Okay everyone. Everyone knows that if you have a boy/girlfriend or a husband/wife and you have sex with someone else, that is considered cheating. But, in today's world, there are so many steps we all go through when it comes to relationships. So, my question is, where is your 'cheating line'?
For example, if someone is going through the steps of divorce and they have sex with someone else, is this considered cheating? if someone is taking 'a break' from a relationship, would you call this cheating? If someone kisses another person, is this cheating?
Where do you draw the line?
2006-12-21 02:29:04 · 28 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any intimate activity with another person is what I would call cheating.
2006-12-21 02:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Playa Hata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting divorced and live apart I see no reason not to date or have sex. If the relationship is mutual that you can see or date others, then I see no problem there either. A kiss can be construed differently to many people. A friendly kiss on the forehead or lips by a friend is ok even when you in a serious relationship. No lip locks or tongue swallowing though. A friend would not do this if it was nothing more than friendly kiss anyway. Like a kiss and hug from someone you haven't seen in a long time or like a kiss you get from grandma at Christmas is what I mean by friendly. If someone sees a friend after a long time and they lock lips for more than 3 seconds, I would wonder what else is going on.
2006-12-21 02:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind, before I go on answering the questions, that individuals definitions vary. Some people consider hand-holding cheating, while others don't consider oral sex to be cheating.
If someone is currently married but separated and going through the process of divorce, she/he is free to do what they want. But if they are sharing a home, then this becomes a matter of courtesy to not do it at the home but to go elsewhere. If someone is taking "a break" from a relationship, and this has been agreed upon by the two parties that they are free to see other people then it's not cheating. Otherwise if someone wants to take a break and sleep with other people and go back to their first boy/girlfriend, then someone is just stupid and being used by the cheater. Also, as I said before, it depends on what the other party considers cheating, some guys (it may be surprising) don't mind their girls kissing other guys and vice versa. On the other hand some girls don't even want their boyfriends to even be alone with other eligible women and vice versa.
2006-12-21 02:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone on the verge of a divorce or taking a break from a relationship has sexual relationships with another person, this IS considered cheating- as long as the person's current girlfriend /boyfriend /husband /wife does not know..Cheating is the act of deceiving others and this defines where to draw a line..When others do not know of your current act of another relationship, it IS cheating..
2006-12-21 02:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by LiFe_pHilosophY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going through a divorce and you know that it's going to be finalized and no turning back...have fun!!
If you are taking a "break" in a relationship and you sleep with someone else, that's cheating. There is a reason for a "break", and it's not to sleep around!
If someone is kissing, yes that is cheating, that is if it's a passionate kiss, if its just a peck on the cheek then your ok, so long as it doesnt go any further, but if you want to be kissed, go to your spouce or significant other for the kiss. If you want to be kissed my someone else or several people then you should be single, and enjoy the single life, dont committ yourself to anyone other than you!
2006-12-21 02:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going through divorce? Nah.. sorry but the line has already been drawn there..
Going on a "Break"? Depending on weather you broke up and might get back together OR "need some time apart" (which would mean you just need to think) it could be cheating
Kissing someone else while in a relationship? oh hell yes that cheating if the intent was romantic.
2006-12-21 02:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your intentions during your agreed break asuming you both agreed to taking a break
Just make it clear it's only to think about the relationship but even if it's not it should be known a break is only temporary and you will get back together
and if it's not then you are breaking up so it is not cheating
so if anything should happen during that time i believe it is because you were with them still although not physically
i think you should just break it off that happens though
and if it's a divorce and the steps are taken it's done with do whatever you want...
2006-12-21 03:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really isn't a "general" answer to this...everyone is different. these are my opinions only....
goin through divorce, no. you are doin just that..divorcing. the only time i would think it would be cheating is if you both decide you want to reconcile but still have sex with someone else..that i would think is cheating.
if you are taking a "break" i think it would depend on how long and serious the relationship is...the longer and more serious it is...i would think yes it would be...unless you both already agreed to see others and just see what's out there...otherwise a "break" is simply that...a break and time to think..not go out and have sex with others...lol
if you are in a relationship and kiss someone else...yes that is. if you are just dating and both understand you are seeing others at the same time...no its not.
you draw the line to having any "intimate" or "emotional" contact with anyone once both of you have discussed your relationship and what your "status" is...are you dating others or only each other? are you serious about each other or just casual? once you both have the mutual understanding of your relationship, that's where you draw the line.
2006-12-21 02:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe its the thought --- if someone thinks of someone else more than their partner then thats cheating --- i know there are lots of variations but its intent that counts not the deed
and what the heck is a "break" --- you want to be with your partner or not --- work out any problems dont just walk away and say "im on a break" and then cheat
ive been there (cheating that is) and now i have made the decision that this is something im not doing any more --- and its easy not to desire another lady
2006-12-21 02:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, when you plan on doing anything of a sexual nature that you would hide from your significant other, its cheating. If you have to hide it, then it must be in violation of what you as a couple agree on. Some women don't want their guys to go to a strip club. If he agrees not to then does behind his woman's back, then there you go. Ofcourse, there are varying degrees of severity when cheating, like how some people may find a kiss more forgivable than sex, either way, doing anything that you as a couple have agreed not to crosses a line.
2006-12-21 02:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhhhhhh. if my husband was to kiss another woman thats cheating andd I would knock his head off. serious flirting is cheating to me. If yoy love somebody u will have no interest in anybody else. and thats it. even if your in the middle of a divorce i still dont think its right. Cant you have enough respect for your partner to wait until the divorce is final. If not than you were probably having sex with others before the marriage was over.
2006-12-21 02:35:29 · answer #11 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋