2006-12-14 10:24:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honey, they dont care how much you make... and always think they give you too much money either way. to some guys, money is their God.
it doesnt matter who wanted the split, that just a nasty dig from someone who is pass'n judgment.
alimony is usually set by a time period, such as 1 year, 3 years, etc (not if or until you've found a job), unless its in the court order/divorce degree. it is there because we put our lives/college/careers on hold during the marriage for our families. it is to give us time to educate and reestablish ourselves and careers.
but every state is different. the honor system doesnt work, so contact your local legal aid office. they are in every state and most counties. look in the phone book or call your county court clerks office and ask for it. they go by sliding scale, so its free to most.
keep it mind too, that child support is just that, support... not "child trust fund" as some ex's would like to think.
here are some links that may help; just click on your state, and find the child support section.
the last three are to help you....
2006-12-14 16:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is fair. People should not be made to pay for their ex's living if they are not together anymore. A responsibility to the children is appropriate, but if an agreement to no longer be together is made it is each adult's responsibility to make their own ends meet. People who pay alamony should have just stayed together if they have to pay for the ex to live comfortably and pay for the kids too.
2006-12-14 18:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's totally fair that he doesn't pay you alimony. Child support is certainly understandable, he does have a financial obligation to THEM, but to you, he owes you nothing. A divorce requires TWO signatures, you consented to the divorce, therefore you consented to a change in lifestyle. He should not have to pay for the fact that you did not wisely use your time while with him...(such as obtaining a college degree). Now it's up to you to determine your own future, not depend on your past to do it for you.
2006-12-14 19:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that in a divorce, the husband (or wife) should only have to pay for child support if their estranged spouse is working. I also think that if the wife/husband aren't' working, they should only pay alimony until the other party finds a job.
You can always find a better paying job.
2006-12-14 18:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That all depends on the laws of the jurisdiction you live in. Consult with your lawyer. Have all the information, preferably things in writing, as proof of your situation.
2006-12-14 18:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mary W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fair and Justice and The Law are often not related...
2006-12-14 19:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's fair?
What you did not include was, who's idea was the split?
If it was yours too bad.
There is something sinister about the concept of spousal support. If you don't want me why should I support you?
2006-12-14 19:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
doesn't matter how much you make, you have a job, its not his responsibility to take care of you because you don't want to look for a better job, its his responsibility to take care of his kids, not some grownups
2006-12-14 18:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋