Family & Relationships - 21 December 2006

My wife is a corporate type and works, works, works. Our 10 year marriage was good for the first 7 years but the last 2 were difficult. I was angry at her for working so much, leaving me the majority of care of our three kids but also, and more important, I missed her company. I started hanging out with the guys at the race track. We never got into financial problems and continued saving but my wife got angry and 9 months ago moved out because of it. I have since reformed. HOWEVER, turns out BEFORE she moved she met a guy who told her that I was a bum and that she should leave me and she was seeing him until three weeks ago. We have had some family and school activities that forced us to spend time together. She wants to get back together, start marriage counseling with the goal for her to move back in february (assuming the counseling works). We both love each other, we are both good parents. Is it too late? Should we forget it? I think so but would hate to act because of anger.

2006-12-21 02:34:45 · 24 answers · asked by Chestnut T 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi guys i wanted to share something
We went to the Cheesecake Factory and ate for $60.00 when the bill came i decided that i would tip the waiter a 100 bucks and i did because i was feeling happy and giving Anyway i dont make that much money and this was my annual christmas - do something nice for someone thing So then i was driving home and i noticed something lying on the street and it turned out to be a wallet I drove past it because i was like im not picking it up its none of my business Anyway then something in me told me to turn around and go back i dont know what it was So i turned around drove back and picked it up and drove off When i pulled into my neighborhood street i turned on my cabin light and looked at it. It was a EMPTY COACH WALLET the only thing it had in it was a picture of a mexican kid labeled 2006 i looked online and its worth $218.00 it has no damage to it and looks brand new and IS REAL COACH and no car ran over it so im keeping it
THANK YOU GOD! :)

2006-12-21 02:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by skibunny 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-21 02:34:16 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ive been thankin lately...... if she wants to play with it i might as well let her even though shes married......... am i wrong for this even though she is tha one startin it all.

2006-12-21 02:33:40 · 7 answers · asked by cbakakale@sbcglobal.net 2 in Singles & Dating

I told someone that I love them before, but they thought I was just saying it. How do I say it in a way that they know I mean it?

2006-12-21 02:33:34 · 5 answers · asked by red92fh 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-21 02:33:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This guy i know is a virgin but he just say the wildest things that gets me hot! We always have phone sex and its better than real sex sometimes! Why is he like this?

2006-12-21 02:32:43 · 10 answers · asked by detroit princess 1 in Singles & Dating

hes 40-45ish im 23, im really attracted to him. is this too much of an age difference?

2006-12-21 02:32:05 · 18 answers · asked by i_like_bears 4 in Singles & Dating

I'm 24 and my wife and I have 3 kids. a 6 year old that was hers before me and twin baby girls that are 4 months old. I was a touring musician but i now work for A Engineering firm and i am taking a masters course so i have been busy trying to give her all she needs. she said she fell out of love and she doesent know why. how do i get over her without going crazy.. I feel as if i have nothing to live for even though everything in my life is going good besides my marrage. We tried counciling but she doesent know why i get on her nerves. I was willing to look past her always yelling and screaming. Her mom has been married 6 times so i should of known that she was going to bail. she desided yesterday at counciling that she was done and i am done waiting by her side to see if she wants me. the wort part is she says im a good guy and i work hard, she thinks we dont vibe well but i do and i wanted to. I know she is not cheating. I just need some advice on how to get over her. -AMV

2006-12-21 02:31:54 · 30 answers · asked by anthony v 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I had a baby with the worst greatest loser who in turn refuses to pick up his daughter on the wknds doesn't pay child support! my parents left the state I'm all alone. My bro and sis are so different than me we don't even speak anymore. my ex's family are the worlds worst people I have ever met in my life! I've been kicked out of every apt and lost so many jobs B/C I'm alone w/my daughter so times get hard for me when I can't find someone to pick up or take care of my daughter when school is out and my boss would get upset and let me go, having to start all over again some place else. And all of my friends are in relationships and getting married meanwhile I'm alone at home cause I have no one to take care of my daughter so I can have a drink and I can't I don't mind being at home with her but sometimes I need to go out and unload..meanwhile I just found out my ex is getting married the man who treats his kids like garbage and he deserves happiness how is that? unfair!! (crying)

2006-12-21 02:31:54 · 11 answers · asked by Wendy 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

HE ONLY KNOWS I LIKE HIM, AND HE'LL ASK EVERY SINGLE GUY I TALK TO IF THEY LIKE ME, AND ALSO, HE ASKS ME WHO I LIKE EVERYDAY!!! BUT WHY?

2006-12-21 02:30:52 · 13 answers · asked by Bob the Cat.™ 4 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and i have been together for about four months. We met on myspace and when we offically met we hit it off. That was about 6 months ago. I was still in contact with my ex for the first few months cuz of his depression, or so i thought he had. So my bf started talking to his ex to spite me because i wouldnt stop "talking to" my ex. Thats all we did was talk. As he started talking more and more to her he realized she had real problems and he didnt want to leave her alone. Never told me he was seeing her. She doesnt have very many friends and this i know as a fact. He didnt come to me and tell me she was in trouble instead he started meeting up with her behind my back. I only found out because his ex gf and my ex bf started talking. My ex found a very suspicious e-mail. Saying he loved her and he was free when ever she needed him. After i had already asked him not see her. He told me ok. After i read the email him and i broke up.

We got back together a month ago. One of the stipulations was that he had to stay friends with her. He says he loves her as a friend nothing more. That she needs him whihc i can see that. But they see each other more then him and i see each other. He told me he loves me and i love him very much. But i scared that he is hiding something i cant help feeling scared that he wants her back.

I have flat out asked him and he says i am worrying to much. He lives and hour away and i have no car so seeing him more right now isnt an option. He comes up when he can but sometime it feels like he is avoiding me. Or doesnt want to talk to me. All i want is for us to be happy. I really am trying to be supportive but its so hard. She has a bf but isnt completely happy with him. He says he doesnt want to rub in my face that they talk so he doesnt tell me stuff.

She doesnt like me which is understandable and tells him this. He says when she talks about me he says its none of her business. So i guess hes sticking up for me. But i dont know if he is telling me what i want to hear or not.

My question is am i too paranoid or does he sound like he is cheating?

Thank you,
Rachel

2006-12-21 02:30:17 · 10 answers · asked by Rachel S 1 in Singles & Dating

This is for me and my BFs one year anniversary, I dont have a whole lot of money. I want to do something unique, and special.

2006-12-21 02:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by Wild Gravity 1 in Singles & Dating

Separated 3 months. Nothing is changing. No issues resolved. Still seeing each other and getting along. Still doesn't look were getting any closer to reconciliation and living together again. How long should we wait until deciding to keep going like this or give it up? One major problem is, we are still in love.
(she struggles with self esteen and depression & will not seek help with it)

2006-12-21 02:29:50 · 9 answers · asked by Wondrin Dude 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay everyone. Everyone knows that if you have a boy/girlfriend or a husband/wife and you have sex with someone else, that is considered cheating. But, in today's world, there are so many steps we all go through when it comes to relationships. So, my question is, where is your 'cheating line'?

For example, if someone is going through the steps of divorce and they have sex with someone else, is this considered cheating? if someone is taking 'a break' from a relationship, would you call this cheating? If someone kisses another person, is this cheating?

Where do you draw the line?

2006-12-21 02:29:04 · 28 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Singles & Dating

Hi,
I have a question.
Ever since my gf and I broke up there was a guy who my ex thinks he's being friendly.

But tell me what do you think. The did the following.

1. He sends text messages to my ex telling her to keep warm. Asking her how she's doing.
2. He calls her to ask her to go to the movie alone.
3. And kept on calling her

I told my ex that he's after her. She says that he thinks her as a friend. So what do you think ? My ex says that he's a nice friend. Is there such guy friend like that ? Thanks

2006-12-21 02:28:14 · 17 answers · asked by Lomus 2 in Singles & Dating

I was in a FWB relationship with a 35 year old divorced mother of 3. She told me many things during the course of the relationship, how awful her ex was, how ill her kids were, how she was bipolar, she was sleeping with another man who has a girlfriend. She used to tell me about other guys she used to have sex with in order to make me jealous but never told the other guys about me.

In a fit of jealousy I told her unavailable man she was sleeping around. A lot of people at work have said its good I don't see her any more as she is very controlling and flirty and loud with everyone. I do miss her have tried contacting her but she has reported me for harrassment. Is this mind games? Any advice on what to do?

2006-12-21 02:27:24 · 10 answers · asked by sdgsg d 1 in Singles & Dating

These pictures show his friend having sex with these women. Should I confront him? Keep in mind that my husband has a history of looking at porno in which I do not approve.

2006-12-21 02:26:53 · 30 answers · asked by Monique 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just got engaged and am very happy .The very odd twist is that i used to be engaged to my fiances brother and i met my fiance while coming home with his brother as his fiance two years ago.I broke up with his brother during a fight christmas day because after three years of being engaged on and off he was still married to his job!My fiance and i have kept this relationship on the down low and only just got engaged this September.His parents and sister kind of already know but his brother does not.My fiance wants too anounce it to everyone at once during the holiday but i am terrified that things will get akward very fast his family is not big on me.

2006-12-21 02:26:35 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica W 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-21 02:25:41 · 10 answers · asked by Mark C 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend with benefits is confusing me. We date other people and live about 3 hrs. apart. Three months ago, he said that he wanted to see me. I told him I was busy, but would try to see him before I left the state for Christmas. As the time approached, he would send me text messages stating "he was tired of fighting his feelings for me" and "I hope that I can see you". I had decided not to see him, because we were telling each other that it was too far to come for only a few hours. So With 36 hrs, before I had to leave, I sent him a text saying that I wasn't coming. He sent me a mean text message saying "stay out of my life, that I'm just like his ex and he doesn't want to see me." Long story short, I drove to see him and we "spent time together". I returned home ten hours later. He called me and told me that he wanted to marry his girlfriend, and I was supportive, but told him the truth. He loves the girl but I think his relationship lacks passion. Now he's mad saying I'm jealous.

2006-12-21 02:24:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been going out with my boyfriend 13 months now and I do trust him completley, BUT this girl kept trying to cause trouble, this girl being is supposed friend, which they have known each other a long time. When I met her I did like her but then she started saying things to drive a wedge between me and my boyfriend like saying how his Mum said I'm not right for him (which was a lie) and asking him to move in with her, well the long and short of it is I wanted to see him last night and he said he was just going to go straight home, so I said that's fine, then he said he was going to see a band with this girl, which really upset me because it's like she's horrible to me and if the shoe was on the other foot he wouldn't want me to go, so I said well you go I'm not going to stop you, I don't like it but I can't stop you, and I've NEVER tried to stop him having friends. Anyway he emailed this girl and said because of the reasons above I didn't want him to see this band with her, so he

2006-12-21 02:24:13 · 1 answers · asked by xx_lush_xx 3 in Singles & Dating

I have absolutely no idea what to get my fiance. I love her to death and we have been together for over two years and are getting married in six months, but what do I get her? It seems I've already bought her everything she needs and everything else seems thoughtless. Normally I start looking months in advance for things like this, but because I've been between carreers, working two jobs and finishing my schooling, it's been incredibly difficult to find time and when I have it, I spend it with her.

Any and all suggestions would be appreciated.

2006-12-21 02:23:29 · 3 answers · asked by uncletoon2005 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Well sorry if the below is a bit long one.I am a 27 Year old Hindu / Brahmin software engineer born and spent my student life in a small city in India..Very cultured and educated guy.I work for an investment bank in Singapore..I have seen quite a bit of Big cities/and western culture..since my professional life.I never loved any woman nor even got attaracted to.I am not a kinda BF/GF concept guy.I believe in strong permanent relationship.Recently accidentally i met some one at breakfast place , she is a Christian 30 year old beautiful lady works as a business development manager.I and she both go to the same place for breakfast and used to see each other..We after sometime started smiling at
each other.Finally one day i talked to her as well....she seemed pretty intrested in me...the way she looked at me...the qustions she asked...I have asked myself the below questions..to really clarify if mine is a Love/ attraction-infatuation which ppl say young guys..get confused with...

2006-12-21 02:22:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anand Kulkarni 1 in Singles & Dating

that I didn't attend or respond to. (I know, very rude!) However, they are friends of my sister, and I barely know them. Then, I ran into them at a Christmas Open House. I apoligized for not having responded, and that I was so happy for them, They don't need a present from me, and I didn't attend, but is there anything I can now do, or since I have already spoken with them, just forget the whole thing, and go on with my life???

2006-12-21 02:21:51 · 21 answers · asked by Momma Jo 6 in Weddings

Yesterday the boy I liked was really flirting with me. Before I had given him a note and he lost it, but he was seriously interested in what it said. So yesterday I tried to tell him, but got interupted, he said he would be here today, but so far I haven't seen him. I really like him and I can tell he likes me. Since he didn't show up does that mean he doesn't?? I really have feelings for him, and I thought he had feelings for me. So does he?

2006-12-21 02:20:56 · 13 answers · asked by Daniela15 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-21 02:20:38 · 14 answers · asked by viraj k 1 in Friends

Does any 1 thing that its wrong to talk to another male or female about things that you should talk to your spouse about.Even if the other poeple is a in-law family member?Even if things that you talk about is about how sex is in the bedroom.

2006-12-21 02:20:14 · 17 answers · asked by m.green1973 1 in Family

Post plz

2006-12-21 02:19:56 · 6 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Singles & Dating

I know that you guys have a real good relationship with your second head down south, but i see so many guys doing this i honestly think that you dont realise you're doing this.....so what is it?....is it a comfort thing or what?....

2006-12-21 02:19:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating