To clarify further, I got married at 19, have never really lived on my own before. We have two kids, now 21 and 24, both living on their own. He wasn't always like this, we've had good times and bad times. I have just realized that even the good times were not nearly as good as they should be.
Health issues: 2 herniated discs lower back from car accident '01. Sjogren's Syndrome since '03. OA since '77. Fibromyalgia. Hypothyroidism. A few lesser things. Unable to work, denied SSDI once. On the positive side, I have been losing weight since Aug; joined a gym, trying to regain what health I can. Not sure he's even noticed the 38 lbs yet.
As to proving myself, I have been, for almost a year now. I don't let anyone walk all over me anymore. But, it's been hard, getting everyone to see that I am a different person now. Words mean little, actions say more. I let him, his mom, and then our kids, walk all over me. Now I don't. Counseling is too expensive, now; he won't go.
Thanks all.
2006-12-14
10:18:55
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Marriage & Divorce