should i ask them all out to a dinner and ask them all there? do i make it a big deal or just casual?
2006-12-28 06:38:11 · 18 answers · asked by Starry Eyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Both my sister and best friend made it casual. They just told me that they would like me to be part of their wedding and would I? No need to make a big deal out of it.
2006-12-28 06:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a big day for you..why not go all out and make them feel special to be a part of it too. I suggest writing each one a note asking them to stand by your side on this big day, telling them that their support is so special to you. If you don't have a lot of money to spend on a dinner just have all the girls over, crack open some champagne, enjoy some appetizers and have a girls night in. They will be putting a lot of time, effort and money into making your wedding day and all the events leading up to it special for you, so it's always nice to do something that makes them feel appreciated. Congrats!
*a nice little touch would be to write a little poem on the notecard
ie. I feel so lucky to have a friend like you. I need you to stand by me, when I say I do. etc....
2006-12-28 06:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by ridinghipshot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them out to dinner one by one and ask them. But you must be clear on what you need from them and their level of commitment. Google what each individual's role in weddings and streamline the roles to what you want and give them these roles and responsibilities in writing if they agree to be in the wedding. The Maid of Honor and the Best Man especially have a lot of responsibility and most people are ignorant to what their role is in weddings. They must understand that is more that just showing up dressed for the wedding but that they must be a great assistance to you by committing their time, emotional support and financial assistance for example with your Bridal Shower, Bachelor & Bachelorette Parties, and breakfast or brunch before the wedding.
2006-12-28 06:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by TKloves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really just ask them individually and in private, and then if all works out you can invite everyone out to dinner to discuss the wedding plans, etc. Being in the wedding party is a huge financial burden, especially the maid of honor who is expected to plan and pay for the bridal shower. So you really don't want to put your friends in an awkward or embarassing situation if they are unable or unwilling to be in your wedding.
2006-12-28 06:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I saw mine to show them the ring, I asked them. Very casual. They are my sister in laws and my sister, they were pretty sure they were in the wedding already.
2006-12-28 06:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. Attend the wedding?
B. Be in the wedding party? (bride's maids, groom's men, etc.)
If:
A. Send out invitations, before or after you tell them in person.
B. Ask them in person, see what their take is on that. If they like it, treat them to dinner or something.
Congrats!
2006-12-28 06:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mary W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Write them each a letter, to ask them. Then they will not feel like you've put them on the spot. Being a bridesmaid is expensive these days, and they may have to think about it and think about their finances.
2006-12-28 09:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't they know they're going to be in your wedding anyway? Who else would you have as your bridesmaids? I'd say ask them out at dinner and celebrate there.
2006-12-28 06:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
♥ ♥ just casual , what if they really cant afford to be in the wedding and are a bit embarrassed ♥ ♥
2006-12-28 06:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual and individually, this way in case someone can't be in it or doesn't have the money, you won't be putting them in a bad spot!!
2006-12-28 06:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋