I am practicing an unwilling form of abstinence, and I am miserable. I remember the experience as though it was yesterday, her scent has stayed with me:
I was 16 and she 26, it was a fling. Afterwards I was filled with a confidence like never before. Sadly though I have not met anybody.
At first, I just wanted to get laid. But after awhile I just wanted some companionship. Its sad to think about it but I have never had a relationship in my life. The handfull of girls that I have "dated" (Literally 4) it has never gotten pass the courting phase.
I feel like that guy from the movie "the 40 yr old virgin". In fact I am that guy except that I am technically not a virgin; I sometimes refer to myself as a Born-Again virgin...lol.
I'm a nice guy, considerate, friendly, physically fit. I wouldn't say I'm shy, however I am reserved. I don't approach women.
God it has been so long that I stop thinking about it, but from time to time it hits me.
Should I just give up on love?
2006-12-28 06:40:18 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh no, don't give up on love. that special someone may be in your life already, but you may not have noticed her yet. and its great to know that there are guys out there that arent just all about sex. Just hang in there and someone will make you happier than ever before....trust me I'm waiting for the same thing to happen.Take care and good luck sweety!!!!
2006-12-28 06:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by sweetchick21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you not to give up on love or lust.
So what, you're now 26. No big deal. I read some of the answers on here - most of them are lame.
And since you've had the fruits of an older woman - I can tell you - we're the best, more experienced and know how to do you the way you need it.
Good luck. If all else fails. I'm right here.
Hugs, B.
2006-12-28 09:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by FunBetty! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Millions of girls have been messed around by guys and really need a sensitive guy to show that not all guys are jerks... So go out and approach girls with a smile, don't act over interested but be nice and show people the kind hearted person you are and they will like you. Just get to know girls as friends in the beginning and the longer you know people - you might realise you've connected with someone.
2006-12-28 06:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not give up on love. Just dont let it run your life like some people. You are obviously ok with who you are and do not need to seek out sexual relationships just to make you happy. I have been abstinent for over 3 1/2 years. I, however was a dog for many years. I have had sex with many women. But the thing is that i wasnt ok with myself. I had to have outside help. Do some watching aound you. You will see different types of men, and what controls their life.
2006-12-28 06:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rick R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NEVER! If you've only been willing to ask 4 women out, how do you expect to find anyone? That isn't reserved it's being a hermit! Just start asking every woman you feel attracted to out. If one says no, ask another and so on. The more no's you get the faster you will get to a yes! Love isn't just going to fall in your lap, you have to participate and make yourself open to it. Have your friends set you up with someone. You are missing out on a life filled with love and companionship. So get out there and get going, get that confidence back! Best wishes to you.
2006-12-28 06:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not give up on love.... but you need to put your self out there. You are not going to meet anyone let alone have great sex again if you do not try and meet new people....go to events.... join a gym etc.... I think that most girls would love the fact that you have only been w/ one person. Guy's lists these days go on and on and on and that is NASTY. Remember to always be yourself and love will come your way!
2006-12-28 06:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by lizzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER THIS!:
Never give up on Love.
It's about time to settle down. You just got to find the right lady. I think you should treat this as a treasure hunt, you have to find this treasure, this piece of gold. So, get out there more -- go to social places and search for her. And don't give up! She's out there somewhere, probably waiting to be found.
Go get 'em, Tiger.
I hope you find love.
- mmmfilipino
2006-12-28 06:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by mmmfilipino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it was a bit gross reading: "I remember the experience as though it was yesterday, her scent has stayed with me,"
but, as i read further i feel for you.
i say there IS someone out there for you, but you do need to try more to put yourself out there and meet new people.
i don't know if you're religious, but try a social church group or something, you can meet new people, and there won't be so much pressure on you to impess the ladies or anything.
good luck, man.
2006-12-28 06:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on love i am sure that there plenty women that dig you; just don't loose your confidence, your still young 26 right it's not like your 40 or 50sh on line dating perhaps?
2006-12-28 06:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anny07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do no longer provide up on love - yet do no longer think of you could rigidity the cosmos to bend your way. you're no longer on top of problems with something, no human is. God is. seek for His will to your existence. If He thinks you go with for companionship, he will furnish it. video clips like 'The 40-12 months-previous Virgin" in basic terms attempt to falsely make people think of that no longer having intercourse (or lots of it) makes you much less of someone. God bless you, and that i do wish you detect companionship or love.
2016-10-19 02:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋