These pictures show his friend having sex with these women. Should I confront him? Keep in mind that my husband has a history of looking at porno in which I do not approve.
2006-12-21 02:26:53 · 30 answers · asked by Monique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes you should let him know that you are not happy about it and should have more repect for you and ask his friends to not send him stuff like that!
2006-12-21 02:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-24 15:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had a blackberry, so I honestly do not know how they work. However, I will say this, your man should not be saving pictures of other women in his phone. I would start to question as well because that is just ODD to be saving a picture of some random girl. You might want to look into it just to make sure he's not fooling around behind your back. Check the phone records.
2016-05-23 05:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men look at naked women every chance they get - it's just a simple fact of life and any woman who cannot understand and accept that fact is in for a long, rough ride through life.
Your husband will look at naked pictures, whether you "approve" or not, and whether you know he does it or not. You can't babysit him every minute of every day.
Why not try leaving him alone about it and let him be a man, and do what a man does? As long as he's not having sex with another woman, what do you care? You can't expect anyone to believe you don't enjoy looking at handsome men other than your husband!! NO ONE goes through life with blinders on.
2006-12-21 02:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi, I feel for you, and signed up to yahoo answers just to answer your post. I am a single straight guy who is by no means atall prudish, and I believe in sexual sanctity in a loving relationship, that is to say a 100% commitment which means not even a single sexual thought involving anyone else but your partner. This is relevant because firstly there seems to be a difference in perspective between the two of you regarding the porn issue. I am not against porn for single people, or if it is agreed within a relationship (although for me there is no higher sexual state than an absolutely 100% exclusive dedication between partners).
Some people in their answers have said you should be happy that he is not doing anything for real with other people, but for me the thought is the same as the act. Who's to say that, let's say for argument's sake, in the split second of those fantasies about other people if it were possible for them to be reality that the partner would not chose them? In this case it's definitely a case of 'It's the thought that counts'.
When I am with a woman (I have been in several long term relationships), from the very first moment we are together I don't even think about any other woman for even a split second, no attractive woman walking down the street, nor any woman in the movies or on tv. I exercise sexual control, and this in turn is my intimate gift to the woman I am with, and I expect the same from her. She is my sole inspiration. If I am not in a relationship and just seeing a woman on a more casual basis, then this is not the case (and I make it clear to the woman that we have a casual thing happening).
So, already it seems that the two of you are out of sync on this front, and that there are also trust issues (indicative of looking on his phone, which is perfectly understandable in my book - if you can't know everything about your husband/wife, then what's the point of being married, if not to be as close as can be with someone?). Marriage is about sharing your life with someone in the most intimate of ways, so why the need for secrets? That's not to say that over time a state of constantly looking on phone etc. is a good thing, just that it is understandable and should be taken as a sign, indicative of levels of trust being low and that something needs to be resolved.
My advice as regards your board exams, is to put all of this to the back of your mind until they are over as this whole thing about the nude pictures is just a symptom of other issues, which will take some time to sort out in any case. Communication and honesty are the key to a healthy relationship and true love (yes, despite a few heartbreaks I am still a believer!). After your board exams then first have a think about your feelings about the situation, your feelings about porn, level of trust etc., and then speak to him about how you feel. If he is not willing to talk about these things and effectively disregards how you feel then he may not be worth it, although hopefully this won't be the case! And if you have kids then obviously this situation isn't a make it or break it one, but on the other hand you must be happy in life and of course love, as life and love are so amazingly precious.
Good luck with your boards! Hope things work out for you! :)
2006-12-21 23:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Soulhealer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Atleast he's looking at pictures of his friend w/these women instead of him going out looking for it. Maybe his friend sends these w/o his consent and even if it is w/consent curiousity kills the cat. They are just pictures..no biggie. My husband and his friends send nude pics of girls that are models back and forth..whats worse...a model or a girl his friend is sleeping w/. I dont want to be compared to no model..lol Hes already watching porn and thats an action flick...lmao No be too overbearing..let them play and be men or they may just start to stray.
2006-12-21 03:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If it bothers you, tell him you don't like it and ask if he would stop. He can only agree or disagree with you. At least then you will know where you stand in his life. Which it kind of sounds like you do anyway.
Maybe if you posted or had others post the pictures his friend sent him on the internet, it would teach him a lesson as well.
2006-12-21 03:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Guess What 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. Say what you have to say and then drop it. What's done at this point is done. Nagging him is pointless. Your husband seems a bit immature, but it's probably not a HUGE deal. Just try to be the center of his sex life. So maybe he won't be looking and wandering about things he cannot have.
2006-12-21 02:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does he know you have seen them? Ask him why he would want to see a picture of his friends hairy ***. That should shame him into telling his buddy to stop.
Anonymous naked women is one thing but seeing my buddy's Johnson in a nude picture photo with a woman would bring a very violet bout of vomiting on for me.
2006-12-21 03:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband can't control what a friend sends him. Unless of course the picture came with the message "here are the pictures you asked for". Guys do stupid things. Chalk this up to your husband's friend being immature and stupid.
2006-12-21 02:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not sure actually
Sometimes it is better for them to have porno than to go out looking for it in person....... might want to think about why he has the need for porno with you there......
That might answer the whole 'porno' question entirely.....
2006-12-21 02:31:19 · answer #11 · answered by wolf560 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋