12-28 14:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision is up to you but I would question his motives and really examine why you broke up in the first place before getting back together with him!
2006-12-28 14:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much what Rooster said--except for the "sorry place" part...--he wants a booty call and since you're there and he knows he can get back in (play on words intended), he's a-tryin'!
Smack him down, tell him "NO more", don't turn around now, he's not welcome anymore....
No man is worth your tears, kid.
2006-12-28 14:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a little snack from you is all, just until he finds someone to take your sorry place!
2006-12-28 14:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mystic's answer. Especially if it was an abusive relationship.
2006-12-28 14:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋