My friend with benefits is confusing me. We date other people and live about 3 hrs. apart. Three months ago, he said that he wanted to see me. I told him I was busy, but would try to see him before I left the state for Christmas. As the time approached, he would send me text messages stating "he was tired of fighting his feelings for me" and "I hope that I can see you". I had decided not to see him, because we were telling each other that it was too far to come for only a few hours. So With 36 hrs, before I had to leave, I sent him a text saying that I wasn't coming. He sent me a mean text message saying "stay out of my life, that I'm just like his ex and he doesn't want to see me." Long story short, I drove to see him and we "spent time together". I returned home ten hours later. He called me and told me that he wanted to marry his girlfriend, and I was supportive, but told him the truth. He loves the girl but I think his relationship lacks passion. Now he's mad saying I'm jealous.
2006-12-21 02:24:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His relationship has to lack something as he wants you to drive 3 hrs to see him for only a few hours. he needs to rethink about marrying her. you told him the truth and he can't handle the truth.
Mom of B & D
2006-12-21 02:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of B & D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he doing poking you if he has a girlfriend. And he wants to marry her? He soulds like a real winner. Why are you letting him use you like this. You obvioulsy have feeling for him or you wouldn't even be asking this question. If you didn't have feelings you wouldn't care if he thought you were jealous or not. I think you might should leave this one alone and let his girlfriend find out on her own what a looser he is. Good Luck!
2006-12-21 02:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't seriously love his girlfriend. I think he may not even have a girlfriend sounds like he is head over heels for you, and he is trying to make you feel jealous by telling you this, and he may even be trying to convince you that you are acctually jealous, and reguardless no matter what you say to some extent you are, sex = emotions, you can't have meaning less or feeling less sex. hes playing a game, and your the game piece! Good LUck!
2006-12-21 02:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by *STAR* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both seem confused. You gave him a "pity lay" (never do that again) and then he decided he wanted to marry his girlf. Seems to be YOU should be staying away from HIM as he clearly has no freakin clue what he wants.
You are better off without him.
I think he feels sad to realize you can go on without him.
2006-12-21 02:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is stay out of it he seems a little messed up when it comes to relationships. Be supportive but don't force him in to thinking your opinion..he has to make his own decisions.
2006-12-21 02:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think neither one of you are ready for commitments. I think it would be a good idea to stay out of each others lives.
2006-12-21 02:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man wanted you but you were being 2 difficult. then you say you dont want to see him and then you do. yeah i understand excactly why he says your jealous you cant be that way but now its 2 late to no what really could've been
2006-12-21 02:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Pr!nc3$$ 3nvy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u serious? are there no guys within a 15 minute drive?
2006-12-21 02:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is an insane guy
who is playing with everyone`s feelings.
who doesnt even know how
he feels.
2006-12-21 02:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by lilbr0wnsuga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much could he really love his girlfriend if he is sleeping with you also?
2006-12-21 02:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋