talking to boys?

Question

Hi I am 16 years old and yesterday I went to a party and ended up sleeping with my head on this boy that I really like. The only problem is I am a very shy person and worry that he will think I am stupid. Like before we all went to sleep he came and sat next to me but I got go shy that I just didn't know what to say so I just kept quiet. He must thing I am the most boring person in the world because I don't talk much because I am shy. I don't really know what to talk to him about or what to say when talking in a big group of people. I don't want to sound stupid. Please help me. Thankyou

he also asked me if I had msn and I said yes but I didn't want to sound stupid and say do you want it cos he might not want it. Or ask him for his.

Also nearly all the girls were flirting and dancing sexily with the boys but I just don't have the confidence to do that.

sorry for all the spelling mistakes I have fake nails on and its very hard to type. lol

but now I've ruined it cos I never gave it to him and I don't really talk to him. He probably thinks I don't like him now. Oh and maybe he was acting like that cos he was drunk what if he doesn't really like me.

Answer 1

Awww bless-you sound really sweet. I'm shy too and I personally don't ask guys out, not that its a bad thing-I just don't have the guts but it sounds like he likes you too. If I like a guy-I let him know-I don't mean be all over him on the dace floor, I think thats a bit too cheap-be sophisticated. I agree let him know you shy and just ask open questions, let him know you interested...

Answer 2

What kind of party did you go to where you all fell asleep? I guess I am a bit old fashioned, but that really isnt ok to do... As a parent there really is no way that boys and girls would be falling asleep near or with each other. But once again, i am a bit old fashioned.

But oh well, what is done is whats done. he wont think you are stupid- if he did he would have already told you. When you talk to him there are no scripts to follow, ust be yourself. talk about what you like to do, find out what he likes. If he leads the conversation in a direction that you are uncomfortable with, the politely excuse yourself. Being shy isnt a bad thing, but some use that to try and take advantage of others.

As far as anything else, as long as you mind yourself, and your surroundings, stay respectful and conversate about truly important things (which means what you BOTH like, not what he likes so you feel obligated to talk about it) then it should all work out just fine.

PS- side note if he didnt want your MSN Im address, he wouldnt have brought it up. Nothing is wrong with chatting!

Good luck hon!

Answer 3

You did everything right. You weren't chasing him around, or playing games, or talking about him with other people or anything stupid like that.

You weren't "boring"...you were "chill."

He came and sat next to you, asked about you, and asked how to get in touch with you on MSN. That all sounds pretty cool. He must want to communicate with you more, right?

Don't stress - you did everything right. This wasn't the time to be dancing all nasty with him anyway. He'll recognize you're not like that and he'll treat you with the respect you deserve. Just keep being yourself and he'll get to know the real you. Don't worry so much.

Answer 4

My advice to you would be to forget all about dating for a bit. Just concentrate on your school work and having a bit of fun at the weekends.

When you can spell, construct proper sentences, have a good command of English at your disposal and overcome the vain notion that long false nails are aesthetically pleasing to no one except your mates, AND you can learn to be comfortable with who you are and not try and create false impressions of yourself by using make up, false nails and the latest fashion trends, then try dating again. I think you'll be surprised to find the amount of really genuine guys you attract.

Because only genuine people will see you for what you are not what you want them to see. Which is much better for all concerned.

Answer 5

Start by asking him things like do you like who is your favorite... athlete, team, or even actor or actress, band and even singer. This question should get him to talking and opening up so that you should have some direction to go on. Then when you find something in common with each other you go ahead and ask him for his telephone number if he didnt ask for yours already. When you are in a big crowd tell everyone something amazing that happened to you or someone in the family or even another friend like an accomplishment or even something funny that happened to you and your friends so that they can laugh and start sharing their stories or even ask you questions and then you may want to ask them if that same thing ever happened to them or someone else they know. Good luck sweetie

Answer 6

im a shy person too but when im at like a school dance or something i dont care what other girls think cause i can freak dnace better than all of 'em anyways.
your situation isn't stupid, if he saw you having fun at the party then he probably is interested in you, especially if he asked you for your emial or iM.
if he asks you out then he probably wants to see the real you. guys have that power.

Answer 7

He likes you. Give him your MSN SN. That is a sign he wants to talk. He probably thinks you don't like him because you didnt give him your screen name. Don't worry about if you sound stupid. If he doesn't like you because he thinks you sound stupid just move on. I was in this position before only reversed. My girlfriend tells me to this day how dumb I was to not tell her sooner.

Answer 8

he does not fnk ur stupid. if he did he wouldnt sit next to u and he certainly wouldnt ask u if u had msn! he probly hoped u wud giv ur email add or ask 4 his wen he mentioned msn. sounds to me like he is also shy so u may hav 2 make sum moves yeh. gud luck.

Answer 9

the adult adult males there have been style of rude, for my section. If a woman expresses pastime in a sport, consistent with danger she IS a gamer (like myself) or consistent with danger that's an excellent gamble to hold her into an possibility that's spectacular of their minds besides. adult adult males tend to be larger followers of video games by using fact it somewhat is directed frequently in the direction of what... i do no longer understand what adult adult males have been raised to savour. it somewhat is turning out to be much less like that, those days, by using fact all of society has desperate to bypass the borders of the ordinary norm. My maximum suitable suggestion to open up communique could be to attempt a sport which you may savour and that they'd communicate approximately. i could say very final delusion, yet that sequence isn't as customary because it as quickly as replaced into. Skyrim and Oblivion are good video games too. sure, there is violence however the panorama is likewise suited and there is no hating a sport you could play half-hour of working around after stealing a horse from the 1st hotel you stop via. in case you could start up the communique, although, you could redirect it to something comparable, like a movie that has an identical subject or a e book you adult adult males study (people nevertheless study books, appropriate?). If that's no longer achievable, you will in basic terms could discover people who do no longer communicate approximately video games all of the time. additionally, exterior of the eyes of non-friends, adult adult males will continuously communicate approximately females. a minimum of, from my adventure

Answer 10

well when people ask you if you have msn, they probably want your screename. and if you want a good converstaion topic, start with what's up or you havin fun so far? just talk about somehting that you know won't embarass you and something you both can discuss. that awill give you an idea of what he wants to talk about.